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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 6:10:17 AM   
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Body language to me is in person, not webcam, even a webcam helps.


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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 6:49:36 AM   
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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 7:37:41 AM   
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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 8:10:02 AM   
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Daddy and i met online.  We've been together for two years, now.  Online relationships suck, though, and it was really hard in the beginning.  They take just as much work as real time relationships, with some times, not as many results.  Like with any relationship, really. 


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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 7:11:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		meeting online and online relationship two different things. i met oldmanslave online 8 years ago. oldman found bruno online. online was great for developing the relationship, but as far as having an online relationship, i would rather have a pet rock

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/14/2010 7:15:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I  know two couples that for reasons of their own are exclusively on line. They all have real life experiences, just not with each other.

While it is not something I would enjoy, it fills their needs and makes their lives better.

Who am I to tell them they are wrong? To each there own.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/15/2010 7:07:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		never said it was wrong, just saying,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, for me,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, it is worthless. my opinion, as to how it applies to me,, ok? not saying you guys doing your thing is wrong

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/18/2010 9:11:11 PM   
vtara


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Status: offline 		Well, I used to think it was total bullshit. Not online d/s but online romance in general.
But then my brother met a girl online (from a different country even), they talk on Skype everyday, he's visited her, she's visited us... While it's definitely not for everyone, it seems to be working fine for them.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/18/2010 9:25:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cdub2U


Online and Relationship don't even belong in the same sentence. Online all you have is a "Pen Pal", except the US Post Office has been taken out of the equation. To suggest that a relationship can exist in virtual reality simply tells me that you would have almost no concept of what comprises a vibrant and healthy interpersonal relationship.

If one thinks that the above is possible then I shall give the advice of a computer professional to a non computer professional:

"STEP AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER"



What about Abelard and Heloise?

Really, the whole "conducting a relationship by letters" is not a new thing.  There are many couples throughout history that have had love by letters. 

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/18/2010 9:33:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a supplement to a real life relationship, yes.  As a substitute, no.

Personally. 



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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/19/2010 8:31:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Fallout212

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?


How will he serve Me online?..........for Me there is only one way.....if he is not willing he is wasting My time. This I do not allow.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/20/2010 12:09:47 AM   
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You are wrong.

I know I should write more, but you stated your personal preferences as fact, and it was wrong.


Could you be a little more specific? What personal preferences exactly....? I don't prefer online relationships. I simply stated its a viable way of meeting someone. I didn't say the relationship would stay online. That would be somewhat pointless.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/20/2010 12:27:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Fallout212

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?

Okay, obviously, I am not a Dom, but, I have had more than one relationship, strictly online due to distance, so I do know a bit about the subject.  From my own experience, it definitely could work. However, it works best with people who are cerebral by nature, definitely attracted to each other's personalities, capable of sharing a great deal by writing or video (both day to day and more intimate sharing, and never stuff like bank account numbers of course), willing to send presents via postal mail if presents are warranted, etc. In other words, so long as they are both capable of understanding that this is not just a really interactive video game, but, a real live person with feelings, at the other end.

However, one of the things that greatly helped the kinkiest of the relationships that I had, which lasted something like 7 years and was totally online, was that there used to be a video program, where you could record a few minutes of video and send it out to the person or persons of your choosing, and then it would automatically go defunct after a certain time period. Good way to share, and be shared if you are into that, without any stress or worry that this person is still going to have those videos if you break it off.  I don't think that still exists, but, now that we are decidely through, I'm sure glad that it used to.



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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 1/27/2010 12:33:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I'm reviving an old thread, then I apologize from the start, but I felt compelled to answer to this.

I will say that I am not, by any stretch of the imagination, a Dom.  But I have met several of them online and it was through a very heartfelt discussion with one of them that led me to discover just what I had been hiding from myself for so long.  I had an intense desire to belong to someone.  This Master took me under his wing and began to teach me things about myself I had never known.  Did I ever meet him face to face?  No.  But without him and that online meeting and short time of a relationship, I would not be in this happy place I find myself now, content and finally at peace with who and what I am and desire.

Just recently, I met someone online.  We began chatting innocently, sharing our love of all things geek like fantasy/sci-fi books and old movies and television shows and Renn Faires.  But one night, for some reason...I found myself telling him that I was a submissive.  And, you may laugh or think that he was only kidding with me, but he admitted to me that he was a Dom.  That was when our discussions and chats became full of other things, other possibilities.  A little over a week ago, I admitted to him that I wanted Him and was tired of trying to fight it.  He accepted my submission and immediately laid the ground rules.  Yes, He is 15 hours away from me, and no, He is not able to check that I am doing as He has requested, but the fact remains that I am actually doing them and even more important, He trusts that I'm doing them.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that an online relationship can work, if both parties are willing to put the effort into making it as real as possible.  Sir is not here to physically pet me, but when I see the words "good girl" or "that's My girl" pop up in response to something I've done to please Him, I still feel that moment of adoration for Him, and if He were here, I really don't think that would change.  Will we ever meet in person?  I hope so, but if that is not meant to be, then I will still adore Him for simply being my Sir and letting me be His girl in the only way we have available to us for now.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 2/4/2010 3:33:57 PM   
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...do you feel that an online relationship COULD work



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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 2/4/2010 10:17:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Fallout212

Just a little bit curious, if you're a Dom, what are your thoughts on having an online relationship with a submissive?

