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Nahemah -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/17/2006 6:19:43 AM)

Yes, michael, very good topic.

Recently, I have been discussing the different dynamics and applications of a "Mommy" Domme mindset with a boy who is very dear to Me. What he and I have come up with is this:

1) I have children of My own, and to have to change diapers would be out of the question.

2) I do, however find the idea of shoving a pacifier in his mouth when he is being a whine baby or crying for attention ideal.

3) I would love to kiss away his "boo-boos" when he gets hurt, taking care of him as I would My own children.

4) Breastfeeding is extremely erotic for both of us. The image of laying in bed with him and have him suckling at My breast....

Now, with those things said, I realise that some of the other Dommes that have posted here have stated that they feel the "Mommy Domme" idea is more of a relationship structure than temporary play. I think it could be either way. Age play and being a Mommy to My boy, in its most perfect application for Me, would be scene by scene and temporary. Not something I would want to engage in on a daily basis, or even monthly. But for a nice change of pace I could certainly enjoy it as it is listed above. I like My boy to be a man, not a sissy.

And there are My two cents!



Ethne -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/17/2006 7:07:03 AM)

Okay, this is going to sound stupid, but I just dont understand the dynamics of the daddy/lil girl, mommy dommy thing. I dont mean to sound rude or anything, I just dont understand it. How does it function?


Ethne



diaperedbaby -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/17/2006 7:24:11 AM)

I can't speak for everyone, but it is just roleplay. A place that for me I can be very submissive. Kinda like a mindset. I think different things set people off to be dominant or submissive if it is just a play session. If it is a 24/7 thing it is likely alittle different.
Also for me, it is a great stress reliever to put my mind in an environment that isn't busy. I have a great business but it is very stressful at times. It goes with the territory.
Just my little release or escape from the world.
Kinda like recharging the batteries if that makes any sense.



SimplyV -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/17/2006 3:05:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ethne

Okay, this is going to sound stupid, but I just dont understand the dynamics of the daddy/lil girl, mommy dommy thing. I dont mean to sound rude or anything, I just dont understand it. How does it function?


Ethne


Read this site: http://www.geocities.com/midnite_angel1

"OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrom i would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless.
His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life.He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all.
The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. "
"The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly."

Now.. that is also what I consider a "mommy dom".. just switch the "Daddy" with "Mommy"



mons -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/18/2006 3:47:19 AM)

greeting


now many may think a women who dominants a male who want no needs to have mother figure to hold and baby him! now this is not someome going to potty in their diaper it is someone who wants and need a mother love just the same as the daddy doms! NO i know none who are bi but i do know many who are staigtth. These men are not what many think they! They are more into being spanked, whip and bondage. It not this big hairy man! I shave him and fast lol no hair on the baby lol [&:][:D],



Pinkpottiepants -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/18/2006 3:50:11 AM)

The Mommy/Domme isn't much different than any other Domme, only the methods she uses to control her charge make her different. Most of us who experience this type of relationship will never forget the special feelings it brings, it's a complete surrendering, unlike any other form of play that I have ever done. It can be soft and tender, or she may inflick punishment just as harsh as any given by the strictest of Mistresses.

Many of you seem to be hung up on the diapers which I can understand because I don't like wetting and messing in a diaper and I'm certain that thought sends many of you running. I only wear a diaper when my Mommy Domme requires me to and she knows I will do anything to aviod having to actually use it. She takes advantage of this extreme willingness to do what ever I am told, taking our play sessions to a whole new level. I thought the first time I was required to wear a butt plug out in public was an intense experience, but it was a walk in the park compared to when I'm forced to go out while wearing diapers. You are constantly on edge, the feel of the diaper and the crinkle of the plastic pants are with your every move and while no one is likely to ever notice what you are wearing, you feel as though the whole world is seeing you in this shameful moment. It like being in bondage right out where everyone can see you.

If I had refused to allow myself to be diapered that first time my Mommy/Domme held up that diaper and those plastic pants, I would have missed out on experiences that can't be equaled. I encourage everyone to try it, you can take it to whatever level you feel comfortable with and I certain that most will be pleasently surprised.



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/18/2006 5:56:28 PM)

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Many of you seem to be hung up on the diapers which I can understand because I don't like wetting and messing in a diaper and I'm certain that thought sends many of you running.


