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LadyPact -> RE: dangerous men (12/20/2009 11:01:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: osf
i have tried to make my statements as factual as i could
a response to a criticism is not the same as whining
and i dont believe i gave you anything personally
most all my comments were of a general nature not directed at anybody
OK. I stopped reading this at this point. I'm going to add My two cents on this subject. Consider this a blanket statement.
It has been My experience over the years with people involved in WIITWD that a few standards are common practice. One is mean what you say. This goes hand in hand with do what you say. What you really have when it comes to associations in this lifestyle is what you build on your actions matching your words. Lacking those things, you have no credibility.
Granted, this is only a message board. There are no physical dangers from one poster to another. Yet, because there is only written communication here, a person's words are the only way to make a character assessment. If I find contradictions in text, such as the highlighted above when compared to other statements made (specifically, the OP has said on various threads that his reasons for saying certain things were either as jokes or specifically to elicit a response) I'm not going to see a person who is good for his word. That gives a person a reason not to have trust in what the individual says and yes, would be a good reason to express the lack of trust in such a person's deeds.
I am not passive aggressive. If I believe that a person can't be taken for what he says, I have no problem in telling a person so. There are other posters on these boards who will come up with outrageous, fictitious stories to write up as originals, which boil down to habitual lies, and I don't find anything worthy in their character. I'm very plain spoken about the fact that I don't care to associate with dishonest people. It's really that simple.
I don't think random statements about 'abuse' is a joke in regards to BDSM. I find it to be a rather tactless thing to say and I would most likely not want to be in the company of someone who thinks it is or doesn't know the difference. Which may very well be one of the reasons that the OP finds himself in very little company in his personal life and why he has found such a poor reception here. It has nothing to do with Me wanting to be in the pack, cool, popular, or any other thing. I find such attitudes deplorable and do nothing but show a lack of real life experience in WIITWD.
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