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PlayfulOne -> What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 1:03:30 PM)
Last night I came to an understanding that I was holding my litle one back in a couple of areas. I worked on the road for many years living in motels and fending for myself so often I will just start doing without even thinking about it. We were sitting in the computer room last night watching TV and doping some things on the computer and I asked her to go run a bath for me. Her eyes just lite up and a big smile burst out , I hear yes sir and off she zipped. I just watched her while we were doing this and it dawned on me how happy she was and how much she had been longing for me to just let go. We talked after about the times we've been laying in bed watchingTv and I just pop up and go get something or worse yet bring something back for her leaving her wondering why I just simply do not let her do these things. So now I'm paying more attention to just relaxing and letting her serve completely. The question is what did you finally have to give up or adjust? K

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 1:10:34 PM)
Actually resting when they tell me to rest. My partner a few weeks ago said that "You're the only person I know who would say that you're really tired and have a bad headache, but doing fine really." I need to listen to them when they tell me to slow down and give myself a break, trust that they have my best interests at heart and that I suck at knowing when I've hit my breaking point. I've also learned that EVERY dom has some weird control quirk about themselves- just some irrational chunk of their personality/needs that you just have to accept and deal with.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 1:10:55 PM)
I've been an independent person since I was little. I can relate to how you feel...sometimes, its easier to get something yourself rather than explain how to do it. The challenge is:We have to learn to be served just as much as they have to learn to serve, in many, many cases. This doesn't mean that we give up being self-sufficient...it means we accept what our s/s has to offer. Fire

BrianSenior -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 1:11:35 PM)
I have been caring for My 2 kids for a while as a single parent, since My wife is living in NC going to shcool. I had to adjust to being the only parent here, and in doing so keeping the house up, cooking dinner, shopping all of the goodies that go along with it. Now when she is here I have to adjust back to being served, so it has been adjusting twice. It is a pleasure as you said to see her happily doing for Me, I am glad when she comes back home!

Rayne58 -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 2:46:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Actually resting when they tell me to rest. My partner a few weeks ago said that "You're the only person I know who would say that you're really tired and have a bad headache, but doing fine really." I need to listen to them when they tell me to slow down and give myself a break, trust that they have my best interests at heart and that I suck at knowing when I've hit my breaking point. I've also learned that EVERY dom has some weird control quirk about themselves- just some irrational chunk of their personality/needs that you just have to accept and deal with. I'm learning that right now - I broke my toe a few days ago and have been really chafing at the bit because I have to rest and let Master look after me for a change[&o] I also have to tell Him when I'm not feeling 100% at times. Being His carer, and knowing He suffers pain and ill health 24/7, I haven't liked to bother Him with my little troubles, but He insists that I let Him know these things. My ex husband had no patience with illness so I learned to soldier on even when I was feeling completely ratshit[8\|] Having someone now who actually cares about me is something I'm still getting used to![:)]

MHOO314 -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 3:01:31 PM)
Ordering--I tell the boy that's his job, order for Me and then I do it Myself! I even mentioned to him when we were in Vegas that I needed to get that one right---LOL--but I did have great fun--I sent him souvenier shopping for Me--- I was in a trade show all day and could not get out, so I told him what I was looking for (kind of vague) and sent him off--he made Me so proud---he got exactly what I would have--(it touched Me that he does know Me so well so quickly)---I got it done, he had fun and he served Me by doing it---and yes PlayfulOne---having done for so long, I have to concentrate at times to really let go of things! Thanks for the post---oh and btw, I hope My student sees this and prints it out for her Dom who hasn't quite learned to let go of some things---[;)]

kyraofMists -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 5:56:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne The question is what did you finally have to give up or adjust? To question "why". This was something that he and I actually discussed before I became his. I really enjoy understanding the why of things, but it is not a question that he enjoys hearing in certain contexts. I can question who, what, when, where and how but not why when given instructions. When discussing thoughts, opinions and feelings, I can ask permission to know why and it is usually explained. I find the more I learn about him and his preferences the less I have the desire to ask why about anything at all. Knight's kyra

Mistresscarmen1 -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 6:09:24 PM)
I think it is interesting that you choose to comment "every dom has some wierd control quirk" as if you have the mind to understand someone Superior to you. I will put it down to a bad choice of words or who knows what you were thinking or not thinking? May your dom deal with you accordingly !! "C"

Level -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 6:18:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mistresscarmen1 I think it is interesting that you choose to comment "every dom has some wierd control quirk" as if you have the mind to understand someone Superior to you. I will put it down to a bad choice of words or who knows what you were thinking or not thinking? May your dom deal with you accordingly !! "C" That is a joke, isn't it? Level

PlayfulOne -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 6:21:20 PM)
MH, Even when I was in a relationship I spent a lot of time working on the road, so I was still fending for myself so at times I really have to stop, take a breath, and hand it over to her. She spent several evenings thinking, " Hello, perfectly good sub here why aren't you letting me do that?" . I asked why she didn't mention any of this to me and she responded I didn't want to seem pushy or like I was trying to top you form the bottom. I keep telling her I am independent and strong willed but she makes the mistake of referring to it as hard headed and stubborn, lol. K

