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RE: why so serious? - 12/15/2009 10:47:50 AM

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Now maybe i havent looked hard enough but when i first came across this site (thanx yahoo) i assumed it was where people go to find others to play naughty games.

Sure... there are those that seek just play/naughty games, and those that seek ownership.

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RE: why so serious? - 12/15/2009 10:52:51 AM

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... And I havent found anyone to just talk to me about the life without following it up 5 min later with,"so are you ready to submit"?

i have found that, on the other side of CM, there isnt a lot of room offered to talk or interact with people in a meaningful way, unless your ultimate goal is to meet/play or to create an online situation for roleplay or whatever.

Talking about what you want in life in general is more along the lines of a discussion board....or a munch, slosh or whatever it is that young-uns do these days

. im all owned and whatnot, so my experiences with that are in the past at this time.

i suggest finding other submissives in general to talk to, interact with, and otherwise bat ideas and whatnot around with...get a firm grasp on what it is that you find interesting, that would add to your life as it is now...and then go about finding just that in the physical world.
Meanwhile, read what you are interested in reading, work on forming the person you want to be, be that person...and the rest....will have to come on its own terms.
If it can happen like that for me, it can happen like that for anyone.

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RE: why so serious? - 12/15/2009 3:00:41 PM

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I was actually thinking the same thing only a matter of days ago. The thing that peturbs me most is that if you make known the fact that you aren't as serious as other people in this "lifestyle": if you're not the mean, straight faced, ashen skinned, no sense of humour, long black hair down to the shoulders and attitude of "I'm the ruler of the world, my puppy has cancer, I have a chip the size of New York on my shoulder, you're automatically painted as a "fake" and a "phony" by the BDSM police.

Some people truly do live in a Black/White world. It's sad.

lol

the trick is to ignore what doesnt fit and just be who you are.

i dont know of anyone on these boards, anyway, who would give the type of guy you describe any serious time or effort. youre clearly moving in the wrong circles! broaden youre net and look for people more in youre mindset. like beth has said, theres all sorts of all sorts here, you just have to pitch youre profile according to who you are and what you hope to find and go from there.

Nah, I wasn't actually making a personal gripe or being specific. I was just putting an observation out there.

But there are people like that out there, people who think if you're seeking something different from what their ideals are then you're a fake, a phony and that your very existence on planet Earth has been fabricated and your entire history on this planet we call Earth has been a sham and an affront to the gods of BDSM. I just don't think some people can fathom the fact that a person can be looking for something a wee bite more casual than an actual 24/7 thing (Which is fine and good and all that jazz.. it's just not for me) or whatever THEY are into.

It's a strange state of affairs indeed.

It is funny, though, and I have had a few chuckles in this place. I just live in contentment knowing that I was born with a broad outlook, as well as owning a mind that is very well capable of expanding and accepting others for who they are and what they want.

Blessed, am I.

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RE: why so serious? - 12/15/2009 4:13:22 PM

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Hello to all. im just posting this as my thoughts on the subject of the slave/sub and master/Mistress relationship.

Now maybe i havent looked hard enough but when i first came across this site (thanx yahoo) i assumed it was where people go to find others to play naughty games. Yet almost every profile i read is something like,"want real people who obey me. do these tasks to prove your worth. submit your mind, body, soul, and time to me" half of the ones i read want 24/7 tpe, which im not knocking. In fact that im finding that more appealing than i use to. The point i want to make to all the wonderful real Dommes out there is that - and i might stand alone as a wannabesub in this belief - that i would still like a life outside of serving you. i like going to work and to the bars. i want to travel the world BY MYSELF (or given the current state of things just the US to Canada). And for god's sake i don't think i could quit vainilla sex, if things progressed to a more exclusive relationship. Is there some magical site im not going to that states these things do exist, or is it unspoken common knowledge. And yes i don't want to give someone 150-300 an hour to beat the piss out of me, when im not sure if id even like it for my first time. Not to mention the fact that if i dont know the Lady there is no intamacy. And I havent found anyone to just talk to me about the life without following it up 5 min later with,"so are you ready to submit"? So before i start rambling, those are my thoughts. feel free to coment on them/educate me. God knows ive asked with not much sucess.

My off the cuff, tongue in cheek answer to your question would be that I'm sorry that you got this place confused with AFF or ALT. LOL.

The kidding aside, there really are all kinds of people here. No, not all of them are into just playing games, and if you're talking to those who are interested in D/s, rather than just BDSM, they are looking from a relationship standpoint and not just the quick hook up type of thing. That's why you may be running into the issue that you have been having.

By the way, Steven's advice on this matter was very good. You may also be interested in going to a BDSM club if you are interested in casual play.

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