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Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 10:51:41 AM   
subMan4Madame


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Status: offline 		Strictly speaking there is still one more year to go before we can call it a proper decade, but since we more or less collectively got off on the wrong foot with that year 2000 thingy, I'll throw it out anyway. No proper year end without silly listings, right?

Not fishing for your private event stories here, but what public BDSM events or evolutions mark the decade (so 2000 - 2009) for you?

In my own view:
(NB: Femdom simply being the BDSM-segment most relevant to me; s4M)

Best in general:
BDSM resources on the Internet becoming democratically accessible

Best in Femdom:
Akasha switching to public message boards like this one

Worst in general:
Aiken selling Bcom to Vcom

Worst in Femdom:
The old fashioned date selection method of hand-written letters of application fading into insignificance along with their context of BDSM-magazines. The physical letter offered extra possibilities for your letter to jump out of the pack immediately.I guess the same could be said for MaleDom but with its more benign m/f ratio distortion the effect of extra is probably smaller there.


What are your highlights like?
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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 11:39:12 AM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		nothing so aerodite - highs and lows, big steps, little steps, personal stuff.

but yes, id agree with you on the internet thing and people taking the trouble to set up sites for newcomers to explore and read.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 11:57:48 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I will never come on these boards professing to speak for 'the community'.  I think anyone that does so believes themselves too self important.

My personal bests and worsts.....

I said hello to many good people who are into wiitwd.  At the same time, I had to say good-bye to many others.  Neither or which I can see as good or bad.  Life is made up of meetings and partings.  That is the way of it.

I went to great events in this past year.  Opportunities that I will never forget.

I laid the foundations with  others to never be forgotten.

A deployment ended and another began.  All things must pass.

I couldn't care less about what someone writes on the internet.  It will never surpass meeting someone in person in saying hello.  In My opinion, the old way of smiling when you meet someone and shaking their hand is still the best way, even though I've never made a dime from it.  Your motivations may vary.


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 11:59:53 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:05:34 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Undoubtedly my meteoric rise in becoming the Dom of the decade. It was a title that did not fall my way easily...

Only by winning the "Great Dom Off" from '04 through '09 was I able to gain the respect and notoriety required to be called "The Dom of The Decade."

I wear the belt when I go to church.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:07:46 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Community Bible? or some 'catholic' institution.

Now there's some community.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:10:28 PM   
Jeffff


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Three years running!


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:16:03 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		You gotta admit that aside from me winning the Dom of the decade and wearing my belt to church, all of the most interesting bdsm related shit has happened in the Femdom arena.

The op is correct.  Where would we be today without the rise of the femdoms?

Was that the fourth terminator movie?   I believe they (femdoms) all starved to death when their paypal accounts were all terminated.

"You are terminated"

So sad.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:17:44 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:21:11 PM   
SimplyIsaac


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subMan4Madame
What are your highlights like?


I think mine were the "Jeff / Carol" funnies.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 12:24:00 PM   
subtee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You gotta hand it to a guy that wears his strapon to church, sorta puts the priests outta business, though.

Ron


...hand it to him? I thought he'd "hand" it...

~no wonder i'm single tee

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 2:52:25 PM   
subMan4Madame


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Status: offline 		This is pretty much the type of reaction I had hoped to avoid by stating immediately "NOT fishing for your personal / private event stories here":

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Undoubtedly my meteoric rise in becoming the Dom of the decade. It was a title that did not fall my way easily...

Only by winning the "Great Dom Off" from '04 through '09 was I able to gain the respect and notoriety required to be called "The Dom of The Decade."

I wear the belt when I go to church.


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 2:54:14 PM   
subMan4Madame


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Spend a little more time here. Read a few more posts.

You will realize there is no "community"

Jeff


You read that somewhere, right? Glampers?

Besides, your statement is a contradictio in terminis - the act itself of reading or writing is community-oriented.
Perhaps your statement is more about semantics? (But then I'm not really interested, bye bye!)

