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7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

This happens all the time when we are out, often in a business setting. beth came up with a great answer to this - she says, gesturing to me; "My job is keeping him happy." Knowing it coming gives me the opportunity to look at the envy in the eyes of the men and sometimes disdain coming from the women. Although every so often she gets a "GOOD FOR YOU!"

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

Thank you unique raven for this well thought out post. I am entering my first M/s relationship 24/7 next month, and upon reading your list i kept saying to myself, hmmmmm. i never consider myself a slave let alone a submissive in my 29 year vanilla marriage, yet, excluding the 'playing' you described my marriage the whole time. i was there to serve him, and do as he wish. Late hubby always had that dominate persona, and was easy for me to abide by it.

Thank you for pointing out that the elusive fairies and unicorns aren't real in bdsm or in a Ds or Ms relationship. i think i can pull on my life experience then in serving Sir. Thank you for shattering a myth, and bringing reality to it from a s-type view. It came at the right and perfect timing for me...and am grateful.

wisdom

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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7. If you are a 24/7 slave without outside employment, the question “What do you do?” when asked by vanilla people in polite conversation is really difficult (and sometimes funny) to answer.

This happens all the time when we are out, often in a business setting. beth came up with a great answer to this - she says, gesturing to me; "My job is keeping him happy." Knowing it coming gives me the opportunity to look at the envy in the eyes of the men and sometimes disdain coming from the women. Although every so often she gets a "GOOD FOR YOU!"

Ooh, that's a good one!  i used to say "i work for him" (and point to Master) or he would say "she works for me" but that would often get puzzled looks.  i like beth's much better.  Thank you for sharing!

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i wrote this years ago, after i had been an Owned (non-Gorean) slave for about 3 years living 24/7 with my Master in NYC.  i'm posting it as i remembered it after replying to subtlebottomgirl's thread about getting past fears.  i'm not posting it as the "ultimate" list, just my experience and what i learned.  ...