Reason I'm asking is because, at the time, that is what I am looking for. I wanted to get other people's opinion on it. Personally, to me, an online relationship to me just an alternative, since due to current restrictions in my life, I am unable to relocate myself with that ideal Dom. I know that a webcam online could never substitute physical contact in real life, but do you feel that an online relationship COULD work, or that it would never work?
I have a variety of online relationships. They serve a wide variety of needs for me, ranging from folks that are just friends to one sub that I'm involved with. None of these relationships are anything even remotely like that I have with my wife -- of course. But that doesn't mean that they don't provide something useful.

My biggest thought about online D/s relationships is that people tend to trust WAY more than than the environment actually allows for. Everything seems to get blown out of proportion. Everyone wants it all, right now... and why not? Afterall, it's just online, right? In my opinion, the smart sub or dom keeps some pretty tight limits on how far the dynamic goes because you just cannot trust someone you've never met the way you can someone you've lived with for a few years.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 2/5/2010 9:47:51 AM   
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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 2/5/2010 9:56:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi, I have to add more opinions ..Online relationships..would not do a damn thing for Me. It has to be real..I had a gf who had an online vanilla relationship where the guy promised her the sun, moon & stars...he was living far away and did make it down to see her after writing all the "fall in love with me" words...after the visit...he sent her a message that "she was too good for him, bla bla bla" and ended it. Leaving her devastated. ....People write whatever they want on line...but they have to be able to back it up when they meet in real life. Not just over the phone either. And if they don't want to meet in real life (providing it's not a huge hurdle to do so)that to me, indicates that not everything that they say is actual..something is being left out.
As far as online BDSM goes...what in the world can an online slave do for you? Is he gonna tie himself up? Gag himself ? Spank himself (got a mental pic here of someone slappin' one o' their ass cheeks, chanting , "I'm bad, I'm bad")?
Nah, realtime or bust.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 2/5/2010 11:52:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		My personal views regarding Long Distance relationship have somewhat changed, mainly because of my recent reflections upon "ACID tests for True Doms".

Not only has the internet effected the way in which people communicate and interact, Mobile communications, text messaging, Multimedia Messaging, Unlimited Long Distance plans, Camera Phones, Web Cams, Instant Messaging, and even iPhones. All of which have made it much easier for people to stay in touch with one another.

Just as there are many differences between Long Distance (online) relationships, and Real Time Relationships. There are also many aspects that both have in common. Enters the Debate of Online vs. Real Time relationships. Are Online or Long Distance Relationships Real? The Answer is YES, they are in fact real when you look at the basic difinition of what a Relationship is. However, they are different compared to Real Time ones. There are Different Sets of PRO's and CON's to both.

When you look at the very basic definition of what D/s is, Again, Yes you can have Long Distance or Online D/s relationships.

For the Most part many people view ONLINE as for Wankers. Just a group of Horny fucks wanting to have Cyber-Sex or Phone Sex or Web Cam sex. Some people are indeed only interested in Playing around. This is very much Comparable to those people that have Play Partners in the Real Time. Mind you, there are big differences between real time play/scene/activities and those online. Still none the less, PLAY is PLAY. Sure, there are many people that like to pretend and Act out Fantasy crap online. Again, This is not too far removed from People Role Playing in the Real Time. However, some people don't play fair ONLINE, they will pretend to be somebody or something they reallly are not. Again, this is Some people (not all). The fact remains that there are a lot of people who are doing a lot of fantasy role playing out online in some form or another.

Some people establish emotional connections with other people online, this happens all the time. Also, it is possibe for somebody to make decisions and give another person instruction. The control aspects of D/s where a Dominant is in control of aspects of a submissives life are possible. Again, there are differences between Real Time Face to Face Physical D/s and Online/Long Distance D/s. Yet, dispite these differences it's possible to make decisions and give instruction to another person to follow. To recieve Quick updates and reports.

In terms of how long can a Online or Long Distance Relationship can last, Who the hell really knows. There are many times that Real Time Physical relationships don't last very long.

It's clear that you can have Short and Mid Term length relationships with somebody online or long distance. In regards to long term relationships (i have no idea). Again, many real time relationships fail and don't last very long.

Online Relationships COULD they work. Yes, because some people actually have Long Distance relationships. It's questionable for how long though, I think it all depends and nobody can give you any solid answers. After All, Real Time Physical Relationships are supposed to work and last, yet many don't.

Again, to answer your question. It's Yes and it all depends.

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RE: How do you feel about online relationships? - 4/27/2010 3:39:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've engaged in online relationships for years. Is it real? Yes. Is it as good as face-to-face, no but it's close. I first find chemistry, then use hypnosis to intensify the experience, and help the sub to let go and enjoy the experience. I've never had one complain. Most of them went on to find face-to-face relationships. They tried out the relationship with me. These ladies experienced submission and orgasm (generally multiple).

On-line activities offer a chance to live the life-style even though you are not able to move to a Dom, or your tied down for some other reason. It enhances your self-knowledge in a major way. It is a release, and just like in real time, your Dom will try to help with your day-to-day problems.

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