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ORIGINAL: sincityprincess

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Free initial hint towards that end: get some sexually alluring, good quality images taken of you and intermittently rotate them into and out of your profile.

And I was almost ready to take the rest of your advice seriously.

So close...so very close.

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

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ORIGINAL: sincityprincess

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Free initial hint towards that end: get some sexually alluring, good quality images taken of you and intermittently rotate them into and out of your profile.

And I was almost ready to take the rest of your advice seriously.

So close...so very close.

i actually find this to be very good advice.  If i can offer one more piece of advice of my own it is this:  Never forget that men, even quality Dominant Owners/Masters of the mind, are wired differently than women, and a great deal of that is around the visual. 

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Princess-

I think there are plenty of men who are sadistic, and want a woman to serve them 24/7.
But what I get from your post, isn't the desire to serve HIS sadistic needs; it seems like you really want YOUR masochistic needs served, 24/7.

This isn't a criticism- your needs and desires are yours, and they are probably well matched by many men who get off on sadism and power dynamics.

But putting 24/7 TPE together with "I want" sets up a conflict- there will be plenty of times when he doesn't fucking feel like whipping you. And when I say "times" I mean if he is undergoing a serious issue- family crisis, job loss- it could be weeks, months.
Or maybe he enjoys using the crop on you, when you prefer the flogger;
Or he just likes peeing on your face, when you don't really get off on that.

Being a 24/7 slave means you are at HIS whim- whereas being a masochistic bottom means your needs are equally important.

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ORIGINAL: sincityprincess

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Free initial hint towards that end: get some sexually alluring, good quality images taken of you and intermittently rotate them into and out of your profile.

And I was almost ready to take the rest of your advice seriously.

So close...so very close.

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ORIGINAL: ranja

Nothing wrong with your wish list
i would keep it hidden though
wishes like that often do not come true if you speak them out loud
keep in mind that nobody is perfect and you will have to compromise as does he.

next make a juicy profile and take that advise about the photographs it's good
change things in your profile regularly to keep it fresh

prepare for an enormous amount of wanky emails and dead end chats and probably even some disastrous meets... that is if you don't get stood up

in the meantime join a dance club: CEROC... check it out... they do these dance evenings in many many places, it is extremely good fun and a brilliant safe way to meet a lot of leading men (some of them very tasty indeed)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

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ORIGINAL: sincityprincess

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Free initial hint towards that end: get some sexually alluring, good quality images taken of you and intermittently rotate them into and out of your profile.

And I was almost ready to take the rest of your advice seriously.

So close...so very close.

i actually find this to be very good advice. If i can offer one more piece of advice of my own it is this: Never forget that men, even quality Dominant Owners/Masters of the mind, are wired differently than women, and a great deal of that is around the visual.

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ORIGINAL: sincityprincess
Yes, I know they are. And I do appreciate all the great advice from all...my only problem with the pictures part is that my experience has been that Dominant men can be possessive by nature and if I do ever meet my future Master, I want him to know that 840 other men didn't see my ta-ta's (even though, I must say, they are fabulous!) before he did.

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The second reason, and this probably has more to do with it than anything, is that when I was on Slave Register (back when it was the Slave Register) I had a PG-13 picture of myself in a corset and fishnets as one of the pictures on my profile. Well, one of the my online friends on there messaged me one day to ask if I had changed my status to Dominant? Because she saw a Live Journal page that some man had created about his Mistress and my picture was all over it. He had dedicated his entire site to me, written blog after blog about how he worshipped me, wanted to marry me, and be my sissy boy & maid...on and on. It skieved me out a little at first, except when I wrote to Live Journal to tell them my picture was posted without my permission, they said he said he took the picture--therefore he owned it. Somehow after that, he searched my email address until he was able to piece together enough details about me (my real first name, my zip code) and began IM-bombing me calling me all sorts of names and provoking me. Well, I fell for it, hook line & sinker because I replied to him to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone. He then replied to me, "Stupid slut, now I have your IP address and I will find you and you will want me when you see me. Which is going to be in about 15 minutes!" Well, he never came but a couple of weeks later my office got broken into and my personal laptop with those same pictures (and any evidence of the IM bomb) were stolen. I was really terrified and I had to tell my boss what happened while making a police report. He spent $1100 on a personal bodyguard for me (our office was on Tropicana & Maryland Pkwy in Las Vegas--not the best part of town and I was often the last one in the building at night) for the next month. I know, I should have known better than to keep my personal computer at my office with personal pictures on it...but you always think that those things will happen to some other girl. Until it happens to you.

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Yes I know that if I want to meet someone, I have to be willing to put myself out there...but I think that it is always risky to meet people online, let alone when you are the kind of girl who might be chatting with a man who tells you he wants to choke you who replies with "Oohh that is so hot!!" You may not realize that he actually wants to CHOKE you!! And I know there are plenty of people who have met great people online and so have I...but I will forever be changed and a little more cautious.

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He then replied to me, "Stupid slut, now I have your IP address and I will find you and you will want me when you see me. Which is going to be in about 15 minutes!" Well, he never came but a couple of weeks later my office got broken into and my personal laptop with those same pictures (and any evidence of the IM bomb) were stolen.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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He then replied to me, "Stupid slut, now I have your IP address and I will find you and you will want me when you see me. Which is going to be in about 15 minutes!" Well, he never came but a couple of weeks later my office got broken into and my personal laptop with those same pictures (and any evidence of the IM bomb) were stolen.

Did you write him from the office? The reason I ask is that IP addresses for individuals are rarely static (you would know if it was), and it is even more rare to be able to trace one to an individual. It usually takes a court order or someone unethical who works for your ISP. Businesses often have static IPs, which are more easily traced. A good solution to this is to use gmail, which strips the IP from messages sent, if you send messages from a location with a static IP.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Oops, did I just label myself a geek with that one? 

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Oops, did I just label myself a geek with that one?