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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 11:58:03 AM

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It tell my loved ones everything...

"Anyways, Dad, I was banging Sara, you know the girl that Mom said she thought was really cute and fun, in the ass with a huge twelve in plug rammed up her twatarino."

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:01:31 PM

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twatarino? Saras italian?

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:01:39 PM

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And I bet DomiDad was saying you know I find her a little bit tight, Son.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:01:50 PM

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Can I have the waaaaaakeeeeen, now that you are done with her?

Will you hose her off first?

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:25:26 PM

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that I had to repair my car, that I got a dvd that was interesting, browse and borrow books from my sister, that I think it is cold, ask if they want to play pinochle, trade a recipe or two, I rarely (in fact I think never) talk about my dick to my brothers and sisters, maybe I am the only one.

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You play pinochle?

Sorry, couldn't help myself. It's been a while since I've heard anyone talk of playing pinochle.

Back on track ... No one in my family discusses intimate details ... I have few close friends for that.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:27:29 PM

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Im a fuckin killer at the game kallisto, wanna play for them panties? double deck or single?

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 12:32:00 PM

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Cut throat or teams?

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 1:29:00 PM

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We are two people in a committed relationship, first and foremost. I have met His family, as His girlfriend, He has met mine, as my boyfriend. The details and dynamic we have are not family business. His parents complimented Him on my beauty, grace and intelligence, telling Him "He lucked out" My parents found Him well spoken and very attractive, and very much attentive to me.

Nothing wrong with any of that, people who meet us think we are a great couple, and we are. I just happen to also be His slave.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 1:33:50 PM

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Im a fuckin killer at the game kallisto, wanna play for them panties? double deck or single?

Ron

omg ... a man after my own panties ... oh wait .. that's not the right saying.

double deck by all means.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 1:34:58 PM

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We are two people in a committed relationship, first and foremost. I have met His family, as His girlfriend, He has met mine, as my boyfriend. The details and dynamic we have are not family business. His parents complimented Him on my beauty, grace and intelligence, telling Him "He lucked out" My parents found Him well spoken and very attractive, and very much attentive to me.

Nothing wrong with any of that, people who meet us think we are a great couple, and we are. I just happen to also be His slave.

Well put ...

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 4:35:35 PM

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No different than dating or living with anyone else.

We don't walk around naked 24/7 with leash and collar and whips hanging from the walls.

We act like every other normal, typical human beings on the streets. Just because you are into bdsm doesn't mean you're special. It doesn't mean you need to share your sex life with anyone. Imo that's just tacky.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 6:16:29 PM

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I've always treated it like any other girlfriend. My mom and I have a good relationship, but not to the point where I feel the need to tell her what turns me on.

She did amuse me a few years back... one of her friends asked if she thought I'd slept with the girl I was dating. She told her "They've been dating for three months... if not, I'm worried about the boy."

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/28/2009 7:17:19 PM

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I don't ask about my family about their private lives with their significant others, and I certainly don't volunteer anything about mine.

Why would you? IMO, somethings are just meant to be private.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/29/2009 8:44:07 PM

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it would be the same as any other relationship, and an age difference should not matter, or atleast to me it does not matter. i do not tell my family anything that they do not need to know as i am a grown woman.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 2:06:58 AM

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My parents and I have an understanding; if I don't tell them about my sex life, they won't tell me about theirs. ;)

Honestly, I think my parents know enough to not want to know. A year ago, they decided to "clean up" my condo when I was out of town for a few months. Cleaning out included the eye hooks in the ceiling and straightening my rope bag. They've never said anything, and it hasn't really come up in conversation.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 11:08:10 AM

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...do you introduce your sub/slave as a vanilla girlfriend type female or make sure shes hidden away or make her go out?. Do you ever take her with you to visit your family?

...How do you deal with this or do most people tend to keep their subs/slaves a secret from the rest of the people in their lifes. I am meaning that they keep the girl in question a secret as i assume for at least the majority of people the nature of the relationship will always be kept a secret.

...So if you had a sub come to live with you and her mum wanted to come meet you and see where she was living would you say no, that you are not interested in that sort of thing?

From your statements, I would assume that you are experiencing a situation where the man doesn't want to meet your family or you to meet his?

Certainly, everyone has to do things the way that makes them most comfortable, BUT do you want someone to make you feel like their "dirty little secret?" If he wants to "hide" you from his family and friends, exactly what is the nature of your relationship? For me it wouldn't seem as though I had any importance to him in the whole of his life, only in that BDSM area. BDSM is really a very small part of our lives on the whole. Personally, if someone wanted to keep me confined to only that part of their life and keep me secret, separate and apart from everything else in his life, I would not be happy and if the issue could not be resolved, I would leave.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 11:18:56 AM

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I've never really talked about any of my relationships with my family. I see no reason to unless it becomes serious. Also for me (and I speak for only me) I am of the mindset that I'm not just looking for a s-type and that is her only role and nothing else. I am looking for a relationship so when I find that, the term "girlfriend" to the outside world will not a stretch. I also don't expect how we interact with each other in public or around friends and family to be so far outside the norm that it would be cause for too much inquiry (as someone else put it, I'm not going to be walking around "all domly" with a whip at my side and she's not going to be crawling around all "subby").

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 12:27:46 PM

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My children all know exactly what type of relationship I have from the youngest at 15yrs to the eldest at 28yrs, and the eldest's wife also knows. My Mum knows and any of the children's friends that spend time here knows. Any friends I have know. It's not of any great interest beyond any initial mild curiousity.

My relationship is slightly unusual, it's not some "shocking fact" that I've ever felt the faintest desire to conceal. My relationship ISN'T my sex-life and just as it was assumed I had sex when I was married, it's assumed that I have sex now. My marriage wasn't defined by sex and nor is the fact that I'm owned.

Basically, it's a faintly interesting fact about me ..........there are other things that cause far more interest than that one. We seem to make M/s look terribly ordinary.

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 1:23:56 PM

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From your statements, I would assume that you are experiencing a situation where the man doesn't want to meet your family or you to meet his?

Certainly, everyone has to do things the way that makes them most comfortable, BUT do you want someone to make you feel like their "dirty little secret?" If he wants to "hide" you from his family and friends, exactly what is the nature of your relationship? For me it wouldn't seem as though I had any importance to him in the whole of his life, only in that BDSM area. BDSM is really a very small part of our lives on the whole. Personally, if someone wanted to keep me confined to only that part of their life and keep me secret, separate and apart from everything else in his life, I would not be happy and if the issue could not be resolved, I would leave.

And if this is the case, how different is this from being the mistress of a married man in the vanilla world? And how often do those relationships work out?

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RE: What do you tell your family? - 12/30/2009 1:30:24 PM

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I tell my family the truth. I am his wife, but first and foremost I am his slave. He has other slaves as well and we share them ( which is easier than trying to explain what alpha slave means). He has a lifetime committment, which means just as much as my wedding vows with Anna and William.

My family learned long ago that I will do as I choose with my life and some of my choices are not mainstream, possibly even eccentric, but if they want me in their life they will find a way to accept it as well as my family and treat us all with dignity and respect.

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