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First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/5/2010 6:37:34 PM

kTez8

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I am a guy who has finally decided to take explore my submissive side in real time. So I will be going to a few events tailored to newbies this week.

I plan to try and learn alot from the events, but I was wondering if any of you on the message boards had some advice. Common newbie mistakes and such. I know, I am asking very generally but any comments would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/5/2010 6:43:05 PM

homedespot

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Generally the people in the DC scene are nice, easy going, open and friendly.

I have no idea what you are looking for (haven't looked at your profile) but you say you are a submissive man so I'd give you the same advice I'd give any new male submissive: The women...we're women...like real people women. Not leather and latex clad, high heeled, crop carrying, fetish objects. You'll get further with a woman (any woman -- in general) by being actively interested in her whole person. Try and keep that in-mind.

Good Luck,

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RE: First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/5/2010 6:51:22 PM

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Thank you for the comment.

Yeah, I understand that dominant or submissive person, the key word is PERSON, so I will definitely try to be myself and look for people who I can have fun and relate with.

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RE: First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/5/2010 10:43:23 PM

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This is a very exciting time for you. You will love the people at your munch if they are as friendly as the ones i have been to where i live. Home gave you great advice. i will also add that you take everything you are told with a grain of salt the first time, because you really don;t know who you are talking to and what they really know. Personally, i would never agree to go with anyone i first met especially since you are a novice.

Show respect, be yourself and let them know that you are just coming out. You will be surprised at how happy they will be for you.

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RE: First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/6/2010 8:22:59 AM

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You don't mention what kind of event you're attending, so My answer for you can't be very specific. It could be anything from a munch for new folks or you might be diving in head first at one of Master Taino's retreats. LOL.

Wherever you are going, ask the organizers about things such as attire and conduct. If it's just a munch being held at a vanilla location, such as a restaurant, you may be asked to leave your fetish wear at home. It's usually just plain good manners to keep the kink talk to a minimum when the wait staff are within earshot. They are just doing their job and aren't necessarily interested in hearing about the fantastic scene that everyone witnessed at the last play party.

If you're going to a dungeon or a play space, ask if you can have a copy of the dungeon rules in advance. That will tell you what is and isn't acceptable within parameters. There are some pretty common rules that are somewhat universal, such as don't interrupt anyone's scene, take any issues that you have to the DM (dungeon monitor), and so on. Be familiar with them before you go. Some places have certain protocols in place for certain events. It will help you to know what is and isn't acceptable. The best person to ask about this is whoever is organizing the event.

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RE: First time in Public, tips? (Washington DC) - 1/6/2010 8:56:35 AM

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Figure out what is considered 'normal' for people to wear in that area. Generally a nice looking sweater, clean (and un rip) jeans, good sneakers or shoes. Every munch I've ever visited was so casual you would never notice it, unless you knew what to look for at the time. Unless an observer can see and hear your group clearly, they may think you and everyone there works at the same company or some organization in the community.

If your not sure, simply ask the organizer of the munch. Ask any questions you want. They will give you a fair idea of what's acceptable and not acceptable at the munch. Be mature, adult, and conscouis of those around you, and you'll be fine. Enjoy yourself!

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