I'm not hung up on the diapers at all. I find use of them to be an excellent way to reinforce the submission. Literally using those diapers is another topic altogether.
I find, most often, when a boy is searching for a "mommy dommy", he is quite needy. Emotionally needy. Much more needy than just a diaper fetish. And I am not interested in an emotionally needy boy. In addition, those who have a strong fetish regarding baby play is something that just doesn't interest Me. Ahem! Unless it is for a two hour, higher priced, professional session. Otherwise, sorry, but...been there, done that. I raised My unmentionables, and I am on to bigger and better things. Like being cared for, rather than expending all of My energy caring for and coddling another adult.
My natural nurturing is there, and will never go away. I do not have a problem with kissing and cuddling when appropriate. But being in the constant or almost constant role of Mommy, because that is what the submissive wants, is not My thing.
As an aside, but still on topic, I would ask if you are in a relationship at this time with a Mommy Domme? Your post seems to indicate you are, but your profile does not. Your profile also does not make mention of a possible preference for a "Mommy Domme", but your choice of user name would give Me pause, and cause Me to question your areas of interest, and how far you would like to take those interests.
Funny how I just came from a thread about levels of masculinity in male submissives, to a discussion about Mommy Dommes. Such is the wonderful diversity of WIITWD!



mons -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 2:38:16 AM)

greeting

oh i do not think that is true dommes who mommies are not ssubmissve

hello all[&:]

mons/jane



Pinkpottiepants -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 3:09:58 AM)

The other amazing thing about this life style is the vast choice of things to do and ways to do them. You and everyone else can choose the path that suites you best and that's the way it should be. The only issue I take with your response to my thread was the assertion that it was my need or choice to be babied. In fact it was not my desire or choice when I was introduced to being babied and I almost walked away, but I wanted to become a good submissive. I was so embarrassed that first time I was diaperd and I still feel a shame and humiliation when I'm forced to wear them. As a person that was trying to learn and develope my submissive nature, I allowed myself to be directed and guided into many different roles and an adult baby just happened to be one of them.

The other assumption is that everyone that plays the role of an adult baby needs care and attention, instead of providing service as a good submissive should. The Domme that trained me was wonderful, she often combined many roles and one of her favorites was baby/maid. I was anything but demanding and in need of attention when I was in my maids uniform, my bulging rhumbas sticking out from beneath my very short skirted uniform. This outfit was always a big hit at her functions, all her guest took great delight in teasing me, patting my diapered bum whenever I walked by them. This requirement to wear diapers when dressed as her maid reinforced the fact that I had no choice and was under her complete control. The diapers also offered her a ready punishment tool should I screw up in any way. It was humiliating enough to be serving her friends while wearing diapers, but being forced to use them in front of everyone was unthinkable, so I didn't make many mistakes when serving as her baby/maid. Perhaps some who play as an Adult Baby require a Mommy to care for them, but my times in diapers aren't like that at all.



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 7:14:51 AM)

Please don't misunderstand Me. I did not intend to assert that you were needy. I wanted to make the point that many boys who are into this as a fetish, do indicate a certain neediness which I personally find tiring. As I went on to say, I was curious about this, because your profile does not give this sense at all. Many profiles do.
As a submissive gesture, and at the command of the Domina, this is certainly a useful and fun tool. As a need and/or demand from the boy, it becomes something else.
The best example I can give is those boys who have freely admitted they cannot feel submissive until they are dressed up, either by force, or by agreement with their Domina. As soon as the pretties come off, the submission goes out the window. So it is, or can be, with a boy who specifically seeks a Mommy Domme. This is the role they want and need, and nothing else will do. No Mommy, no submission, so to speak.
There are may ways to submit in this lifestyle. I prefer a boy who is naturally submissive to Me, whether he is cooking in jeans, vacuuming in heels, serving tea in a diaper, or escorting Me to a formal funtion in back tie. If he has to have certain things immediately, other than a strong Mistress who is in tune with his psyche, in order to feel submissive, I lose interest. This is when it becomes a chore, instead of a joy. I don't consider submission to be a fetish in and of itself. If a boy must attach his submission to a certain fetish or fetishes, then he not the boy for Me. I am referring, of course, to the idea that each would be seeking a full time relationship. Not an hour here and there.
I hope you understand what I am trying to say.



steffie -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 10:21:38 AM)

The Domme women i have gotten involved with over the years tend to be older than myself. The first was when I was just out of college, and about 21, and she was 45.

I don't know that I ever thought of her as a "mommy," but in reading this thread, it got me to thinking, that I really do find something very attractive about an older woman. There is something very warm and comforting and powerful about an older woman's maternal instincts.

I know that most of our society favors young, skinny waifs as models and images of beauty. I find that there is something incredibly alluring about an older woman that is mature, round, and more Rubenesque.

