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Phoenixpower -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:58:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond A forum is a place to discuss things. Just because you do not like the turn a conversation has taken, does not mean it ends simply because you say so. I have however read a few of the other threads you have posted on and it appears you intentionaly set out to hijack threads and cause conflict and in this case i will step away, there are already two many threads on these boards gone that way due to your comments. what part of " carry on" didn't you understand? The beauty about message boards is that people have free will, they can continue to discuss the topic within a topic or not as they see fit. Personally I find it quite relevant to Llyren's initial post. My own thoughts are that I would definitely want to meet where possible before starting to talk about intimate things and two days is not trying to rush things. I have met people the same day as we first emailed and I had no qualms about this. It was a coffee in a public place with someone who may or may not turn out to be someone cool. At the very least I got to get out to a nice cafe for a drink, in the particular situation I am thinking about it ended up being a coffee followed by another and another, a quick shower at home and then dinner that evening with him and so on. By meeting early you don't have time to build up often unrealistic expectations, you haven't had the long conversations about needs and wants, you haven't built up this picture of the other person and started thinking about how perfect a fit they are for you... my feeling is that the longer you wait to meet someone, the more chance that the image built up is incorrect and thus more likelihood of being disappointed. My opinion only of course let us know how it goes Llyren and happy new year Well said wanders [sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif]

amaidiamond -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 6:58:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone grins.... Llyren, maybe you should start a new topic about your nipples..... just an idea [:D] Does it make me a total pervert that i would happily go check that thread out? :)

happylittlepet -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 7:34:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone grins.... Llyren, maybe you should start a new topic about your nipples..... just an idea [:D] Does it make me a total pervert that i would happily go check that thread out? :) Nah, maybe 50% [:D]. Thank you for this thread, I learned something today.

lizi -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 7:53:48 PM)
Once upon a time people used to meet each other in bars, in line at the grocery store, at a little league game....and they had the chance to see right off the bat if they were interested in each other or not. If there was that 'spark' there-some sign of physical and intellectual compatibility. With the internet I've found that we invest too much time and energy into getting to know someone before we actually see if the compatibility exists in person. Before when meeting people in person you didn't get to find out all the personal intimate things about them till some time had passed and things may not have worked out once that happened. Now, you may find a great match online but once in person there lacks a certain something. The best compromise I think is to meet people online (it's just easier and I don't go to bars) and then meet them fairly quickly in person to see if the initial attraction on the screen translates into an attraction in real life. If you spend too much time with the person online you invest too much into something that may disappoint you. After doing that too many times I just go for the meeting as soon as I can. I'd say my time period for meeting someone you've corresponded with online and perhaps talked to on the phone is at most 2 weeks. If he is reluctant to meet he could be an online wanker or married.

MargueriteV -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/1/2010 8:07:32 PM)
I don't think you are going through a frenzy. I believe that if some one is asking about your parts they should be ready to at least exchange numbers, or cam chat. (I personally don't meet people until I've talked to them on the phone.) If you are ready to meet face to face, tell him and see what happens.

susie -> RE: Sub Frenzy? (1/2/2010 9:57:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi The best compromise I think is to meet people online (it's just easier and I don't go to bars) and then meet them fairly quickly in person to see if the initial attraction on the screen translates into an attraction in real life. If you spend too much time with the person online you invest too much into something that may disappoint you. After doing that too many times I just go for the meeting as soon as I can. I agree. When I was new to all this I chatted to a few prospective Doms. In each case I met them for coffee or meal within 2 weeks. I had got on well with them all during chats / phone calls but it turned out that on meeting there was no spark. Meeting that quickly saved us all from wasting any more time on something that would obviously not go any further. Another Dom I met within 2 days of starting to chat. Not for coffee but we met with the specific intent of playing (we did have the meal first) and believe it or not he is still here right now So meeting early in my opinion is a good thing. Things can be very different when you meet someone real time.

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