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RE: Finding a Master - 3/20/2006 8:41:13 PM

enslavegirl

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i was just comming in reading boards
just chatting to whom ever would email me
just being me
not really expecting to find a Master at all really

then i was swept off my feet before i ever knew what happened to me,
so have heart, the best is yet to come for you cuddleheart

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/21/2006 3:41:43 AM

cuddleheart50

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Thank you enslavegirl, I appreciate the encouragement!

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/21/2006 9:24:47 PM

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i have been here about 2 1/2 years; made every single error possible; and still standing. i think you should answer your mail, and go to YIM with interesting Men, but i don't recommend "searching " as in initiating contact with a Dom or Master (sorry amayos). It just does not work for me; Men seem to feel i'm easy.

BTW, i have made tons of friends and really treasure them; they are a source of joy. Posting here is one way to meet people.

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/22/2006 12:18:15 AM

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Certainly I endorse patience, however do not neglect to bring changes about in your life 'as if' you had the Master you already wanted. As an example--If you would want your Master to help you find better health, then act 'as if' you had that Master, and go join the gym and get in an exercise habit. Take this any direction--I went from being a tom boy to a purse wielding, make up wearing, high heel strutting lady, finally. Not that I don't have days where I just take my wallet toss on my jeans an tennis shoes and say screw it with the hair ;-)

The self confidence you will find in doing things 'as if' will only help you when you meet folks in real life.It will make you very appealing to those who are seeking submissives, as well. You don't have to wait to have a Dom or Master to do good things in your life, and doing them before will make you a very 'hot property'.

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/22/2006 6:24:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiale

Certainly I endorse patience, however do not neglect to bring changes about in your life 'as if' you had the Master you already wanted. As an example--If you would want your Master to help you find better health, then act 'as if' you had that Master, and go join the gym and get in an exercise habit. Take this any direction--I went from being a tom boy to a purse wielding, make up wearing, high heel strutting lady, finally. Not that I don't have days where I just take my wallet toss on my jeans an tennis shoes and say screw it with the hair ;-)

The self confidence you will find in doing things 'as if' will only help you when you meet folks in real life.It will make you very appealing to those who are seeking submissives, as well. You don't have to wait to have a Dom or Master to do good things in your life, and doing them before will make you a very 'hot property'.

What excellent advice! TY kiale.

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/22/2006 8:47:18 PM

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All of your suggestions will be taken to heart, sometimes, waiting is the hardest part. But, if that is something that I have to do to find my Master, then I will wait.

We have been searching for a slave to serve in our home. We understand the frustration in waiting. We are going through the same thing. We send our best regards to you in your search and hope that your one finds you soon.

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RE: Finding a Master - 3/24/2006 4:42:14 AM

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I'm fairly new to the lifestyle, about a year and a half now. My problem is finding a Master, everyone I meet(Doms) only want to play, no one seems to want to have a lasting relationship(at least im not finding that). Is it me? or am I not going about this in the right way?

It is very frustrating. After my Master of 18 years passed i spent 6 years looking. 1st, BE CAREFUL! Meet them in public places. Are they willing to give you their home phone number? If not they are probably married and cheating. Join a few local support groups for bdsm lifestylers, join a munch group, do not go home with anyone right away. Ask for and check references. Are there people in the groups willing to talk about the prospective Master? If you meet online are there slaves/subs they have owned or who know them who you cam talk with? Ask for their full name once you have reached a stage where you are planning to meet them or spend the night, then do a people search. It is free at many locations and can weed out criminals or potential abusers. Once you have more experience you will be able to "feel" potential owners out yourself. Do not give up! There are also a lot of great people out there in the scene. Just like a vanilla dating game it takes time to find that One or Ones for you. After a long hard disappointing search i found a Master i absolutely love and adore and got his lady wife (who i find to be perfection) as an unlooked for bonus.

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