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Fallout212 -> How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 5:26:00 AM)

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?



antipode -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 5:52:14 AM)

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feel that an online relationship COULD work,


If you enjoy virtual coffee and you find onscreen dinner tasty, it'll work just fine. Just sterilize your keyboard now an again.



wisdomtogive -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 6:20:23 AM)

Hi
I do hope you do not mind me responding since i am not a Dom. It to me is a personal matter. It would have it's advantages and disadvantages. There are some here that online has worked very well . So if this is what you seek, go for it. Not everything is for everyone, and as far as for me it wouldnt work. I would be stupid to suggest a blanket statement that it can't work. Some it does and some it doesn't work, but if you feel it can then why not:)
Best of luck,
wisdom



Valyraen -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 6:48:54 AM)

I've been in a few online relationships, and in general they're alright. Very different from actual in-person interaction, obviously, and that raises some differences as a result. All of my online relationships, in retrospect, were much easier than an in-person relationship, simply because I could sever any interaction whenever I chose to do so (for example, if I didn't want to get into a "where are things going" talk and wanted to play video games again... which did actually happen) and make up any old excuse I fancied for why I hadn't been around. It's remarkably easy to lie when the other party doesn't know jack shit about you.

So... could it work? Sure... just be careful. Because these people online are only presenting the facets of themselves that they want to have seen, there's enormous potential for things to blow up nicely should either party get spooked or disinterested. I'll advocate my usual watchword here - caution. Move it slowly, and don't go falling for someone you've never met. Did that once, and the resulting fuck-up to my psyche took me a couple of years to untangle after she played me like a fiddle.

I realize that last part is a little alarming, but I was young, stupid, and more than willing to believe everything she told me. Ignored my common sense in favor of hormones, and I paid the price as a result. So... final verdict - online relationships, could they work? Sure - anything's possible. Just be smart and listen to your survival instincts, and you should be alright.



OsideGirl -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 7:19:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Valyraen
I'll advocate my usual watchword here - caution. Move it slowly, and don't go falling for someone you've never met. Did that once, and the resulting fuck-up to my psyche took me a couple of years to untangle after she played me like a fiddle.
Valyraen has it right.

One thing that I say over and over again and it gets denied over and over again is: Regardless of how much you talk to someone online or on the phone...you really don't know that person. You only know what they tell you. And without the benefit of face to face interaction, you can interpret things incorrectly.




sexyred1 -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 7:26:29 AM)

I don't believe in an online relationship; I think that is a bit of an oxymoron. Unless you have actually met and distance separates you, that might be ok. But contructing a relationship solely online? No.



osf -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 7:35:12 AM)

if it's all you want and the other person is cool to the idea it's your computer and net connection, you pay for it.

as for me, i type so slow she'd never get off.



Kana -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 7:40:06 AM)

I can't fuck my monitor.
Tried it once-those glass shards hurt!



LaTigresse -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 8:05:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Fallout212

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?


I have no interest in it...........feel absolutely NOTHING about it.........which is why I won't do it.

If someone contacts me and cannot get their ass to me physically, within a couple of months at the most........they lose my interest.



babygurlangel -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 10:44:44 AM)

I have done the online thing once or twice.. if you find someone that doesn't mind it and enjoys it as much as you do then that's what will work for you. Everyone is different what works for one person might not work for you and vice versa best thing I can tell you is try it and see if it works or not then you will have your answer.



NihilusZero -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 12:26:43 PM)

As a vehicle towards an eventual live-in relationship.



earthycouple -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 12:36:15 PM)

I can't imagine creating an online BDSM relationship. The mere thought of watching anyone do anything on cam outside of smiling when I type something funny in chat is disturbing to me at best.

I want my victim in real time, at my hand and able to see, feel, hear, taste and smell all I choose to give.



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 2:11:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

As a vehicle towards an eventual live-in relationship.


Ditto... otherwise, I see no point.




Cdub2U -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 2:53:41 PM)


Online and Relationship don't even belong in the same sentence. Online all you have is a "Pen Pal", except the US Post Office has been taken out of the equation. To suggest that a relationship can exist in virtual reality simply tells me that you would have almost no concept of what comprises a vibrant and healthy interpersonal relationship.

If one thinks that the above is possible then I shall give the advice of a computer professional to a non computer professional:

"STEP AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER"



MasterAramis -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 3:11:01 PM)

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And without the benefit of face to face interaction, you can interpret things incorrectly.


Very true, Very true!



SirJohnMandevill -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 4:38:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

As a vehicle towards an eventual live-in relationship.


What he said! Just my .02 zlotys, but an online relationship alone would not just be unsatisfying, it would frustrate the hell out of me.

OTOH, I've heard of Doms who had a live-in sub and felt they could get something from having online-only relationships with other girls. If the Dom and sub agree to that...well, whatever....

[sm=chug.gif] Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink



Acer49 -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 5:08:17 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Fallout212

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?


For most people, it would not, there are some that it might. but finding someone might take a bit longer. I don't know where you live, but are there not people who might be reasonably close? No one says you have to relocate to have a relationship.



DesFIP -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 5:15:40 PM)

Lots of us start online. Lots of us are ldr, seeing our partner every few months and using phone and online to make the difference daily.

The physicality of it does make a difference, no doubt about it, but there are plenty of people here who have a mainly online relationship with the right person as opposed to a several times a week in real life relationship with the wrong person.

And if you connect, maybe he could move to you. That happens also.



sunshinemiss -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 6:11:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I don't believe in an online relationship; I think that is a bit of an oxymoron. Unless you have actually met and distance separates you, that might be ok. But contructing a relationship solely online? No.


You mean *sniff* Red, that *sniff* we aren't really fwiends? 



osf -> RE: How do you feel about online relationships? (1/4/2010 7:33:48 PM)

wouldn't it be hard to feel an online relationship?

unless your computer is far more advanced than mine



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