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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 3:09:26 PM

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I can't get past this sentence. If it's not pleasurable, you're not doing it right. So instead of working on yourself to make it pleasurable, you're going to try to change her perception of it?

Actually, she might never associate it with pleasure. Not everyone does, even if the giver is "doing it right." What if she's been sodomized brutally during a rape, or something like that? That could make repeat performances of anal cause traumatic memories and PTSD flashbacks rather than pleasurable feelings, for instance.

Absolutely agreed. I was trying to figure out how to say, "and for some people, doing it right means not doing it at all", without going too far off on a tangent. LOL. Like I've never done THAT before.

In any case, coercing a feeling of pleasure when something isn't pleasurable... yeah, not so much. Unless, of course, it applies to chores that I hate. Gawd, somebody help me find the pleasure in those!

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 5:34:55 PM

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Unless, of course, it applies to chores that I hate. Gawd, somebody help me find the pleasure in those!

Here's what you do, Cali. Get a bag of Hershey's kisses, and put 2 at the site of each chore. When the chore is done, you get the chocolate!

Oh, and if you're like me, don't forget to hide the rest of the bag.

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 5:52:57 PM

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Actually if you were a "real dom" words to the effect " your gonna get it up the ole poop shoot and like it" should suffice.

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doesn't that come under the heading of foreplay?

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 6:03:44 PM

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Well considering female psychology, I always thought liquor and chocolate goes a long way toward making many things tolerable, if not outright pleasant..:0)...but maybe this is too simplistic for many of the grandiose posturing.Tempting

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 6:19:12 PM

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Now THATS training!

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 7:11:52 PM

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Actually if you were a "real dom" words to the effect " your gonna get it up the ole poop shoot and like it" should suffice.

Motown BadOne

doesn't that come under the heading of foreplay?

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 8:06:56 PM

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Just a fast reply......

OP, please feel free to come right on over to the Mistress section and use the search function for such terms as anal stretching. There are tons of folks who will go to no end to describe how they are stretching themselves, whether it was at the instruction of a Mistress (usually one they have never seen) or not.

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 8:28:26 PM

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There are tons of folks who will go to no end to describe how they are stretching themselves, whether it was at the instruction of a Mistress (usually one they have never seen) or not.

One in particular just springs to mind, lol. I wonder how he missed this thread!

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/23/2009 10:10:31 PM

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I think mal must be ill.

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/24/2009 12:53:35 AM

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I think mal must be ill.

Got it in one, Cali!

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/24/2009 11:49:48 AM

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haha Okay. Maybe some women would rather not either..............

Obviously. Was that ever in question? I'm only saying I don't think you're likely to find many women who agree with the assertion "I want to have anal sex, but I don't want to ever have an orgasm as a result."

Okay, I see what You're saying.

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/24/2009 9:05:13 PM

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she doesn't have to enjoy to do

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/25/2009 2:20:50 PM

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Pizza cake!

Step 1: Find a sub who is actually willing to submit both inside and out.
Step 2: Tell her what you want.
Step 3: Start the practice and make sure it is enjoyable
Step 4: Show some patience while she works it out in her head.

That pretty much covers my answer for all such questions. The hard part, of course, is the first step.

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RE: Need a hand finding some information! - 12/25/2009 6:36:40 PM

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