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thornhappy -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 7:23:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23
Never do anti-Kantians -- who invariably subscribe to self-serving false moralities....

Who determines true or false moralities?




thornhappy -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 7:53:02 AM)

There are many rational people, and about as many moralities.

It's more than evident that you believe in a specific ethical system, which is the only "true" ethical system.

It would've been interesting to see you in an engineering ethics class.




Lucienne -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 8:58:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

It really is weak sauce, since I spent most of that time doing serious soul-searching and some therapy.  Coming to terms with my sexuality was an incredibly difficult process, but seven years ago was when I was first exposed to BDSM in a real sense (as opposed to that thing that people did that I tried not to think about), and six years ago was my last vanilla sexual relationship (which was deeply unsatisfying).  I wasn't not having sex during that time because I was failing at getting laid.  I was celibate, as in the purposeful and intentional absention from sex.  I had several girlfriends during that period.


Those may be all the reasons that you didn't feel humiliated by the "can't get laid" commentary, but that isn't why it's weak sauce. If you'd spent the past six years trying desperately to get laid and even hookers rejected your money, it wouldn't change the fact that resorting to "you can't get laid" insults in the context of this (as with most) discussion is lame.

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And I don't think you can find anything from me in this thread that is clearly insulting that wasn't a response to someone who was being clearly insulting, condescending, or both.


I'm sure I could, but someone would have to pay me to do it. That goes beyond the scope of my entertainment and/or educational purposes.

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Why don't you go back and read Invisible Black's post about definitions and reconsider your refusal to entertain them?


I read his post.  While I think "mores" or "values" are better terms or what he calls "socialital ethics," I thought his post was pretty spot on.


If you're interested in moving forward a discussion about ethics, it's usually a good idea to acknowledge these things openly and use them as a building block for your point. Which brings me to this...

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Or maybe reconsider your point that it would take thousands of pages for you to actually make Kant's argument in the context of Animus Rex's comment that citing Kant in inappropriate forums is the hallmark of a poseur.


I think that's an entirely bullshit argument that is only intended to make the insinuation that I am some sort of poseur.  What is an "appropriate forum?"  We are discussing ethics, the idea that I'm not allowed to mention one of the most important and influential figures in the development of modern rational ethics is actually really silly.

I mean seriously Lucienne, explain to me how this argument of AnimusRex's is different than saying "You lose the argument because you thought too deeply about it." or "You lose the arguument because you're too well informed/educated." or "You lose the argument because you took it seriously."


Ok. I think he gave examples of appropriate forums -- places where people would be likely or interested in having an in depth discussion of Kant. This isn't one of those forums. It's also pretty evident that you weren't interested in having an in depth discussion about Kant either. You refused to support your conclusory statements with anything at all for quite awhile. And, really, when you're refusing to support your argument because it would take too long and why doesn't everyone just go read Kant... well, if the argument is too long to have here then why did you raise it here without any qualification whatsoever?

Citing Kant as authoritative and making an argument that consists of "you people don't know what you're talking about" is an argument that's easy to lose because it's not really much of an argument at all. You never demonstrated that you've thought deeply about it, or that you're particularly well-informed on the subject, or that you took the argument seriously. You name dropped Kant, told people they were stupid, and eventually demonstrated some cursory knowledge of Kant that could've been gleaned from a wikipedia page. If you were the master of Kantian ethics that you claim to be, it seems to me you could have explained fairly succinctly your objection to Aynne's sales techniques without referencing Kant at all. It's not that you're not allowed to mention Kant, it's that doing so really added nothing to your argument.






lusciouslips19 -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 9:31:48 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
"Dumb Bunny"? Come on give me some slack here. I get to be a little on that bandwagon after that celibate freak calls me a dumb bunny.


Considering you had already insulted me a half dozen times, had brought up irrelevant details of my personal life in an attempt to humiliate me, and were incredibly rude in every exchange, and considering that the worst thing I've called you is a dumb bunny, this is the most hypocritical nonsense you could have come up with.

You are the one with the problem here Aynne. You attacked me first, and I've actually been rather polite to you considering how rude you've been.

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Icarys I know some of the women here may just flit in and out of threads, but perhaps they don't want to be the target of such asshole comments that have been made to me and SexyRed here, and I can't blame them. It seems that Psychtwat has a hard on for intelligent strongwilled redheads. Wonder how many times he has watched old Joan Crawford movies?


See, here's what's going on. You are being a total bitch to me, and it is making me increasingly hostile, and you have convinced yourself somehow that I have it in for you because I'm returning your hostility.

Go back and re-read through the threads. Calling you a "dumb bunny" is the only time I have insulted you, and that was only after pages of abuse being directed at me while you and your friends patted each other on the back and called me a pompous ass.

I'm not the bad guy here. That's you. You're the one who is making this personal, you're the one who is making this hostile, and you're the one who started flaming first. The thread is all right there to be read.



I gave you the definition of Ethics and Ethos and you called me an idiot for it. After I have been nothing but nice to you.

Can you explain this to me? Why that was ok? All I did was give you a rational argument of why you were wrong by the root of the word itself.