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community
In biological terms, a community is a group of interacting organisms sharing an environment. In human communities, intent, belief, resources, preferences, ...
A virtual community, e-community or online community is a group of people that primarily interact via communication media such as newsletters, telephone, ...
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virtual_community

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:00:17 PM   
subMan4Madame


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Status: offline 		Interesting mind set, dear LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I will never come on these boards professing to speak for 'the community'.  I think anyone that does so believes themselves too self important.

I couldn't care less about what someone writes on the internet.  It will never surpass meeting someone in person in saying hello.  In My opinion, the old way of smiling when you meet someone and shaking their hand is still the best way, even though I've never made a dime from it.  Your motivations may vary.



You clearly have some kind of preoccupation about the concept of 'community', but that's okay, not my problem.

I read your statement like saying 'I move rocks in my local river bend and that has more (personal) influence than discussing on the internet how rivers and their water quality could be managed.'

Do you seriously believe that your "impact" in matters of BDSM is limited to the hands you shake in your personal life?

I could understand how a newbie domina with great reading and writing skills (comparable to those of LadyPact) could perhaps remain blissfully unaware of her or even any community impact for maybe the first year or so. So busy selecting and dating male subs and all, but people given enough time and intelligence to simply look around a bit more do see the broader picture.

I am Flemish, living on the border of French and Dutch culture and the impact of that "environment" (more "en vogue" perhaps than the semantic field of "community"?) is blatantly obvious and signifant.

a) French culture: hardly any open and free web community sites (with personal ads), it's mostly pretty closed up and commercial. Personal ads are mostly commercial and male sub ads rarely deviate from the stereotype presentations.

b) Flemish culture: several free and gratis web sites but rather limited in functionality and message boards do not really thrive. Personal ad texts published on Flemish sites are similarly a bit limited and not very flamboyant.

c) Dutch culture: well-developed websites with great functionality for personal ads. The personal presentations on such sites are clearly pleasant and even flamboyant.

d) English-speaking cultures: several well-developed websites with great functionality for personal ads.

It could be interesting to document how the quality of personal ads of English male subs compares to Dutch counter parts, but the Flemish can simply check north and south and see precisely that laid out before them, right in front of their eyes.

I can choose where to make my internet postings, but thats's not likely going to be in French environments as long as their community dynamic is so locked up. Similarly, I'd prefer not to post in a Flemish web site suffering from a closed up policy because there my input is clearly lost on a newbie on the outside still too scared to register into a BDSM website.

So clearly, the question of what evolutions affect you by shaping and unlocking your community / environment is very pertinent. It even affects people with a sole interest in shaking hands locally...

Your personal life important? Of course, but that's just not on topic here.

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:01:25 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		A little bit cranky there sparky.



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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:08:28 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Undoubtedly my meteoric rise in becoming the Dom of the decade. It was a title that did not fall my way easily...

Only by winning the "Great Dom Off" from '04 through '09 was I able to gain the respect and notoriety required to be called "The Dom of The Decade."

I wear the belt when I go to church.


does it spin like John Cena's....lol

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:09:52 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subMan4Madame
Your personal life important? Of course, but that's just not on topic here.

Yes, it was on topic.  Your "refutation," however, was not.  She was speaking from a position of personal experience and humility.  You (and, incidentally, who are you? thousands of people nationwide know who Lady Pact is) contributed nothing additional, except perhaps a feeling of ill will.

If you don't show some common sense and decency by backing off from your passive-aggressive anti-femdom "submissive" nature -- which is far and away the most common sexual orientation possessed by men who operate submissive profiles on this site -- then this thread will get fed to the wolves, and it will deserve to be.  Your choice.


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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:09:59 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You gotta hand it to a guy that wears his strapon to church, sorta puts the priests outta business, though.

Ron




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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:14:29 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		Wow...thought this was a pretty good topic and was going to comment on the past decade, but if this is just a vessel for the OP to be nasty to everyone, nevermind

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RE: Best and worst of the past decade in BDSM (community)? - 12/28/2009 3:18:22 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		I can see Domi or Ron or Me, having it coming. But LP?

Not so much.


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