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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 8:24:16 PM

Aynne88

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OP congrats! Sounds like a great time :)

dreamer, I hear you. I read that post earlier and refrained from responding, but why not.I found that post to be well just kind of sad really. It seems so repressive and typical of the mindset that we should be ashamed of or repulsed by our sexuality and genitals. Oral sex is so intimate, so amazing, I love feeling Him come in my mouth, I never get tired of it, and I don't care if he just played 18 holes of golf or fresh out of the shower. I also never ever get enough of feeling his oh so talented mouth working his magic on my honeypot either, He has mad skills.

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 8:37:58 PM

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LOL we really don't agree on anything - there should be a law *mandating* this.

I so don't get it. He won't do it to me, so I *know* he gets the whole "putting your mouth on someone else's genitals is totally disgusting especially if its after an hour since their last shower" thing, yet he still wants me to do it to him.

It's like, God or Evolution or whatever it was made us so that we each had a genital area and they fit like lock and key with each other. And unlike the mouth region, vagina dentata is a myth. I don't know what freaks me out more, the fact that guys want to put their cock in any hole large enough for it to fit, or the fact that other guys want to essentially make out with a vagina.

Obviously the answer is 'people enjoy it' and that's cool, but to have it as such a normal part of vanilla culture just squicks me...it would be like if Cosmo was telling you the best way to enjoy drinking your partner's pee. I see it as a total fetish thing and don't understand why culture says people should expect oral sex in a relationship.

It's putting your mouth on someone's genitals. WTF.

Goodness, you really don't like it do you?

I happen to be a big fan of oral sex. For me it is earthy, powerful and feels really, really good. I like receiving it and I like the knowledge of giving my partner such intense pleasure. I love his cock and I especially love it in my mouth. But that's just me, cock worship is a thing of mine. I just realized this is a major hijack. Oops! Back to your regularly scheduled programming.

Oh fair enough, I'm not saying everyone has to hate it, just that for me it falls into a 'kink' or 'fetish' category rather than a 'vanilla' one, and I'm honestly surprised it's so common in vanilla relationships.

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 8:49:47 PM

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If you both were fresh out of the shower (and had brushed, flossed, and gargled- just go with me here), how would putting your mouths on each other's genitals be any different than putting any of your other parts together?

Can you please elaborate a bit about why the idea repulses you? Were you brought up to think of genitals as dirty and disgusting?

I am very curious.

OP: I'm so glad things worked out well for you! Sounds like you've got a good thing going!

No I wasn't *raised* to think of genitals as dirty or disgusting, though the whole proximity-to-the-urethra thing kinda puts them in that category. With a guy you're basically sucking on one of the two parts of the body that excretes waste. So really it's not comparable to putting your mouth anywhere else except perhaps the anus. Your logic is kinda like saying "you swallow saliva when you kiss so what's the problem with drinking urine? They're both sterile."

I did specify in my post that it's really gross when it's not right out of the shower, obviously freshly showered is different, which is why I'll do it if he showers, but it's not something I'd initiate. It's not something that, in itself, provides sexual stimulation (like clitoral or penile stimulation) so it doesn't 'feel good' - the sexuality of performing oral sex is inherently linked to how the person doing it perceives it.

Like any other sexualized activity it will only turn you on if it's something you find appealing.

And FYI before anyone says I'm uptight about biological functions - there's nothing inherently disgusting about having to go to the bathroom. That's not the problem for me. The problem is putting my *mouth* there.

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 9:02:32 PM

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Roger that, thank you!

So does he get off on the fact that you're not into it?

For a lot of people, that idea would make the whole thing a turn on for the dom and also paradoxically, to the sub... The idea of being "prevailed upon" to do something that you'd maybe rather not... Yummmm...

Sorry, thread jack...

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 9:05:00 PM

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Roger that, thank you!

So does he get off on the fact that you're not into it? For a lot of people, that idea would make the whole thing a turn on for the dom and also paradoxically, to the sub... The idea of being "prevailed upon" to do something that you'd maybe rather not... Yummmm...

Sorry, thread jack...

LOL yeah actually he does.

I've threatened to start acting like a porn chick and saying "oh yeah baby gimme that cock oooh I want your cum" in the hopes that it will totally kill his erection, but I doubt I can keep a straight face long enough to do it.

ETA - yeah I apologize as well for the thread jack. And for insulting other people's kinks...I didn't realize how negative I sounded til I went back and re-read my post.

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 9:17:55 PM

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ETA - yeah I apologize as well for the thread jack. And for insulting other people's kinks...I didn't realize how negative I sounded til I went back and re-read my post.

Boy howdy do i know how you feel.

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RE: Appearing in public as a slave for the first time - 12/7/2009 9:31:43 PM

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My friends are all very straight-laced and vanilla - you know, the types who only give their boyfriends blowjobs when it's his birthday.

WTF??? There should be laws against this!!!