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lusciouslips19 -> RE: Does your response matter? (1/2/2010 8:46:07 AM)
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ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie
I'm sorry if I offended you Missokyst. I was not trying to boast. I understand that everyone has their way of doing things, and what works for my Sir and I doesn't work for everyone. I added it to give some background in my thinking and experience. I was just interested in what I was observing, which got me wondering if how we communicate on the message boards matter in real life. I don't care if someone claims to be d, m, s or vanilla in terms of treating them with respect or ignoring them. You're right that I think that subs should act "more becoming" if they are being rude, name calling or insulting, but not because they are subs; because they are people. I also think that doms should act "more becoming" if they are being rude, name calling or insulting. So should vanillas. But, as I stated before, I mostly saw this behavior coming from female subs. Perhaps it's because I read the sub/slave and master forums and this type of behavior is common in the Domme, poly, gor, etc threads too. Since I'm a female sub with a male Dom, I don't really look at the other forums much.
You may not be understanding the back story. When I was new on the boards, I felt so sorry for a few people. Thought people were being mean to them. But I had not seen what came before or the attacks they made on others. I also didnt see the rude e-mails they sent to certain people attacking them through e-mail. Nor the fact that these unbalanced people were posting with more than one profile.
Things said in word often do come off terse, when it wasnt intended that way. I can be a fun and warm person in real time , but maybe you wouldnt think so unless you liked my written sense of humor.
Alot ofthe subs who have been here awhile have learned to unite when someone comes trolling and starting inflammatory threads like,"why are all subs fat?" or "these are your rules,"shut the fuck up and do what youre told and Ill abuse you because Im the Dominant".
These types of threads are not Dominant behavior. As far as ignoring them,the person does eventually get ignored. However we do try to educate and give people the benefit of the doubt.
Believe me, if things got really insulting, we do have moderators that write us personally and tell us to knock it off.
What I would tell you is to stick around longer before you decide some of us are "mean girls".
The ones i thought were mean are the people I respect the most. Just dont take words on a post personally and remember what someone writes and how it is intended and how another takes it, isn't always the same.We interpret things according to our experiences and a lot of it is projection.
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