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sweetsub1957 -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 6:43:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: It's not like I was actively avoiding being a sub, I just didn't know anything about it. zakly, but even after awaking some try to suppress it I feel sorry for them. When I realized what submissive meant and that I am one, it felt like I had "come home." I went for it wholeheartedly and haven't looked back since. [:D]

leadership527 -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 6:50:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf the question is often asked when did you decide to be a dom/slave I've always had a dominant personality. Carol has always had a submissive personality. That was true long before we were introduced to BDSM and got words and concepts for it. But for the first 10 years of our marriage, I'd bought the party line and was trying to seek parity in our relationship. When we ran into BDSM (online, no less), it was like a lightbulb coming on! You mean we could actually go ahead and be ourselves and do so in a healthy and mutually supportive way? palms face So while we've always been who we are, we didn't really do anything resembling overt D/s in our relationship until about 3 years ago.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:29:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf the question is often asked when did you decide to be a dom/slave as i always have a different take on things such as the early worm gets eaten, i turned the question around and it becomes, when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave i'd like to hear other opinions I never chose to be a slave. (Couldn't go there). I chose to be sub. It made sense to me. I like it. It feels good. It feels normal. Wuhnahful stuff :)

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 8:31:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: osf the question is often asked when did you decide to be a dom/slave as i always have a different take on things such as the early worm gets eaten, i turned the question around and it becomes, when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave i'd like to hear other opinions I never chose to be a slave. (Couldn't go there). I chose to be sub. It made sense to me. I like it. It feels good. It feels normal. Wuhnahful stuff :) i don't make an issue over the difference between sub/slave

NihilusZero -> RE: when did you decide (12/23/2009 11:17:42 PM)
There wasn't a "when did I decide to be dominant". There was, however, a moment when I had to openly realize/accept my natural dominant tendencies and decide whether or not to embrace them and, thereafter, gear my partnership directions to places where I'd find potential partners more likely to match up with them. That part has solidified in the last couple of years.

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 6:18:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero There wasn't a "when did I decide to be dominant". There was, however, a moment when I had to openly realize/accept my natural dominant tendencies and decide whether or not to embrace them and, thereafter, gear my partnership directions to places where I'd find potential partners more likely to match up with them. That part has solidified in the last couple of years. for me it wasn't a ah ha moment but rather a process over some time

Jeffff -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 9:48:55 AM)
I don't think you decide, I think you discover.

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 10:09:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I don't think you decide, I think you discover. yes

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 11:58:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf as i always have a different take on things such as the early worm gets eaten, i turned the question around and it becomes, when did you decide to stop not being a dom/slave i'd like to hear other opinions That would be about 4 1/2 years ago. I'd had relationships that included bedroom BDSM, but it was only after I encountered someone from my past who was actually in the lifestyle I decided Dominance has to be a real part of my life. Fotunately, I found my perfect submissive love about two years ago! [sm=chug.gif] (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

afterforever -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 1:18:08 PM)
I have always been submissive, discovered WIITWD about 5 years ago, when I was 17. I don't remember deciding anything, just feeling a massive sense of relief that I had found a real life person with a sexuality I could identify with. And I don't think I was ever vanilla, I was a virgin with kinky fantasies, then I was kinky.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 1:53:29 PM)
I didn't decide, It's always been my nature to submit. I just never knew until about 12 years ago that my internal urges had a name, and that "normal" people really did this.

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 2:07:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: whiteslavebitch I didn't decide, It's always been my nature to submit. I just never knew until about 12 years ago that my internal urges had a name, and that "normal" people really did this. let's keep it just amongst us perverts and leave the normal folks out

Dominasola -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 2:24:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afterforever And I don't think I was ever vanilla, I was a virgin with kinky fantasies, then I was kinky. And then I realized that not everyone shared the same kinks as me. After a few "You want me to do WHAT to your WHERE??!," I realized that very few people had a sense of adventure.[&o]

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 2:29:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dominasola quote: ORIGINAL: afterforever And I don't think I was ever vanilla, I was a virgin with kinky fantasies, then I was kinky. And then I realized that not everyone shared the same kinks as me. After a few "You want me to do WHAT to your WHERE??!," I realized that very few people had a sense of adventure.[&o] i get season tickets to Great Adventure

agirl -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 2:57:16 PM)
I've never felt like a sub or slave, it's not who I am nor is it my nature.......so really it was down to deciding if I wanted to live as an owned person or not. That was roughly 5 yrs ago, officially. agirl

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 2:59:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I've never felt like a sub or slave, it's not who I am nor is it my nature.......so really it was down to deciding if I wanted to live as an owned person or not. That was roughly 5 yrs ago, officially. agirl if i'm understanding that you don't feel like a submissive, then why would you want to be owned?

agirl -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 3:54:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I've never felt like a sub or slave, it's not who I am nor is it my nature.......so really it was down to deciding if I wanted to live as an owned person or not. That was roughly 5 yrs ago, officially. agirl if i'm understanding that you don't feel like a submissive, then why would you want to be owned? I met someone years ago who made it an attractive prospect and the option of being in a relationship with him NOT as owned wasn't there. agirl

osf -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 3:59:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I've never felt like a sub or slave, it's not who I am nor is it my nature.......so really it was down to deciding if I wanted to live as an owned person or not. That was roughly 5 yrs ago, officially. agirl if i'm understanding that you don't feel like a submissive, then why would you want to be owned? I met someone years ago who made it an attractive prospect and the option of being in a relationship with him NOT as owned wasn't there. agirl if it works go for it

agirl -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 4:22:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: agirl quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: agirl I've never felt like a sub or slave, it's not who I am nor is it my nature.......so really it was down to deciding if I wanted to live as an owned person or not. That was roughly 5 yrs ago, officially. agirl if i'm understanding that you don't feel like a submissive, then why would you want to be owned? I met someone years ago who made it an attractive prospect and the option of being in a relationship with him NOT as owned wasn't there. agirl if it works go for it I did......and have been owned ever since....contentedly so. agirl

littlewonder -> RE: when did you decide (12/24/2009 5:15:47 PM)
I never decided. I have always been attracted to dominant personality men. Culturally I grew up in a place where men are head of the household, their word is the last word and their wives submit to them..ya know..traditional relationships. It's all I've ever known. It's what I feel comfortable in.

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