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A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 12:01:51 AM

thaprincess

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Ok so I'm new to the scene, but I came up with a list of preliminary rules for my sub. I'm getting Miss Abernathy's Ominus tomorrow

so after I read that I may revise them a little if I read something that catches my attention and/or I think will benefit my sub and I. Anyway, here are my 7 rules for him. We both want a 24/7 live in relationship sooner or later, so some of the rules reflect that aspect we wish to bring to our relationship in the future. Anyway, some feedback on whether or not you think they are good would be awesome. And thank you in advance.

1) Princess' word is law. There will be no back talk to her of any kind.
2) Whenever Princess enters the room you are to hit the floor on all fours, your head bowed low to the ground. You must not rise until you are given permission to do so. In public places you are to only kneel before her, keeping your head bowed low until she tells you to rise. You are also to be silent during this time unless she directly speaks to you.
3) You are not to leave the house without Princess knowing of your whereabouts. You are her slave and as such you will always check in with her before making any decisions on where you will go aside from ones that are work related.
4) You are not to call any other woman by the name of Mistress. You may use the titles of Miss or Ma'am, but never Mistress. You only have one Mistress and she is Princess [insert my name here].
5) When speaking to your Mistress, you are to always to call her Princess unless told otherwise by her.
6) You are to show all women respect and treat them as the goddesses they are.
7) You are to never forget that serving your Mistress is a privilege and not a right. You are lucky to belong to her and even luckier to get the honour to serve her.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 1:13:27 AM

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Not sure why you posted this, unless you enjoy mockery.

The True Way of the Pseudo Domme being no less funny than that of the All Knowing Dominant.

Thanks for the laugh.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 1:17:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thaprincess

Whenever Princess enters the room you are to hit the floor on all fours, your head bowed low to the ground. You must not rise until you are given permission to do so. In public places you are to only kneel before her, keeping your head bowed low until she tells you to rise. You are also to be silent during this time unless she directly speaks to you.

I'll be more to the point.

Well then Princess Insertmynamehere, (is that Scandinavian?) how could I ever see that toilet paper
hanging from the back of your pantyhose, much less be able to whisper subtly that you have a tail?

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 1:22:17 AM

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She's posing in the John with her leg up on the toilet. I think her parents are downstairs. If they knew she was dressed like that, heads would roll!

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 1:39:32 AM

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All joking aside, you are admittedly new, erase all those things you thought you should be and enter in.
Walk the great and mighty Collarme halls and breathe in her wisdom. In the meantime, garner every
last drop of sense of humor you can muster, you're going to need it, and a few chocolate chip cookies.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 2:59:19 AM

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thaprincess,

I think these rules are about running before you're sure, yet, that you (and your sub) can walk. The way to do it, I think, is to 'start small, but aim to grow'. All the time there's the vanilla world around you and your sub (and inside you both) that you both need to consider.

People should never give up on their dreams - but dreams are easily shattered. They've got to be approached carefully.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 4:10:38 AM

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LOL. I have known a pro femdom for over 15 years (no sexual connection) and shown her some of these profiles on CM. She was laughing like hell. Said none of those she saw would have a chance of atracting the customers she served. They simply displayed a total lack of understanding the male submissive mind. And yes i have seen her add.
The name got no scandinavian connection what so ever. It would have been spelled prinsesse to be either Norwegian, Swedish or Danish.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 5:36:18 AM

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OP

Some of those rules may make sense, but I see the others as lofty goals.

Sure, you want respect, like anyone else. But you need to treat your sub/slave with a little respect too.

But it looks like you don't want a sub or slave, just a mindless person with no will/wants/imagination/needs/desires of their own.

Plus, you're only 20. Get some experience under your belt first (As you say in your profile that you're new) you may find that some of those rules might turn out to be impossible. Or, you may have a hard time finding someone who will follow all those to the T.

Mind you, I am only speaking from a sub's POV, but even I have limitaions and if Sir wnated or demaded that I follow half of those, I would say goodbye. I enjoy having a mind of my own. But to each their own, I'm in no way bashing people who may think along the same lines you do.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 6:32:15 AM

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OP, IF you approach daily life with genuine love,care and concern for everyone you encounter, any submissive male who's of good character wil automatically fall to his knees in adoration of you- because you would then be someone to adore.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 7:24:09 AM

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Drop the bit about kneeling in public places. It's rude to innocent bystanders who aren't interested in your kink to be practicing it in public.

It's not as if you can't have some public rules that reinforce the dynamic that are not so blatant. The sub can stay to your left and walk a step behind you at all times, unless he's sprinting ahead to open a door. But leave the grovelling for private situations.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 7:42:10 AM

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Just a few thoughts below about your rules.

"1) Princess' word is law. There will be no back talk to her of any kind."

OK. Have you addressed how your sub is to handle issues which will pop up within your relationship? Have you thought about how to handle the usual conflicts and questions that he/she may have?

"Whenever Princess enters the room you are to hit the floor on all fours, your head bowed low to the ground. You must not rise until you are given permission to do so. In public places you are to only kneel before her, keeping your head bowed low until she tells you to rise. You are also to be silent during this time unless she directly speaks to you."

Yeah, forget the kneeling in public thing. He'll look very odd kneeling when he meets you at the restaurant for dinner for a date. If it floats your boat to have him hit the floor at home when you walk back into the living room after going for a pee, go for it.

"3) You are not to leave the house without Princess knowing of your whereabouts. You are her slave and as such you will always check in with her before making any decisions on where you will go aside from ones that are work related."