I did not flame you.




zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 9:35:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

There are many rational people, and about as many moralities.

It's more than evident that you believe in a specific ethical system, which is the only "true" ethical system.

It would've been interesting to see you in an engineering ethics class.



Going along that vein, I would love to see him in a medical ethics meeting, given that according to him medical ethics doesn't exist.




Lockit -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 9:40:32 AM)

I think someone is allergic to tattoo ink and needs an antidote.




xssve -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:02:54 AM)

I find it vastly simplifies things if you define morality as a personal, subjective set of values, and ethics as an objective set of universal values.

How do you tell the difference? If your actions affect anybody but you, that effect can be quantified and assessed for positive or negative effect - that's ethics: how your behavior or a given act affects others.

In a very practical sense, it's simply a cost:benefit ratio. All social actions have consequences, and presumably, most act are performed with the intention of benefiting the actor in some way. Thus, the ethicality of the act can be assessed by examining how the costs and benefits are distributed - the more balanced the cost:benefit ratio, the more ethical the act.

Theft is clearly unethical for example: the thief gets all the benefit, the victim bears all the cost - this asymmetrical distribution of cost:benefit is at the core of ethical assessment.

This is more akin to consequentialism: Kantian, or deonotlogical ethics, is based on intention, not results, and in law, there is usually a mixture of both: the difference between First Degree Murder and Manslaughter is one of intent, but the difference between murder and self defense or accidental death is large a matter of cost:benefit - intent figures into it, but intent is not necessary to assign culpability, i.e., negligent homicide, etc.

On the other subject, a complete lack of ethics is not a requirement in sales, but it doesn't necessarily hurt.

In this case, unethical sales practices contributed substantially to systemic risk that affected the entire global economy in a very negative way.

Economically, you could say there is something badly askew with the how risk was being distributed in this business model - brokers, or anybody that can collect a profit (benefit, in this case, a commission) while deferring their risk (cost) down the chain, becomes a weak link in the risk chain - if they can maximize their benefit and simply pass the cost/risk along to somebody further down the chain, it incentivizes unethical behavior, maximizing systemic risk.

A more balanced distribution of risk might have prevented a lot of problems here, as it fell out, it constitutes a failure on the part of the investment banks to do their due dilligence on the brokers and bundlers - and the bundlers were on the banking end of the chain.




zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:06:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I think someone is allergic to tattoo ink and needs an antidote.


Ethically I can't give it to him, I'm not a doctor or even a nurse and I might kill him [8D]




xssve -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:30:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

There are many rational people, and about as many moralities.

It's more than evident that you believe in a specific ethical system, which is the only "true" ethical system.

It would've been interesting to see you in an engineering ethics class.



Going along that vein, I would love to see him in a medical ethics meeting, given that according to him medical ethics doesn't exist.



The Terry Schiavo case is a good example - if you review the ethics boards criteria, you'll find it reduces well to a cost benefit:ratio analysis: among the other well discussed considerations for example, was the question of whether her husbands desire to take her off of life support was motivated strictly by the desire to offset his financial losses.

Ironically, the fact that it was the husbands decision and not the parents, is legislation based on archaic Biblical law, Genesis 2.




zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:40:03 AM)

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The Terry Schiavo case is a good example - if you review the ethics boards criteria, you'll find it reduces well to a cost benefit:ratio analysis: among the other well discussed considerations for example, was the question of whether her husbands desire to take her off of life support was motivated strictly by the desire to offset his financial losses.

Ironically, the fact that it was the husbands decision and not the parents, is legislation based on archaic Biblical law, Genesis 2.


Interesting, I didn't know that. Do you know what their ruling on that was? That sort of leaks into legal territory, does it not?




xssve -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:57:44 AM)

It's been a while, they determined that the husbands financial costs were not the sole or overriding consideration in his request - among other things, I think that there were others offering to offset those costs - and they did end up withdrawing the feeding tube.




LadyAngelika -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 10:59:19 AM)

FR

You people are still turning around in circles about this? Wow. Many masochists here! ;-)

- LA




thornhappy -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:05:55 AM)

It's like eating really spicy food...sometimes you can't help yourself!




sexyred1 -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:07:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

FR

You people are still turning around in circles about this? Wow. Many masochists here! ;-)

- LA


How right you are LadyAngelika. If you notice, all the "dumb unethical cunts" that certain posters keep insulting with nothing to back up their idiotic claims other than some retreads of old philosophers,  have moved on to more intelligent and productive discussions, while the blowhards continue to suck the air right out of the room. Which in their cases, are likely to be dingy little bedrooms, filled with nothing but video games, Star Wars postes and dust. Talk about masochists in Dom 's clothing. :)




lusciouslips19 -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:14:48 AM)

DesCartes walks into a bar
The Bartender says,
"Hey buddy, can I buy ya a drink?"
Descartes says, "I think not!"

POOF!!! He Disappears!!!!




Aswad -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:29:58 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Psychonaut23

Rational people.


Who decides that? And who determines who is rational?

