Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Game players


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Game players Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 10:51:31 AM   
PenelopePitstop


Posts: 254
Joined: 4/22/2005
From: UK
Status: offline 		There are millions upon millions of reasons why a person may say one thing and do another, and it isn't always malice or playing games. To the OP: you can't presume to know that everyone who doesn't answer an email is a game player, even more so if it is your first email to them.

Carry an attitude like that and the gameplayers are all you're going to get, trust me. It is infuriating not to be replied to, but not every stranger you might look at in the street is going to say Hi just because you're looking at them. I always think of the net as a huge crowd composed of every kind of person there is, that helps me take rejections and stuff less personally.




_____________________________

Wickedness is a myth created by good people to account for the curious attractiveness of others ~ Oscar Wilde

"You had me at Goodbye"

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 11:31:20 AM   
Celeste43


Posts: 3066
Joined: 2/4/2006
From: NYS
Status: offline 		Just because they aren't interested in you, doesn't make them a game player. The opposite side of the slash has as much right to decide who might fit them as does your side.

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 3:18:03 PM   
TNstepsout


Posts: 1558
Joined: 8/3/2005
Status: offline 		American Idol is on right now. People are busy.

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 3:27:10 PM   
Submotive


Posts: 440
Joined: 9/9/2005
Status: offline
Actively Seeking:

Submissive Women

Submissive Men

Switch Women

Switch Men

Submissive Trans

Sub/Sub CouplesWell, Sir, for one thing, in looking at Your profile, You appear to be looking for anything and everything. This could give some the impression that You are not too serious about a real relationship. i for one would not respond to Someone looking for anything submissive. Personally, i like to know that a Dom has been able to decide what it is He wants before i make myself vulnerable to Him

_____________________________

Owned by Scotch Master

i would rather continue alone than be permitted to show only parts of myself to my Beloved.

If you're not living as you would like to today, when are you going to start?

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 4:24:06 PM   
HoosierScorpio


Posts: 164
Status: offline 		I have a profile and still running into the same thing as MASTERBILLMI been too. I have a picture and say exact what I want or looking for. I am not having any luck either getting any one. I have come across some who been burn so many times on here by players they do not trust any one on here.

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 7:44:05 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


Posts: 3054
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline 		To HoosierScorpio....So because you havent found or gotten what you want ...then it has to be the Collarme sites fault!...It is always easier to apportion blame to somene or something other than ourselves!..And of course all the submissives who say well because I was burnt I am more umm ...careful in my choices..well maybe the need for careful is necessary..I feel it is up to you to convince them, if ,there is some interest on their part toward you, ..Otherwise it could just be a convenient excuse that they are giving you.......be well...Tempting

(in reply to HoosierScorpio)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: Game players - 3/21/2006 11:38:58 PM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I have a profile and still running into the same thing as MASTERBILLMI been too. I have a picture and say exact what I want or looking for. I am not having any luck either getting any one. I have come across some who been burn so many times on here by players they do not trust any one on here.


Ever thought of rewriting you profile and adding what you have to offer, what a sub can expect. What is in a relationship with you for her? What makes you special that she will want to contact you?

One thought which I have found true:

"The harder you look the further away the target gets. You become so intence about the hunt that you forget what is under your nose and such intensity often drives a wary target into deep cover. You need to chill out, relax and have fun."

Are you going to munches, meetings, teaching programs and parties? There you can showcase yourself..


_____________________________

Iron Bear

Master of Bruin Cottage

http://www.bruincottage.org

Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

(in reply to HoosierScorpio)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: Game players - 3/22/2006 1:50:35 AM   
GoddessElectra


Posts: 26
Joined: 2/5/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QueenKimberlie

I agree This is the internet and so many bored ass people on here playing games.. I do rt and Online Training I do not scam people as I want them coming back I had ontte guy say he was getting me a gc from amazon for a small amount so Im like ok well when I receive it I will begin (knowing they can be cancelled before they are sent thru the amazon system) he kept asking for a session and to talke his word for it and he could send confirmation.

I Still declined until I received confirmation for myself from them Well that was Friday and still nothing and he has the nerve to say Im fake...... Just because he wanted to probally whack off for a freebie and I plainly said NO WAY been scammed doing that before.

With some guys/girls you just have a way of knowing they are gameplayers just by the way they type or the wording they have... I am starting to notice a pattern.... I have noticed all the people that have the ids Blackmail are full of s*it maybe not all but most.