How about when he goes food shopping? Or to run errands? Or what if he stops for breakfast before work, does he have to call? The thing about rules is that not only does he have to follow them, you have to enforce them. Perhaps he could text you as he's going about his errands letting you know where he is rather than needing to ask permission? Or that you want him to ask permission before social events? And I'm sure you've addressed the whole 'if the house is burning down, leave without checking with me first' kinda safety thing. What if you can't get right back to him when he does check with you for permission to run errands and loses a few hours before he can leave the house? This sort of thing sounds a bit newbie-ish. I'd allow some flexibility in here for both of you so that the rules don't wind up running the relationship for no other reason than 'because I can'.

" 6) You are to show all women respect and treat them as the goddesses they are. "

Yeah ... I know some women who are so not goddesses nor deserving of respect. lol

"7) You are to never forget that serving your Mistress is a privilege and not a right. You are lucky to belong to her and even luckier to get the honour to serve her."

And I'm sure that you'll make him feel very warm and fuzzy about the service he does provide you so that he is getting something out of the relationship rather also. Most (not all, but most) people will do best in a long-term 24/7 relationship when their needs (not wants) are being met. And in most D/s relationships I've seen which last both parties feel very lucky indeed to have found one another and they let the other person know that.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:04:53 AM

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Okay. There is a whole host of remarks I could make about your rules, but for once I am going to be exceedingly diplomatic, and simply say that these rules might be hot for a week or so, but longer than that and you will find yourself in situations where they are completely impractical.

The more rules you have, the more time you have to spend enforcing them, and the more your authority will suffer when you have to modify or eliminate them. Do you really want to spend a huge chunk of your life policing someone else's behaviour? I have only one rule: treat me with consideration.

It's easy to let d/s go to your head in the beginning, regardless of which side of the slash you fall on. Proceeding slowly never does any harm.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:09:59 AM

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Thanks for everyone's feedback, and yes I am new so thanks for the constructive criticism and advice. I came up with the list of rules and showed them to my sub and he was fine with them. We discussed them together and I asked him if he had any concerns or questions, which we also addressed. I guess I should take out the "kneel before me in public" part though since that would be imposing my ideas onto lots of innocent bystanders at times.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:13:40 AM

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In a 24/7 situation, by which i mean, living together primarily....Rules 1 and 2 are going to have to go out the window. Other than that, theres nothing listed that would be particularly objectionable or hard to follow.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:18:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mc1234

Just a few thoughts below about your rules.

"1) Princess' word is law. There will be no back talk to her of any kind."

OK. Have you addressed how your sub is to handle issues which will pop up within your relationship? Have you thought about how to handle the usual conflicts and questions that he/she may have?

We've discussed this numerous times and although I made up that rule, I constantly communicate with him and ask him if he has any suggestions or questions about anything. It's not like I tell him to be a mindless human being with no thoughts or ideas, but I can see how that would be somewhat confusing to others if they don't know the dynamic we're trying to put into place which is for constant open communication. When I say no back talk he understands that I mean when I tell him to do something after we've discussed it and I've considered his feelings as well as the impact it may have on him and/or I, he's to do as I say. I'm not harsh with him.

And haha lusciouslips I did actually find your comment to be funny because my parents wouldn't be happy if they knew about my life, then again they are ultra conservative and so anything that deviates from mainstream vanilla life would be disturbing to them. But I like a good laugh every now and then even if it's at my newbie mistakes.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:42:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: persephonee

In a 24/7 situation, by which i mean, living together primarily....Rules 1 and 2 are going to have to go out the window. Other than that, theres nothing listed that would be particularly objectionable or hard to follow.

There's nothing wrong with rule number 3? What if the house is on fire? Is he just supposed to burn if he can't reach the OP to let her know that he's leaving the house? And all women are goddesses and will be treated accordingly? What if a woman is attempting to steal his wallet? I'm sure the OP would say, "Oh, I didn't mean it under those circumstances," but that is exactly what is wrong with these rules in the first place: they just aren't practical.

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 8:55:35 AM

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To add a person totally dedicatd to me in my household I would say cost a minimum of 1000 $ a month. That is for somebody who have no outside interest. Uses her day doing chores and the rest watching telly or use the internet. She would be excluded going along on holidays, rarely coming out when i go to restaurants bars or things like that. A car is also out of the question and so is smoking, which is rather unfair as i do smoke. This is in a country where medical insurance is for free by the way.
I often wonder how a 20 year old girl can afford that. Also how she really managed to get a home together which is large enough to take the addition?

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 9:07:39 AM

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You need to take a chill pill . Learn about the lifestyle. Have fun. Mess around. Your only 20. Have the courage to make mistakes. Drop the all formal act. Dont be so severe. Take it easy and have fun. Your authoritarian approach is not winning me over , I have to say. Treat your guy as a normal guy first. Then impose the kink but like others said not in public that is way over the top and disrespectful to your sub
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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 9:17:42 AM

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quote:

...for once I am going to be exceedingly diplomatic...

Feeling okay, Ven?

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RE: A set of rules... - 12/5/2009 9:51:04 AM

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ok so ill try to be poite and kind all that

some of the rules would be good with modifacation.. my guy (sub) always treats me with love ad i do the same for him. But we live to gether have for 4 years. though he pretty much understands what i want when i want it and does it some times he doesnt. there are times when he doesnt. course allot of times i get to say i told you so and other times when he gets to. If he obeyed me with out question or will it will get boring very very very quick. We own our own business adn generally keep our life seperate though there are some who know about it that can make for interesting times!
sadly though he treats 99.9 percent of women like goddesses he needs to treat less like that and smack some sense into some people sometimes!

PDA can be good in some situations ad in other i cant be horrible...

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