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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Hijacking is what I do..... or used too.

As I said I am rusty. Give me a couple of days and I will be fine.

Give me a week and I will be moderated.

give me an inch.....................

Jeff

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ORIGINAL: subtee

~FR

It seems to me a "do me" Dominant or submissive is, within the context of a P/E relationship, one who does not take or accept responsibilities within his or her "role" (for lack of a better word).

Another question occurs to me: is it at all possible to be in a relationship without responsibilities toward/within that relationship? Perhaps this is hijacking...

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

One thing i learned early in my few years into BDSM was about the 'do me sub'. The one who is mainly into her own pleasures. From what i have read and listen to  people talking, this type of sub is not usually sought for a long term Ds or Ms relationship.  The reason mostly is they do not think of the 'we' in relationships but just me, me, me.

The past couple days, while being in a reflective mode,  certain profiles, posting and remarks in chatrooms stood out to me. Upon reading them,  i heard myself state, 'oh 'they' are a do-me Dom'. With those words slipping out of my mouth, i began to wonder if there is such a  thing as a do-me-Dom? The Dom who cloaks under his/her title and has the right to do as he / she pleases because it is all about them'.-do-me-Dom'. They as a rule make remarks that show very little empathy for any s-type that is/ would be in their life. . Life circles all around them instead of the D/s  or M/s known as the.'we'. Is  this type of persona  accepted and even expected with a Dom?,  If so, are s-types happy with a do-me Dom? I wonder if some people would  view the do-me -Dom in the same way as a do-me -s/type?  Do dominants ever see another dom and think they are a 'do-me-dom', and how does that sit with you?

Please keep in mind i am not addressing anyone in particular as being a do-me-dom. It is something, i just thought of the other day, as i been meditating on some things Sir brought to my attention regarding the last Sir.  This is meant in not way to slam anyone, just to hear both s-types and Doms opinions about how they view this concept.

Thank you ahead of time for reading my post.
Blessings
wisdomtogive
 

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ORIGINAL: Acer49

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

One thing i learned early in my few years into BDSM was about the 'do me sub'. The one who is mainly into her own pleasures. From what i have read and listen to  people talking, this type of sub is not usually sought for a long term Ds or Ms relationship.  The reason mostly is they do not think of the 'we' in relationships but just me, me, me.

The past couple days, while being in a reflective mode,  certain profiles, posting and remarks in chatrooms stood out to me. Upon reading them,  i heard myself state, 'oh 'they' are a do-me Dom'. With those words slipping out of my mouth, i began to wonder if there is such a  thing as a do-me-Dom? The Dom who cloaks under his/her title and has the right to do as he / she pleases because it is all about them'.-do-me-Dom'. They as a rule make remarks that show very little empathy for any s-type that is/ would be in their life. . Life circles all around them instead of the D/s  or M/s known as the.'we'. Is  this type of persona  accepted and even expected with a Dom?,  If so, are s-types happy with a do-me Dom? I wonder if some people would  view the do-me -Dom in the same way as a do-me -s/type?  Do dominants ever see another dom and think they are a 'do-me-dom', and how does that sit with you?

Please keep in mind i am not addressing anyone in particular as being a do-me-dom. It is something, i just thought of the other day, as i been meditating on some things Sir brought to my attention regarding the last Sir.  This is meant in not way to slam anyone, just to hear both s-types and Doms opinions about how they view this concept.

Thank you ahead of time for reading my post.
Blessings
wisdomtogive
 

I learned along time ago that if my submissive is not happy, neither will I be. Comming across as some prima donna all about "me" attitude will not work in my best interest. Yes I have seen may so called dominants act as if it is all about them. Besides thinking their actions were totally disrepectful to the title they think their were entitled to claim. I remembered something someone told me along time ago. A dominants ability to dominate starts and stops with a submissive's desire to submit

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ORIGINAL: servilething

The Dominant is the source of whatever need the submissive satisfies. I'd expect the doing to be all about what they want, and none about what I want, except for the happy coincidence of my wanting to do what they want, because they want it. The Dominant may want to do things or have things done, but the whole point of Dominating is to impose your will, which is what there is to submit to. As a submissive if you are looking to direct and control things to suit your needs, you're not submitting. As a Dominant if you aren't selfish, you're not dominating. Feeble suggestions lack the dominant quality of direct commands.