Lashra -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 7:04:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam I've been an independent person since I was little. I can relate to how you feel...sometimes, its easier to get something yourself rather than explain how to do it. The challenge is:We have to learn to be served just as much as they have to learn to serve, in many, many cases. This doesn't mean that we give up being self-sufficient...it means we accept what our s/s has to offer. Fire I too am a fiercely independent person and I know exactly what you mean. I am having a really hard time learning to give my sub things to do and allowing him to do things for me. It was just so instilled in me as a child to depend on no one but yourself that its a struggle. I do have him opening doors for me, sliding in my chair in a restaurant, warming up the car, running errands for me etc..so Im working on it. [:D] ~Lashra

Submotive -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 7:10:54 PM)
Letting go! Letting go? ----- It's a double edged sword for B/both sides i think. i have to let go of trying to get Him to let go. Ha Ha It's true though. i tell myself "it's called submission - that means - let go, surrender, submit to His desires and wishes". One of these days, i really hope i get this. Still practicing.[:D]

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 8:00:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: Mistresscarmen1 I think it is interesting that you choose to comment "every dom has some wierd control quirk" as if you have the mind to understand someone Superior to you. I will put it down to a bad choice of words or who knows what you were thinking or not thinking? May your dom deal with you accordingly !! "C" That is a joke, isn't it? Level That's the only thing I can see it being.

artglfr -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/21/2006 8:42:55 PM)
Ha ha, it was her first Post so I hope she was being funny.

starymists -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 8:48:42 AM)
Mmm...how high can we count? For me, it comes down to letting go of submission and stepping fully into surrender. I'm far too used to letting go only to ~there~. Some of my boundaries were set more on comfort levels than anything else. So as we have evloved, I have found myself struggling in just letting go with the bigger things. Like sharing my daughter umm...clarification...decisions pertaining to my daughter. Choosing a church. Deciding on if I will seek a new job or not. Things that will have a long term impact. It's been a difficult transition, but one that is proving to be more than worthwhile ;)

RiotGirl -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 9:11:25 AM)
Well, i let go of hiding myself. i finally opened up and let some one in. Sounds retarded i'm sure, but it is nice. Still smile fiiercly and assure i'm "okay" when i'm crying though. heh. Took along time for him to see past the smile. Its nice to let some one hug ya when you cry. Have yet to let go of the rebellion. Been 12 years since i stuck up my middle finger to the parents, the gov and everyone else in authority cos i felt they were doing such a poor job of it. Interesting thought at 14 that everyone that is "driving the car" of your life was doing a crappy job so you were going to start driving. Even knowing i havent done a great job, it is still difficult to come to the conclusion that some one else will steer right. So i have yet to be able to sit back, relax and not check the map, so to speak, repeatedly. (and if i think you took the wrong turn, or steering off the road or not going in the right direction.. be sure you'll hear about it) heh. One of these days i'll actually sit in the passenger seat with my eyes closed knowing everything is as it should be.

MsIncognito -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 9:39:06 AM)
I think somebody let all the nutters out on day pass today [:D] quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: Mistresscarmen1 I think it is interesting that you choose to comment "every dom has some wierd control quirk" as if you have the mind to understand someone Superior to you. I will put it down to a bad choice of words or who knows what you were thinking or not thinking? May your dom deal with you accordingly !! "C" That is a joke, isn't it? Level

RiotGirl -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 9:46:15 AM)
quote: I think somebody let all the nutters out on day pass today No worries, day passes end at 5 and we all have to be back in our rooms heh

thetammyjo -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 10:08:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne Last night I came to an understanding that I was holding my litle one back in a couple of areas. I worked on the road for many years living in motels and fending for myself so often I will just start doing without even thinking about it. We were sitting in the computer room last night watching TV and doping some things on the computer and I asked her to go run a bath for me. Her eyes just lite up and a big smile burst out , I hear yes sir and off she zipped. I just watched her while we were doing this and it dawned on me how happy she was and how much she had been longing for me to just let go. We talked after about the times we've been laying in bed watchingTv and I just pop up and go get something or worse yet bring something back for her leaving her wondering why I just simply do not let her do these things. So now I'm paying more attention to just relaxing and letting her serve completely. The question is what did you finally have to give up or adjust? K I can completely relate to your story. I have the hardest time letting Fox (or others) serve me because I learned to take care of myself and others while I was growing up. I'm still not comfortable with being taken care of when I'm sick (as I am now, welcome sinus infection, blah) though ordering someone to do something for me is fun. When I think of it again -- usually I just do it myself. This is part of the reason why my training of Fox included doing some standard things and he'll jump on them before I can do it myself. The biggest area I've let go of is my kitchen and food prep. I know how to cook, I trust myself to cook, and I do it darned well I believe. Plus I'm an incredibly picky eater! Even two years ago Fox could only help me in the kitchen or do simple things like make a sandwich for me BECAUSE I didn't let him do more. Now he cooks entire dinners for us including Thanksgiving (I did the veggies though cause he was overwhelmed and I felt bored). He does it well too! But I am still one of the world's pickiest eaters.

IronBear -> RE: What did you let go of? (3/22/2006 10:31:02 AM)
I guess this is something I’d have to look at when and if I collar another girl. My nature is, when making a coffee to see who else wants one or anything else from the kitchen. I would be aware of the other duties a slave would and should be doing and I’d be damned if I’d break her routine to make me a cuppa tea or coffee. Having said that I love having a girl serve me coffee and watching her service so it would be a matter of commonsense and priorities. Many times Neets tries to get my coffee to save my pain, but I need to get up and move about

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