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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 7:24:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Wouldn't it be, that a person that can and does refrain from "attempts" to dominante, stops being dominant? And therfore stops being that which one seeks? Just a point to ponder. There's a very large difference between "being a dominant" and "being dominant in relation to someone/acting overtly dominant towards someone." And no, not acting overtly dominant or being dominant in relation to someone does NOT make you stop being "a dominant" nor does it stop you from being that which someone might seek.

RavenMuse -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 7:37:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 quote: ORIGINAL: catize I expect him to refrain from any attempts to dominate until I have agreed to submit. This, I thought, was an interesting line to find in a list. My dominance is an inherent part of me, of who I am. I could no more refrain from it then I could refrain from existing. Wouldn't it be, that a person that can and does refrain from "attempts" to dominante, stops being dominant? And therfore stops being that which one seeks? MD, we seem to both be naturaly quite Dominant in nature and I'm with you on the point of being yourself. However there is a diffrence in how we act toward someone who is not our girl and someone who IS. Someone who is not better act with the politeness and respect I expect anyone to treat me with else I will simply write them off. However I wouldn't attempt to 'control' them unless she was MINE and had submitted. Which is what I think was being reffered to by catize.

OscarHargraves -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 7:47:42 AM)
I couldn't have said it better myself. This is what I woule expect the relationship to grow into. The honesty and submissiveneess upfront and the rest would grow and mold and become part of the bigger whole as we came to know each other better. This is exactly what I had have now with my prsent Sub

JohnWarren -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 8:19:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Wouldn't it be, that a person that can and does refrain from "attempts" to dominante, stops being dominant? And therfore stops being that which one seeks? Just a point to ponder. There's a very large difference between "being a dominant" and "being dominant in relation to someone/acting overtly dominant towards someone." And no, not acting overtly dominant or being dominant in relation to someone does NOT make you stop being "a dominant" nor does it stop you from being that which someone might seek. The most dominant person I've ever had the awe of meeting, Lewis Puller, obviously knew how to control his dominance as he was a junior officer for many years.

RavenMuse -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 8:30:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren The most dominant person I've ever had the awe of meeting, Lewis Puller, obviously knew how to control his dominance as he was a junior officer for many years. Similar experience here. One of the few men I've ever met who I would follow onto a battlefield without questioning the why..... He was my old colour sergeant. Our RSM was a close second... Far more Dominant than any actual Officer I ever met!

ownedgirlie -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 9:06:52 AM)
quote: How is it cheating? If a man presents himself to me as having specific beliefs and desires and needs and wants, and that presentation is equal (or darned close to it) to what I'm seeking, I expect him to BE that individual. All too often, first impressions are faked, and what you end up with is someone completely different from who they claimed to be. So yes, I expect Him to be the man He presented to me when we first met. It's really the only thing of any importance to me. i was teasing. i completely agree with your answer. You made it so simple, however (which is a good thing) so i was kidding about it.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 9:11:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 I expect her to be subservient in her demeanor. Is this in regard to you, or in general, to everyone? i am curious because some Masters i know prefer their girl to display a subservient demeanor at all times, to all people, and others wish their girl to be subservient only to them. In the context of your answer, i was uncertain about this particular point. Thank you :)

truesub4u -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 12:03:44 PM)
Afternoon Level, though I won't bring up your whole post to save space. I want to thank you for your response. Alot of it made sense, and I understand much of what you said. Which again leads to more questions that I will not dwell on now. But it was interresting, as well as informative. As well as others that posted. I do believe I'll step back... and go into listening mode. Thank you again. Jessica

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 12:06:56 PM)
there is a saying a biblical one if you give your pearls to the swine they will just trample them over. which means if you give the best of what you are to someone who does not apericate that it will never be love or disired tradgic thought i would take the time to get to know someone on a ll levels never rush know who and what they are emotional peronally fincinaly and family wise their past plays their future

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 1:46:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie Is this in regard to you, You better believe it. quote: or in general, to everyone? If I found it pleasing to have her be subserviant to one and all then I will. If I wish her subserviance to be only to me then I have it as such as well. [;)]

catize -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 2:43:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 quote: ORIGINAL: catize I expect him to refrain from any attempts to dominate until I have agreed to submit. This, I thought, was an interesting line to find in a list. My dominance is an inherent part of me, of who I am. I could no more refrain from it then I could refrain from existing. Wouldn't it be, that a person that can and does refrain from "attempts" to dominante, stops being dominant? And therfore stops being that which one seeks? Just a point to ponder. As others have responded, to be dominant does not mean one is 'a' dominant. I am dominant in many social and work situations; this does not negate my submission to DG.