Good Luck everyone for finding "real" people



I know exactly what you are saying!! TOO many wanna play games, I get worse ones that what you've explained, as I am sure you do as well.  I am learning very quickly which ones to actually reply to and others I just simply delete without a reply. so in regards to the original post, maybe your email to people just seem fake possibely?? like a copy and paste... then again who knows, just hang in there, keep on "trucking" you'll find some real ones here, I've actually found a couple reals.


GoddessElectra

_____________________________

~~Goddess is your BEGINNING & your END~~

(in reply to QueenKimberlie)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: Game players - 3/22/2006 2:40:53 AM   
bimalepainslut


Posts: 3
Joined: 6/2/2005
Status: offline 		Hi, as a newbie to this, as i have only just admitted to myself that my longings and feelings are well....normal, if that isn't oxymoronic in respect of bdsm, it is possibly fear of the unknown. Yes it is a great turn on to be contacted by a Master or Mistress but can you make the next move to actually expirience what you have only dreamed about? Yes i was guilty in the initial stage of playing games and for that i apologise. Having made the move to  real time, i am only sorry that (a) the internet wasn't invented 30 years before it was, and (b) i didn't admit my feelings much earlier and have missed out on many years of pain/pleasure as a result...sh..t Have fun all :bmps:)

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: Game players - 3/22/2006 2:48:36 AM   
bimalepainslut


Posts: 3
Joined: 6/2/2005
Status: offline 		Hi all, as a newbie to this may i apologise for any 'games' that i played :well only two, but that is two too many! By way of explanation it is the fear of the unknown that, in my case, caused this. I have had sub feelings all my life, but have only recently come to realise that they are, well ... normal, if that is not an oxymoron when applied to bdsm:) The huge step from fantasy to reality was so very hard but well worth it and hugely satisfying. My only regrets are that (a) the internet was not invented 30 years before it was, and (b) i did not admit what i am, and as a result have missed out on pain/pleasure, both giving and receiving, for so many years. Oh well hope i can be of some use to somebody. Regards bmps

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: Game players - 3/22/2006 4:18:10 AM   
redangel


Posts: 17
Joined: 12/12/2005
Status: offline 		I don't seek here. I tell people that up front. I am VERY involved locally (DC/PA/MD) and usually meet others either in group events or the club. I state what I look for just as a courtesy, not to hook up. I get tons of mail wanting a quickie. When I am polite enough to write back that I'm not interested in anyone out of my area I get nasty messages back, including a lot of "if you were a TRUE sub" messages. If the ones who wrote had a clue what the lifestyle is about it would shock me.
To be short and sweet, no one owes you a reply. It doesn't mean they are players, it just means they choose NOT to correspond with you. As adults and owners of their computers not to mention the person who pays the internet bill, it's their right to decide who they will correspond with.

angel

(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: Game players - 3/22/2006 4:47:00 AM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: redangel

I don't seek here. I tell people that up front. I am VERY involved locally (DC/PA/MD) and usually meet others either in group events or the club. I state what I look for just as a courtesy, not to hook up. I get tons of mail wanting a quickie. When I am polite enough to write back that I'm not interested in anyone out of my area I get nasty messages back, including a lot of "if you were a TRUE sub" messages. If the ones who wrote had a clue what the lifestyle is about it would shock me.
To be short and sweet, no one owes you a reply. It doesn't mean they are players, it just means they choose NOT to correspond with you. As adults and owners of their computers not to mention the person who pays the internet bill, it's their right to decide who they will correspond with.

angel


I agree with you redangel lass. I'm just confused what in my last two posts cause you to reply to me with your post..... I'm flattered though..


_____________________________

Iron Bear

Master of Bruin Cottage

http://www.bruincottage.org

Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

(in reply to redangel)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: Game players - 3/24/2006 8:47:37 AM   
yourbaby


Posts: 4
Joined: 5/26/2005
Status: offline 		it could be for all sorts of reasons... i haven't responded to some only when i am busy trying to follow up on responses to others.. and then, there's times when the person is obviously not going to be right (too far away, wrong persuasion (gender, sexuality, definition) or just the wrong Master.
 
it's not that i want to be rude, play games... anything but!! if a slave is looking for a 24/7 RT LTR, they have to explore... both the vanilla and the scene sides of their Master's personality to determine whether it's a good fit for both!  Sometimes, when i try to be polite (be myself really) with those who aren't a good fit, they take advantage of the situation and keep on... most of the time, thankfully, this isn't the case.
 
So, i say, take a new perspective: it should be a blessing for a lot of Masters that prosp[ective slaves want to play, want to get to know them... and not an insult when the slave and/or the Master determine it may not be the best situation for either and stop communicating...
 