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I think a better question would be HOW does one determine if a morality is false.  To do that you have to examine it to see if it is a) based on rational axioms and b) universal.


We can dispense with the notion of universal morality in any meaningful sense, or simply note that humans by their nature are only marginally less amoral than the completely amoral reality in which they operate and then get on with defining a term that is meaningful, useful or applicable to either humans, reality or both. That, or we can adopt some irrational approach.

Now, for the term "rational" to have meaning when applied to axioms, they must be reducible. And if evaluating whether a morality is false, it is necessary to evaluate whether any reducible axioms are false. In the end, you are left with a set of irreducable axioms and a truth value for the proposition that the reducible set is consistent with the irreducable set. In effect, a false morality is one that isn't consistent in this regard. A morality cannot be shown to be true in this manner, however, as no meaningful morality can be derived from irreducible axioms that are demonstrably true (to the limit of demonstrability, which is a significant factor in any case). As such, the term truth hardly applies.

Your principal flaw is that you have constructed or assimilated a meta-ethic framework which ascribes to a set of a priori values that are used as a yardstick for measuring the merit or utility of any system of ethics thus evaluated. I would argue that you cannot demonstrate this set to be necessary and sufficient to any task other than to determine the conformity of a given morality to your template for what a morality must be. That is no different from every other absolutist or deontist with a fixed notion of morality that is applied to everyone, save that you have indulged in gratuitous complexity and needless multiplication of entities in the process.

Actual moral relativism is perfectly compatible with harmonious living, and does not need to be self-serving (though a coherent case can be made that a just, equitable and harmonious society can be constructed from first principles that include enlightened self-interest as a central axiom). For that matter, moral relativism permits the existence of systems that are fully formal in nature, and even systems that deal with other systems in formal terms. Subjective quantities like utility and the like can also be introduced, but are certainly not necessary.

Fact of the matter is that an argument against any consistent morality requires buying into a different morality than the one in question. That in itself invalidates the notion of universality, as if it weren't invalid enough to begin with. That a morality may appear self-evidently wrong is not a logical argument, but a rhetorical one, which discards reason as the instrument by which to evaluate it. The only objective evaluations that can be made with regard to any morality, are those which do not depend on anything but the proposition being evaluated and the contents of the morality being evaluated. For instance, a morality can be shown to be inconsistent with itself, but a value judgement as to whether that is a negative thing still depends on a metric, a set of values, and those are assumptions, not objective facts.

Moral absolutism would be a real comfort for many, probably myself included, if it weren't demonstrably false.

As it stands, moral absolutism is an intolerant subset of moral relativism.

Health,
al-Aswad.




LadyAngelika -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:36:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

FR

You people are still turning around in circles about this? Wow. Many masochists here! ;-)

- LA


How right you are LadyAngelika. If you notice, all the "dumb unethical cunts" that certain posters keep insulting with nothing to back up their idiotic claims other than some retreads of old philosophers,  have moved on to more intelligent and productive discussions, while the blowhards continue to suck the air right out of the room. Which in their cases, are likely to be dingy little bedrooms, filled with nothing but video games, Star Wars postes and dust. Talk about masochists in Dom 's clothing. :)


Why is it that I picture this poster in their bedroom? ;-)

[image]http://www.thecaptainsmemos.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/star-wars-jabba-the-hutt_l.jpg[/image]

- LA




lusciouslips19 -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:38:02 AM)

Thank you Aswad for your sound reasoning and intellect.
Most likely you too will be called an idiot, though most here know your intellect and I.Q. are astounding, along with your value for all human beings along the Intelligence Quotient Scale.

Its very easy to see brilliance with lack of common sense. Refreshing when one has both.

Happy New Year Aswad.




sexyred1 -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:38:18 AM)

[sm=lol.gif]




Elisabella -> RE: Misogyny and BDSM (1/4/2010 11:47:16 AM)

-FR-

Okay seriously, this is ridiculous.

Psychonaut, if you believe that the existence of a police force is unethical you and I have so little in common that any discourse would be pointless. It seems to me that you view "ethics" as this distant set of utopian behaviours that you inconsistently apply to yourself when convenient, that you enjoy discussing on the theoretical level but haven't internalized enough for me to see you as an authority.

Secondly, saying "what's wrong for me is wrong for you too" seems to ignore circumstance. If you're actually saying "two identical people who do the exact same thing under the same circumstance should be treated identically" then yes I agree. Theoretically. Cuz there's no practical application for this at all.

Thirdly, if you like to, as you say, bring up things to watch people "shriek and scurry in protest" then you're the one who opened a can of worms and you can't go and boohoo over which direction people "scurry" in. As much as I roll my eyes reading "ha ha you can't get laid" you're the one poking people with a stick for your 'amusement' and you can't claim any sort of high ground when it turns out they have a bigger stick and stronger poke.

Fourth, in your Bob & Mary example, my Mary would have said either "Yes I do think it's immoral for you to do it, but I don't expect you to agree" if we're talking about how different people can have different personal ethics, or "Yes I think it's immoral to do recreationally, but not if you're a cancer patient" if we're talking about different standards being applied to different people in different situations.




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