truesub4u -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 2:50:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: catize As others have responded, to be dominant does not mean one is 'a' dominant. I am dominant in many social and work situations; this does not negate my submission to DG. Yep, being a single mother, to see me on a every day basis, everything about me screams Dominant. But being far from that on the inside.. i've fool quite a few.

catize -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 6:24:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: truesub4u Yep, being a single mother, to see me on a every day basis, everything about me screams Dominant. But being far from that on the inside.. i've fool quite a few. [:D] Yes, life would be pretty chaotic if we were submissive all the time!

KnightofMists -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 7:39:07 PM)
I expect my girls to be true to their inner selves and be commited to demonstrating behaviors that are consistent with this inner self.

catize -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 8:25:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 This, I thought, was an interesting line to find in a list. My dominance is an inherent part of me, of who I am. I could no more refrain from it then I could refrain from existing. Wouldn't it be, that a person that can and does refrain from "attempts" to dominante, stops being dominant? And therfore stops being that which one seeks? Just a point to ponder. I have been thinking about this a bit more. No, I was not seeking someone who had to dominate all the time, but I sure met more than a few of them! One example which I believes illustrates my point, the dom and I were talking on the phone and the conversation was coming to a close. He said 'good bye' and I said 'good bye'. This led to a 5 minute lecture on his view that as the dominant, he would always have the last word and if I said good bye last I was not submissive enough. Guess what I said...........'good bye!' I would suggest to you that there are times when to insist on displaying your dominance is not the prudent choice. I have always sought a partner who accepted me as a person first and as a submissive second. In turn, before I could decide to offer my submission, I needed to know what sort of person he was behind the title.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 9:11:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: catize I have been thinking about this a bit more. No, I was not seeking someone who had to dominate all the time, but I sure met more than a few of them! One example which I believes illustrates my point, the dom and I were talking on the phone and the conversation was coming to a close. He said 'good bye' and I said 'good bye'. This led to a 5 minute lecture on his view that as the dominant, he would always have the last word and if I said good bye last I was not submissive enough. Guess what I said...........'good bye!' I would suggest to you that there are times when to insist on displaying your dominance is not the prudent choice. I have always sought a partner who accepted me as a person first and as a submissive second. In turn, before I could decide to offer my submission, I needed to know what sort of person he was behind the title. Well that was an interesting story, catize. But what does it have to do with me and my questions? So you weren't submissive enough for that Dominant, it's good that you two learned that before it got to more serious situations. And I would say to you that I don't insist on displaying my dominance. I am dominant. For some, it's not something you switch on or off or just a label you slap on because you feel like it. It transends just a sexual orientation and is part of ones being.

catize -> RE: Expectations (3/17/2006 10:00:39 PM)
It was an apparently poorly understood illustration of my definition of one who is dominant 'all the time'. Whether I was submissive enough for him is not the point; he was too domineering for me. It is not possible to be dominant in every situation, nor is it realistic. Your assertion that you could not refrain from dominating a potential submissive because it would make you 'stop being dominant' appears to me as an unneccessary display. A quietly self-assured dominant who knows what he/she is capable of in his/her chosen title (i.e. top/dom/me/master/mistress) does not need to reiterate ad nauseum what they want others to believe about their personality.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Expectations (3/18/2006 5:41:19 AM)
The same can be said about the submissive that needs in reiterate her postion on submission and dominance through the illistration of a story. You did not need to do it, your postion was said for you by others as you said in your first reply to me. The self assured submissive would have left it at that. And just as with them, I would have left it at that. quote: Whether I was submissive enough for him is not the point; he was too domineering for me. You don't think that you not being submissive enough matters? I think one has a direct corelation with the other. Do you think that had he not been too domineering, that it might have worked out even if you were not submissive enough for him?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Expectations (3/18/2006 6:16:58 AM)
My expectations of a dominant I would consider serving? Honesty Integrity Humour Flexibility Openness Strength A heart that is open to possibilities Oh...and...someone who would put up with me. [:-]

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Expectations (3/18/2006 6:23:07 AM)
I'm mildly shocked, my dear blushes. You don't have chocolate chip cookies anywhere in your expectations. And here I have this whole freshly baked batch. Guess I'm not the Dominant for you then. Too bad for me. [:(]

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