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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 2:56:14 AM

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Morning Ranja, well obviously my goal is too keep the customer happy, I have been at the same place for almost 17 tears, however it is a bar that is frequented by a lot of offshore fisherman, so I learned the skill of a cutting remark and keeping them at bay on week one. Glad I did.

As far as telling Him, why would I? It's not dishonest not to, and for me personally he knows I get approached by men, he also knows I am quite adept at handling it. He has a possesive streak though, and I wouldn't want to put a negative moment on a wonderful evening out. If the man persisted, I might, but generally that is not the problem. I have often times seem insecure women crying to their men that "Oh honey help me that big bad wolf tried to hit on me" just to stir up some drama....that is so not for me. I'm certainly not saying that's always the case, but it is more often than not in my opinion.

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 3:32:20 AM

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Thank you Aynne,

yes, so this was how i found out about the possessive streak in mine
He did not see it as a funny fairground ticket or even a lame compliment
and it did indeed spoil our nice evening... which i thought was bad manners really.

This whole scenario played out ages ago and something just recently brought it up.

Since He still refused to see the funny side i could not help but to comment that is was good that at least i had learnt my lesson from it....
'oh and what is that?' He asked...
'well, i haven't shown you any other cards eh Master?' i responded...
leaving Him to wonder...

Whereas some of me likes his possessive streak, another bit of me finds it... limiting...

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 4:48:30 AM

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i do admire your knowledge or instinct to keep the info from your man if you know it would irritate him... but is that not also sort of being less than honest about things?

Dear Mr. Aynne's Mayun,

I have been following your lovely woman around the boards for lo these last two years, and I finally have the nerve to ask... Can I please have a little diddle with her?
Thank you for your consideration.

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*Think it'll work if I go right to the source?

*ETA: With a woman as beautiful as that lady is, I expect their conversations would always be "this guy hit on me", "that gal hit on me." When would they talk about themselves?

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 5:52:15 AM

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Thank you Aynne,

yes, so this was how i found out about the possessive streak in mine
He did not see it as a funny fairground ticket or even a lame compliment
and it did indeed spoil our nice evening... which i thought was bad manners really.

This whole scenario played out ages ago and something just recently brought it up.

Since He still refused to see the funny side i could not help but to comment that is was good that at least i had learnt my lesson from it....
'oh and what is that?' He asked...
'well, i haven't shown you any other cards eh Master?' i responded...
leaving Him to wonder...

Whereas some of me likes his possessive streak, another bit of me finds it... limiting...

RIGHT FUCKIN - ON!

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 8:47:22 AM

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i understand that a dominant man might be very annoyed that another geezer is trying to corrupt his woman sneakily while the woman is briefly left by herself...

Um...not at all. Isn't that just a slightly more grown-up version of a guy saying to his girlfriend: "If you cheat on me, I'm gonna kick his ass!"?

The moment I start becoming more consumed with the actions/words of people I'm not in a relationship with rather than those of the person I am in a relationship with, it might be time to rethink the whole relationship thing as a whole for a while.

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 8:50:45 AM

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Whereas some of me likes his possessive streak, another bit of me finds it... limiting...

I suppose he could only take you out when you're wearing your "Do Not Hit On Me." t-shirt, just so that you don't have to be held responsible for the actions of others...

A full-length paper bag with cut eyeholes might work too.

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 10:29:57 AM

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Whereas some of me likes his possessive streak, another bit of me finds it... limiting...

I suppose he could only take you out when you're wearing your "Do Not Hit On Me." t-shirt, just so that you don't have to be held responsible for the actions of others...

A full-length paper bag with cut eyeholes might work too.

haha... i think the "do not hit on me" scrawled all over my bosom would rather have the opposite effect... it would most likely invite some men folk to come and fondle them in a very loving way...

and though i suppose it would be difficult to eat wearing one... a burka might indeed do the trick... as i said: limiting

but then... if a guy still hit on me... would it then be a matter of disrespect towards me or my Master?

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 10:41:30 AM

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I don't necessarily assume that two people out to dinner or in a bar together are in fact, together. Do you all wear signs on your foreheads? I used to entertain alot when I was organizing conventions, and was often the only woman in the group. So for years I was going out to restaurants, nightclubs, etc., with a man, but never as a date. Maybe that's why I sometimes wonder if two people are together, but don't just take it as a given.

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 3:56:35 PM

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I admit when I see a man and a woman together, if they're sitting close by, if their body language is intimate I'm going to assume they're a couple.

If I'm not sure if they are or aren't I'm still not going to interrupt unless it's a very casual type of place and their body language shows an "approach me" tpype of stance. I would find it rude to do so. Just another form of etiquette I was taught at a very young age and it's stuck.

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RE: compliment or insult? - 12/15/2009 4:49:42 PM

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Hey, he made his play...so what? If she is happy, nothing will happen unless her Master wants it too. I know many here think its the Masters that set the tone...and maybe he at times..but lets face it folks, most subs know... Knows what suits them..and whats more they trust themselfs to do the right thing in that case. Frankly...Most subs[and Masters] trust the other half's honesty. Besides, Everyone needs a good laugh,right?

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