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Real0ne -> RE: When Y/you aren't the one chosen (3/21/2006 10:15:39 PM)

it sux to break up but i think it is an inevitable part of finding a partner in a free society.  i tend to look for everything that can go wrong up front to get it all out of the way prior to having any serious feelings for someone.  many times people fall in love then discuss the details later which is a recipe for unnecesary hurt that could have been prevented.  Most of my breakups are done long before any significant feelings are developed.  of course for the ones that make it past that point i feel hurt like anyone else would.  but i always look at the brite side and think better now than 5 years from now after the marriage etc etc 




redangel -> RE: When Y/you aren't the one chosen (3/22/2006 4:55:04 AM)

Just be upfront and don't lie. If it's not working be honest, not to the point of being rude. Saying "you're too fat" isn't honesty it's rude. If the person doesn't appeal to you then find a way out by using "I" statements. "I" need to move on in my growth and "I" see us going in different directions. The use of "I" statements can be found through the use of any search engine. Taking responsibility for the reason YOU feel the need to part instead of dumping it on another is the best course of action. Those who get dumped, and we've all been there, seek closure. Those who sub are more vulnerable because we seek approval. Tops tend to think they are always in control and when they get dumped can't fathom how anyone couldn't want their dominance. We are all human. Knowing ourselves is 3/4 of the battle though.

angel




jamesthehumanrug -> RE: When Y/you aren't the one chosen (3/22/2006 1:28:10 PM)

DEAREST M WHO,
TO ME :superficially
IT'S EMBARRASSING AND A BIT OF LOSS OF COMPETTION AND DEFEAT TO LOSE THE FAVOR ,OF ANY MISTRESS.
reality says however,in s and m ;you must accept your level of  place ,
that means, until you find your lifetime- lover ;you won't be satisfied.
love is such a sacrificial thing;
i hate to hear my dom say: you are a good pet for someone but ,just not me ;
esp.,if  i am with her and shes sacrificing for my short-commings,not being fully served and satisifed.
so for me, as a slave ;it means back to the study books,for what a woman wants;
or, as a slave; i am not being 'universal', enuff,not utility enuff;
the upside is that, if i were the 'ideal-slave' it would ,only take away a lot of the choices a lesser slave mite have in mind  ;while searching the field,for a mistress.
thankgod you are so upfront- honest.
i guess "arrogance " is ,so appealing ,to me,
and universally" arrogance "is so g.d.appealing to the masochisitc personality, as stated, in carsons 'interpersonal distance scale (psychology of personality ;mmpi test); that,
for anyone ,to interrupt an arrogant person;in vivo;
cant be a true masochistic personality ,
or you as an arrogant top would be favored, by that person, or audience,
as pure arrogance!
and ,
if they were ,not applauding your every arrogant move; comment ;and gesture ;you're simply barking up the wrong tree anyway.
i simply love the arrogant appeal ;
the non-chalance;
the know-all stance;
the omnicience;
the life and death assumption of power in bed ,
so much,that ;
it's sort of what the attraction is ,to a dumb model ,or the feelings of fear and excitement you get,to a huge giant wild animal,in your backyard taking over,so ....i say ,....forgive, all their arrogance ,fore they know, not what they do....
even the word "arrogance" brings to mind ;feelings,inside me of immediate-sexual- sensation,or it reminds me always ,of the first god ,or goddess i ever saw .
what mere mortal can rule that and anyone that offends or tries to destroy a god or godesses  domain/or rule forever is severely punished,for that unforgivable-offense.
once a god; s/he is always a god.




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