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CaringandReal -> RE: how to be a slave in three easy lessons (12/18/2009 6:10:23 AM)
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This thread would normally not have caught my attention, but the responses to the first post drew me to it in a horrific-fascinated "What has gotten into the henhouse and is stirring up all the chickens?" sort of way.
I always see it as a sign of personal weakness, of being unable to argue with the point being made (and perhaps furious over that fact?), when someone resorts to character assassination instead of addressing the points at hand. On this forum character assassination consists of dragging in the contents of a person's profile or a single past post (usually one tiny phrase from one post taken entirely out of context) to "prove" that the message-writer's words should not be treated seriously. A resort to character assassination either means:
"I can't argue with you so I have to discredit you personally so your message will be ignored"
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"I am so furious at what you just said that I am beyond arguing--must go into obessessive commando mode and dig out every little bit of dirt I can find on you and throw it at you!"
The more pathetic here are even picking on a missing apostrophe, which strikes me as quite hyopocritical given the same peoples' willingness to overlook gross grammatical errors if the person writing brown noses enough. (Although the ensuing conversation regarding this specific point was most amusing, so I'm rather glad it occurred, actually.)
Let's move on past the meta-commentary and to the actual point, the actual words said:
"#1 show up
#2 shut the fuck up
#3 do as your told"
Taken by themselves (along with the thread title, don't forget the thread title), the three statements concisely and accurately describe the expectations I would imagine any dominant I could respect well enough to submit to would have. This thread is about "How to Be a SLAVE in three easy lessons"--not how to be a
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Mmm, maybe that's better left unsaid.
(But it does strike me as amusing in a rather sick way that if a title of a thread is not "All About You" --ie., it's about being a slave and not whatever the heck you are, some of you feel the need to barge into it narcissistically screaming "Well I'm NOT a slave so your points all ALL WRONG neener neener neener!" Are those who do this aware of how childish/psycho this makes them look?)
So, given the title of this thread, as rules go, they are remarkably appropriate to someone aspiring to such a position.
1. Show up: Even those of you who are not single (the most prolific posters seem to fall into this category) know from reading the threads of those who are single that one of the biggest problems we all have in meeting bdsm people online is that they do not show up in person for the meetings they arrange or agree to. The regular posters who complain about this fact get tons of sympathy from others regarding this. So do many new posters, if they phrase it right.
2. shut the fuck up: These words are golden. Anyone who desires to be a slave or a better slave would benefit from following them...closely. And so apt, particularly for this place at this time. I do believe it is honesty of this statement that this is the source of all the gawdamn racket in the henhouse.
2. do as your told: Who could argue with this? It's one of the essential duties of being a slave or learning to be a slave (both are the same thing, IMO). (Remember, nobody is asking you if you want to be this particular poster's slave. It's not All About You. Does thou graspeth the concept of "general?") As a rule, this goes "without saying..." which, in fact, I think is part of the problem. As a lesson it's one that's extremely hard and never fully grasped, which makes it an excellent tool/weapon: you never outgrow it. But combine it with #2 and, well, many submissives seem quite willing to obey, as long as they get their say in. They MUST have their say, they regard it as a constitutional right. But what if you weren't allowed to "have your say?" What if "do as you're told" includes not having a big--or little--conversation about the orders given to you, but just obeying them? Could you do that? Or is your need to "communicate" more important?
PS and apropro of nothing: New Jersey? The state that produced minds like Roth's? (runs naked into street screaming and tearing hair out)
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