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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 10:24:43 AM

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Who wouldn't get blue in the holidays? We are in a season of madness, with forced and contrived "holiday cheer" being the cheif culprit.
We are bombarded with phony depictions of perfect Thanksgivings, perfect Christmases, all of course accompanied by the commecial presentations of all the stuff we are supposed to buy and acquire.

Of course no one's life is like what we are told it should be like, and of course were are encouraged to feel miserable if our life doesn't match the Gap commercial.

You mentioned the Jewish New Year beginning in the fall; so does the Catholic calender begin on All Souls Day, the autumn season of harvested fields, dead leaves, dried cornstalks and withered flowers.

Our ancestors had, I believe, a more true grasp of life that our sadnesses and tragedies and losses are integral to our lives. Our society today tries to airbrush sorrow and sadness away in favor of frenzied consumerism and greedy acqisition, but that leaves us feeling even more empty and bereft than before.

Holiday blues is not an aberration, not something to be whisked away in shame- sorrow and loss is something that we accept, and endure.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 10:44:03 AM

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An idea perhaps, maybe my own feeling of not fitting in to xmas is to do with the expectation of consumerist madness, a frenzy that happens, people feel compelled to do, whether they can afford it or not to avoid the guilt where it is felt people expect.

Perhaps with many who suffer this holidays effects, the truth of the seasonal festival has been lost in the filth of money, debt and wealth.

I once did an xmas where a £2 limit of spending was permitted between two people by prior and family agreement, that xmas was one of the best yet. But of course it did not help the treasury much in taxes paid, but it sure forced creativity with cost, what thinking was done with the limits stated, an exercise money seems to make redundant.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 12:03:15 PM

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Lushy-
Who wouldn't get blue in the holidays? We are in a season of madness, with forced and contrived "holiday cheer" being the cheif culprit.
We are bombarded with phony depictions of perfect Thanksgivings, perfect Christmases, all of course accompanied by the commecial presentations of all the stuff we are supposed to buy and acquire.

Of course no one's life is like what we are told it should be like, and of course were are encouraged to feel miserable if our life doesn't match the Gap commercial.

You mentioned the Jewish New Year beginning in the fall; so does the Catholic calender begin on All Souls Day, the autumn season of harvested fields, dead leaves, dried cornstalks and withered flowers.

Our ancestors had, I believe, a more true grasp of life that our sadnesses and tragedies and losses are integral to our lives. Our society today tries to airbrush sorrow and sadness away in favor of frenzied consumerism and greedy acqisition, but that leaves us feeling even more empty and bereft than before.

Holiday blues is not an aberration, not something to be whisked away in shame- sorrow and loss is something that we accept, and endure.

Its just the grief getting in the way. But I much like jewish Xmas. No pressure, we take in a movie, go eat some chines food. Its fun and hannukah is not overblown. I usually enjoy the lack of pressure the holiday thing. Though this years emptiness is do an incredible person who can never be replaced.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 12:15:28 PM

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Yes, I'm definitely feeling the holiday blues. I feel for you, during these hard times. I really do, and relate all to well to the struggles of isolation, illness and life struggles. Hang in there ladybug!

How did I handle the holiday blues? I withdrew and isolated myself. One of the reasons I signed back in to CM, was to re-connect in some small way, with others. Still can't face the demons offline, but those can wait....right?

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 12:15:58 PM

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I am sorry for your loss. Take heart.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 2:12:11 PM

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It's been a hard year for me as well, I feel for you OP.

I suppose I have a case of the blues myself, though it's more of a distaste for the whole madness behind the season. I'm certain there won't be any consumerist holiday celebrations in my near future, I've really been turned off by the whole thing.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 2:17:35 PM

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My father died of leukemia, I left my husband and got divorced, I only see my girls 50% of the time, both of my 19 year old cats died within a month and a half of each other, my photography business is doing horribly, I have no job or money...that's my 2009 in a nutshell.
And yet, I've never been happier. I'm finally living my life like I've always wanted with a man who I have fallen deeply in love with.
It takes too much energy to be sad. It's so much easier to be happy. Doesn't mean I've forgotten all of the hard or sad things...just means that I'm turning them into positives for me and mine.

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RE: Anyone else with holiday blues? - 12/26/2009 2:37:14 PM

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GO AILEEN!!!

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