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osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:05:46 PM)
your dealing with more than coffee your dealing with people fundamental sexual urges oh hell, i just have qualms with just 12 cmails i'll let it go at that o and i have exchanged more cmails than that in just a few mins

Dominasola -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:17:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf your dealing with people fundamental sexual urges Just because people here may be more open to sharing these sexual urges doesn't mean that they can't have a civil and polite conversation over coffee. You run the same risk from any vanilla dating site, too. Or even from meeting someone in person at the grocery store.

littlewonder -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:19:07 PM)
You get sexual urges from drinking coffee?? Wow..wish I could do that! How do you do that?? Seriously though..I get sexual urges only if I find the other person desireable and then I let them know and well...we decide then what to do about those sexual urges. If one of us gets them and the other doesn't...it's a coffeeshop. Leave. Go home. Be an adult. If you can't control your urges you have deeper problems that need a lot of help before you end up in a prison cell.

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:19:21 PM)
i prefer not to rush quite so fast, but that's just me she's an adult

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:21:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf your dealing with more than coffee your dealing with people fundamental sexual urges oh hell, i just have qualms with just 12 cmails i'll let it go at that o and i have exchanged more cmails than that in just a few mins People have sexual urges Most people are able to control those sexual urges I'd much rather meet off the bat and see if there is anything there, than sit behind my screen e-mailing for months and having cmail sex then meeting real life eventually to find it is totally not what i thought. If i met someone interesting at a munch I would not advise them that i required a month of e-mail contact before we could meet for a drink... I would arrange to meet them reasonably soon. Why should it be any different here as long as people are safe. Meeting for coffee is just that, a coffee, it is not meeting to pledge undying love and ones immortal soul

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:26:13 PM)
i just offered my opinion as was asked in the op i gave it , it was rejected , so ok end of story i can deal with it now carry on

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:29:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Llyren But if it's only a hundred miles or so, then I'm thinking if he's comfortable enough to ask me about my nipples, he should be suggesting we get together for coffee or something. Is it reasonable for me to think that if we're getting into this sort of discussion, then we should be at a point where we will consider meeting in person? She is not asking if it is appropriate after 2 days - she is asking if it is appropriate to want to meet by the time he has started speaking intimatly. I wouldn't care if a man had been talking to me for 2 days or 20 days - If he wanted to chat about intimate issues with me but was shying away from the idea of coffee if distance was no issue then my warning flags would be flying high.

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:31:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond quote: ORIGINAL: Llyren But if it's only a hundred miles or so, then I'm thinking if he's comfortable enough to ask me about my nipples, he should be suggesting we get together for coffee or something. Is it reasonable for me to think that if we're getting into this sort of discussion, then we should be at a point where we will consider meeting in person? She is not asking if it is appropriate after 2 days - she is asking if it is appropriate to want to meet by the time he has started speaking intimatly. I wouldn't care if a man had been talking to me for 2 days or 20 days - If he wanted to chat about intimate issues with me but was shying away from the idea of coffee if distance was no issue then my warning flags would be flying high. you just wont let it go will you lololol

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:35:14 PM)
A forum is a place to discuss things. Just because you do not like the turn a conversation has taken, does not mean it ends simply because you say so. I have however read a few of the other threads you have posted on and it appears you intentionaly set out to hijack threads and cause conflict and in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments.

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:36:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond A forum is a place to discuss things. Just because you do not like the turn a conversation has taken, does not mean it ends simply because you say so. I have however read a few of the other threads you have posted on and it appears you intentionaly set out to hijack threads and cause conflict and in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments. what part of " carry on" didn't you understand?

RedMagic1 -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:40:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond I'd much rather meet off the bat and see if there is anything there, than sit behind my screen e-mailing for months and having cmail sex then meeting real life eventually to find it is totally not what i thought. If i met someone interesting at a munch I would not advise them that i required a month of e-mail contact before we could meet for a drink... I would arrange to meet them reasonably soon. Why should it be any different here as long as people are safe. Meeting for coffee is just that, a coffee, it is not meeting to pledge undying love and ones immortal soul I 100% agree with this.

UniqueRaven -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:40:59 PM)
***edited out because i have hopes to stay on track.

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven ***edited out because i have hopes to stay on track. don't be shy

RedMagic1 -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:42:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments. Just post as though he doesn't exist. You previous point was well taken, and I wish more people understood it. 99% of life really is about showing up, and showing up for coffee or dinner isn't going to get you killed, even if you really are drinking coffee with Charles Manson. Please don't let a fool turn you into a mute.

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:44:26 PM)
quote: i just offered my opinion as was asked in the op i gave it , it was rejected , so ok end of story i can deal with it now carry on post #25 way up there ^

wandersalone -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:46:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond A forum is a place to discuss things. Just because you do not like the turn a conversation has taken, does not mean it ends simply because you say so. I have however read a few of the other threads you have posted on and it appears you intentionaly set out to hijack threads and cause conflict and in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments. what part of " carry on" didn't you understand? The beauty about message boards is that people have free will, they can continue to discuss the topic within a topic or not as they see fit. Personally I find it quite relevant to Llyren's initial post. My own thoughts are that I would definitely want to meet where possible before starting to talk about intimate things and two days is not trying to rush things. I have met people the same day as we first emailed and I had no qualms about this. It was a coffee in a public place with someone who may or may not turn out to be someone cool. At the very least I got to get out to a nice cafe for a drink, in the particular situation I am thinking about it ended up being a coffee followed by another and another, a quick shower at home and then dinner that evening with him and so on. By meeting early you don't have time to build up often unrealistic expectations, you haven't had the long conversations about needs and wants, you haven't built up this picture of the other person and started thinking about how perfect a fit they are for you... my feeling is that the longer you wait to meet someone, the more chance that the image built up is incorrect and thus more likelihood of being disappointed. My opinion only of course let us know how it goes Llyren and happy new year

osf -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:48:39 PM)
one last thing and i'm out did anybody notice his interest in her nipples so soon?

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:50:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments. Just post as though he doesn't exist. You previous point was well taken, and I wish more people understood it. 99% of life really is about showing up, and showing up for coffee or dinner isn't going to get you killed, even if you really are drinking coffee with Charles Manson. Please don't let a fool turn you into a mute. Thanks for this :) I meant more step away from being baited into a potential argument as to a troll any attention is good attention, not that I was going to leave the boards/thread - don't get rid of me that easy ;) My advice to the OP would be that yep, if he is comfortable enough to be wishing to discuss your nipples and other intimate parts of you, then he should be comfortable enough to at least begin discussions of a rl meeting, even if that be a 100% vanilla meeting in a vanilla setting like your local coffee bar. In all honesty I would be inclined to advise that I'd prefer to wait until after meeting before such intimacys are discussed - if he wishes to take more time talknig before meeting then it is his right, but theres no reason why you should discuss such personal subjects with a man you've never met.

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:54:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone By meeting early you don't have time to build up often unrealistic expectations, you haven't had the long conversations about needs and wants, you haven't built up this picture of the other person and started thinking about how perfect a fit they are for you... my feeling is that the longer you wait to meet someone, the more chance that the image built up is incorrect and thus more likelihood of being disappointed. I agree 100% with this

wandersalone -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:55:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf one last thing and i'm out did anybody notice his interest in her nipples so soon? This is an adult bdsm site - no surprise that for some people, initial conversations can be sexual if they feel comfortable with it. It may not be my preference but I can understand that it works for others. If I recall correctly, Llyren's post was about wanting to meet before this talk continued so yes the nipple talk was noticed by others I am sure. grins.... Llyren, maybe you should start a new topic about your nipples..... just an idea [:D]

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