Paul1974
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as his sub, i dont get to plan. But he chooses not to. He likes to go with the flow.
that way, a plan cant go wrong, coz there aint one i guess lol
but play goes wrong for us. play that has been tremendous on one occasion, doesnt cut it on the next sometimes.
As a submissive, i am not cocooned in a D/s vortex. I work, am a mother, run a house, have a libido the buggers off occasionally, along with my submission sometimes many things can alter our play, my base line level of submission. He decides when its time to play, not me. I may not feel like it at the time, sometimes, he's a prick coz he's human, and i find it hard to submit then. Or my menstrual cycle will interfere with how i percieve things.
When it does go wrong, we talk. Sometimes you can pin point a particular thing that set it off on the wrong foot, most often we cant. It just is. So we move on. Having fun, laughing, reconnecting elsewhere to get us connected in a vanilla sense, then into the D/s again helps us. Or him bringing out a tried and trusted method. To end on a good note.
When things dont go to plan, i have found it easier to deal with, now i am involved with the person. Ive had play partner sessions that havent gone well, and because there is less investment in solving things for your mutual future, its sometimes harder to overcome. Within a relationship, where i am loved and love in return, you cannot go on to the next person, your stuck with the same one. So you must overcome these issues.
Stepping down the anti, having a more lighthearted time, laughing at how bad it went even, then moving on helps us.
littleone
edited to add, i wasnt logged in, so posted under him, oops. There ya go, a living example lol
< Message edited by Paul1974 -- 3/18/2006 4:27:20 PM >
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