That all said, it's more a matter of what a person has going on inside, than what they look like - that makes a good partner and a good Domme.
There is nothing more beautiful than someone that has confidence and security about who they are as a person.



Pinkpottiepants -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 10:22:55 AM)

You have made your point very well and clear. I think we are on the same page, but then I guess this brings back the question of what exactly is a Mommy Domme. Is a Mommy Domme a Domme who chooses to treat her submissive in a child like way, or is she a Domme that caters to the needs of adult babies or diaper lovers. Perhaps you have to look at the relationship between the Domme and the submissive closer to answer this question. If the Domme treats her submissve in a child like way as a form of humiliation, is she a Mommy Domme. Forcing one to wear a diaper as a form of torment and embarrassment that is only meant to show who is in charge, is hardly motherly. I think that more discussion is needed on this matter



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 4:58:35 PM)

That is exactly what the question would come down to.
I tend to think of a Mommy Domme as one who not only treats the submissive in a childlike manner, but might also be involved in certain baby or childlike play. This is not to My particular taste. There are times when I can be very maternal and very nurturing. I comes quite naturally to Me. But in the end, I am dealing with another adult, and I prefer the situation to be as a Dominant Woman interacting with her submissive boy. Not as a child, but as an adult who is obedient in all things. I don't want a power struggle and I don't want to have to constantly teach, guide and coddle.
With a child, I would spend happy time baking cookies, and teaching how to measure, stir and grease the cookie sheet. I also warn that the oven is hot.
With a submissive boy, I prefer to spend the happy time enjoying the freshly baked cookies that are being served to Me with a nice, hot cup of tea. I don't want to have to supervise the boiling of the water.



SimplyV -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 5:55:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

I tend to think of a Mommy Domme as one who not only treats the submissive in a childlike manner, but might also be involved in certain baby or childlike play.


That is true in what is considered a "Mommy Domme" I guess.. but in light of the original post referencing "Daddy Dom" and a "Mommy Domme" as the female equivalent.. Then age play would not be a required element. As Daddy Dom isn't about age play as much as a particular D/s relationship structure. The activities do not make the difference, just the dynamic itself.



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 7:19:39 PM)

I can only say that in My experience, Mommy Dommes are not as common as Daddy Doms. I have always understood quite clearly that those male submissives who are explicitly seeking a Mommy Dommy are definitely into age play.
So I would posit that there may be no true equivalent.
My opinion only, so, of course, YMMV.
*Edited for typo



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/19/2006 8:47:30 PM)

For some reason, when I see the title Mommy Dommes, the story of Oedipus Rex comes to mind. That leads to the picture of a man stabbing out his own eyes with a broach. Then I think "Hell, no wonder a man might have an aversion to Mommy Dommes." I mean, who really would want to plow the same field of his father? Right?



Nahemah -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/21/2006 4:19:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
...I prefer a boy who is naturally submissive to Me, whether he is cooking in jeans, vacuuming in heels, serving tea in a diaper, or escorting Me to a formal funtion in back tie. If he has to have certain things immediately, other than a strong Mistress who is in tune with his psyche, in order to feel submissive, I lose interest. This is when it becomes a chore, instead of a joy.


Dusty-

I couldn't have said it better Myself. Thank You!



MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/25/2006 9:07:02 AM)

There seem to be a lot of "adult baby" male subs seeking a Mommy Domme.  I was getting quite a few responses from them until I changed My profile to specifically state that I am am not into that.

I have come across a few Women who identify as Mommy Dommes from time to time, but not a whole lot of them.  I have, on the other hand, run across quite a few Daddy Doms.

While I can be a nurturing and loving Woman (when I am not being a sadistic bitch), I find the whole adult baby/Mommy Domme dynamic respulsive. It's an absolute hard limit for Me.  What other people get out of it totally escapes Me, but if floats their boat, more power to them. 



michaelGA -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/25/2006 9:30:34 AM)

i prefer being more adolescent than anything...not into diapers...i'll get there soon enough when i get older...LOL



seekshertrue1 -> RE: Mommy Dommes (3/1/2007 2:51:10 PM)

I've been thinking about this subject for sometime. I've finally had the time to check on any posts. I've been reading through all the posts and was thinking to myself, I'm not that tame, I'm a Mommy Domme. The whole infantilism, diapering thing doesn't appeal to me whatsoever. 

I've been wondering why you don't see that many Mommy/lil boy dynamics. Is this type of dynamic not as popular as the Daddy/lil girl dynamic?  



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