There is an important time when the slave and Master are determining what's right for them, a sort 0f a pre-collar, pre-consideration period. It's not always communicated in the profile because neither may want it yet. A slave could be writing to several Masters, merely responding to them, and not have the time to consider even the most interesting new Prospect that may contact her... so have patience! (?)
 
any thoughts?

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: Game players - 3/24/2006 9:27:40 AM   
MsSD


Posts: 3
Status: offline 		I wasted my time for one month speaking to this guy from TN, I thought he was for real, I researched him on the web and know that he could do what he said if he wanted to.

I finally arranged a meeting, he was coming to NJ to meet and see if we had chemistry before he make a move. Up to the night he was coming, he called to say what time he would arrive that morning. He was to call me once he was settled into his room.

GUESS WHAT! No show.....since then, I'm very mean when I smell a FAKE....most want to speak with me to get a free freak for the night, but that's IT!

I hate to treat a possible r/t person like this, but if they want to freak, I have a number they can pay to get off.....other than that, I have nothing freaky to say to them.

Some will email and ask, what would you make me do, GUESS you know what they want! I tell them, I don't know what need of mine I want you to fulfill yet...let's talk interest, HOW I WANT YOU TO SERVE ME, ETC..... (believe me, I do not talk anything sexy with them, it's all about serving your MISTRESS!

NO ONE READ PROFILES ON THIS SITE EITHER, OR THEY JUST IGNORE THEM!
I'll keep looking.....with a close eye of course!



_____________________________

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sheDevil_07304group
http://www.keen.com/msshedevil
http://www.cafepress.com/mssd

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: Game players - 3/24/2006 11:08:17 PM   
dorsaisgirl1


Posts: 156
Joined: 3/13/2006
Status: offline 		finding master right is more difacult then just looking for a date for saterday night . there are people who are looking for someone that they can trust enough to give there whole life over to. and yes there are game players here just like there are game players in the singels bars.dont give up if at first you dont secsead try try again. we have all been played with at one time or anouther and to a point we can sympathys .  but dont throw a temper tantrum and say everyone is fake becouse your not getting lucky. i met my daddy here and we have been together for the past 2 years we have a 9 month old . and are looking for anouther girl to join us to become part of the family .we have been pationt and will continue to be.

(in reply to MsSD)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: Game players - 3/25/2006 1:38:36 AM   
dincubus


Posts: 231
Joined: 10/22/2005
From: South Dakota
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: TanwynWV

*shrugs* its happens. Such is life on the internet. If you are looking seriously in real time, you might do well to see if you can find a local group.


I know what you mean. I have been on the net since 1996 or so, and I have seen most all of it. So i take things with a grain of salt, and do what needs to be done.

(in reply to TanwynWV)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: Game players - 3/25/2006 2:34:30 AM   
MistressOfGa


Posts: 2929
Status: offline 		Calli, lmao! I thought the same thing, almost did a search for it lol


As to the OP, welcome to the boards.

_____________________________





(in reply to orfunboi)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: Game players - 3/25/2006 5:59:52 AM   
MHOO314


Posts: 3628
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline 		Ok so here is My $.02---CM as all the sites whether BDSM or otherwise are like Direct Marketing through the mail--it takes alot of hits to get a decent lead--and often people say they are going to take an offer and never follow through---so if you don't want to take the time to sift and do the qualification, then don't "advertise"--
 


_____________________________

SLUTS: Southern Ladies Under Tremendous Stress...

Mistress Hathor


(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: Game players - 3/25/2006 6:07:15 AM   
PenelopePitstop


Posts: 254
Joined: 4/22/2005
From: UK
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MASTERBILLMI

Why are there so many people on this site that seem to be game players? They say they are searching, you take the time to write to them, and not just stupid one liners, and they either don't respond at all or do respond and say they are interested but just play with your mind.

Maybe its because you have loaded yourself with expectations to begin with? How do you know they intend to play with your mind? How do you know your definition of searching is the same as theirs? Why are you so upset anyway? It's tempting to invest a lot of emotional time in people, but a lot of relationships start out as casual friendships, and we tend not to berate our friends for not showing enough interest in us when we are getting to know them.


_____________________________

Wickedness is a myth created by good people to account for the curious attractiveness of others ~ Oscar Wilde

"You had me at Goodbye"

(in reply to MASTERBILLMI)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: Game players - 3/25/2006 6:52:05 AM   
Urza


Posts: 104
Joined: 3/8/2005
Status: offline 		and i thought this thread may have been about xbox! :(

Well theres certainly a lot of shit on the profiles, but you can generally tell who the idiots are.

(in reply to PenelopePitstop)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Game players Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.070