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on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 2:35:16 PM

Cristalin

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how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 2:41:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

how many chances has an on-line relationship, a very long distance one to develop and grow and became effective in real life too?...does anyone live in such a relationship?...

From my observations, the online relationships that don't move to face to face in a few months rarely do so at a later time. On the other hand, I have acquaintances whom I have known for years online and never met.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 3:12:40 PM

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i am involved in this on-line relationship since august last year...the problem is that i need more then on-line with every day that goes by and for the moment Master can`t meet me...i crave for a human touch, for His touch...i only can dream...

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 3:25:32 PM

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It takes just as much energy to find a dom locally as it would long distance. If you crave that human touch then you should look local. You have a much better chance of having your relationship be real time instead of online.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 3:59:52 PM

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I've had two online relationships that went 'real time' within a few months and neither worked in the long run...but then again, maybe that was just my own poor luck.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 4:31:51 PM

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I had one relationship, where we met online. He lived in British Columbia, I in New England. After 2 months of chatting and talking on phone, we made the decision to meet in real life. He came here for two months and it was fabu !. We were very lucky in that our careers allowed us the money and time off to travel. We spent the next 18 months visiting each other every other month for a week- 10 days. For a long distance relationship , it was pretty solid, and we had a very strong bond. During those 18 months we had many many discussions about one of us moving to be together as a * real* couple. Long story short, it didn't happen for many reasons. I believe that in MOST cases it is difficult to uproot yourself, even for the one you call Master, and leave everything behind you. I should premise that with, I was in my mid forties and at that age and older, it is difficult. At least to move 3000 miles away from everything you know and to another country. For me it would have been hard enough adjusting to a new live in relationship without all the other junk in the way, and he felt the same way about coming here. We remain close friends and visit each other twice a year. We have a runnig joke that if we are not in another realtionship when we retire, we will make the move. I think it is more to offset the disappointment we both have that it just wasn't possible for either of us to take those steps.

I will say to you, Cristalin : there is not one good reason I could accept for your Master not to have met you after all this time. I would have given him a time frame to actually meet me, and if he refused to do it, I would spray my " BeGone Dust" on him.

Some one once told me: you only have a certain amount of emotional currency, spend it wisely. I would not be spending my emotions on someone who has not shown me that he is willing to do the same.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 4:37:06 PM

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i live such a relationship at the moment... i have been with my Master for 3 months now and we won't get the opportunity to meet face to face for another 3 months. W/we talk all the time on the phone as well as online and are building a mutal trust and friendship as a foundation to O/our relationship... i yearn for Him at times, so strongly that it hurts deep in my soul. i have had people tell me it won't work, that all we have is a "cyber relationship", or that it's all in both my head and His head, but then these people do not know what my Master and i discuss or how deep our friendship and trust already is. i am well aware of the risk that when W/we meet it may not be as either of U/us expect in real time, i am realistic about that, but my Master is already getting to know me better than anyone else ever has, it is already a special bond... i truely believe it will work for U/us, and if it doesn't, i know there will be great pain felt, but even so, i would never change the experience for anything... there will always be a bond between U/us because W/we have shared so much and grown together in O/our experience, W/we have travelled an amazing road together. i have learnt so much from Him, and i am sure He has learnt from me too... so no matter what happens, what the future holds... it will all be worth it... this i know

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 4:43:36 PM

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I've been in a long distance relationship for a little over four months now. I was out to see him once but the projected one week was cut short by a family emergency on my part.

We talk every day, generally for several hours at a time. As soon as I can find a new apartment, preferably with a roomate in my area, He'll move and resettle out here. But for now we deal with the cards we are dealt.

Both of us seemed to go through a bit of a depression the few weeks after I left. I suppose it was because of even with our seperate lives, jobs, families, etc. it seemed silly that I was leaving just as quickly as I came.

I still think it's perfectly worth it for the relationship to continue. If I ended it now, all I would do is wonder where it could have gone. I'd beat myself up over it, so I prefer to stay the course.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 4:50:39 PM

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I would be interested in knowong more of onl-line training and relationships?

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 5:06:51 PM

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Different people have different experiences, but to add a positive example, lucky's Owner met a sub online, was online for two years (lucky thinks), and eventually that one became Her 24/7 and has been for the last four years, with it working out just fine.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 5:15:28 PM

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quote:

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I would be interested in knowong more of onl-line training and relationships?

With us, we haven't done all that much with training and such online and over the phone.
It has gotten to the point where we are both aware that if he wants me to do somthing, all he has to do is tell me. Other than that, neither oe of us has really done the d/s long distance relationship before, so we're in the dark as far as what kind of "training" can be done from 800 miles away.

I respect him, I love him, and when I'm with him it's quite apparent that he's my dominant.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 5:21:48 PM

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I met my faincee in a long-distance online relationship, I guess you could say. Now we live together, have a full 24/7 Dominent/Submissive relationship, and we to be honest we complete each other.

So I guess it works. Lol.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 5:25:30 PM

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I live in a vanilla relationship, so to satisfy my submissive desires, I sought out an online relationship, for the most part it is working, though there are times I don't hear from him for a few days and worry, needlessly he tells me. I get enough from following orders to keep me satisfied in my real time relationship. However tonight, my vanilla spouse informed me that he is interested in observing and reading my cyber dom's orders, and checking to make sure I follow them.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 7:00:04 PM

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My sister's 2nd marriage was to someone she met of the net.. At first my family was kind of upset especially my dad, but even though my brother and law can be annoying all in all it worked out great. My sis is very happy.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/21/2006 11:05:00 PM

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Master and i started out as an online long distance relationship. I lived in NW Ontario and He was here in Texas. It took us 2 years to physically meet, due to finances. I spent 9 days with Him here and the next time we got together was a year later when He got to come to visit me. During the time we spent separated, there was daily contact, via phone, letters, and online. We told each other everything, from complaining about a lousy day at work to talking about our wants and needs. I ended up moving here to Texas, and we have been happily married for over a year now. It can work if you are both willing to make the emotional investment and commitment. Yes, it can be hell waiting for the next time you get to touch each other. I can't count the number of times one of us had to bolster the other. But when the relationship does work, it is well worth the wait. I wish you luck and happiness, no matter which choice you make.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 2:34:24 AM

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Thorns and i started an online relationship over 5 years ago. He was living in Germany and i in Michigan. We met after several months with not knowing we would see each other more than once a year.......He was worth the effort. He eventually moved back to the states, i traveled back and forth to see Him for over a year. I then moved out here to Arizona, then on 31 December '05 we were married.

Long distance relationships are not easy, they are hard as hell and if the effort was not put forth i believe it would have failed.

Happy Wednesday y'all!

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 4:36:12 AM

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Just to add to the success stories, I met my sub online and five months later she moved across the country to relocate. Seven years later we are still together. Relocation worked because we were both at a point where we were able to take a risk.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 10:16:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IwillownallofU

I would be interested in knowong more of onl-line training and relationships?

If you click "search" at the top of the page and put in "online" then search topics and subjects you will probably get more info that you want.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 10:29:37 AM

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My Dom and i are another success story of a long distance relationship. He lived in Oklahoma and me in Ontario, Canada.
There were many obsticles that we had to overcome, the one still in front of us is immigration, but that is being worked on.
We spent hours online on voice and cam, so that it felt like we were really there until we were able to make a go of it real time.
It takes a lot of work, honesty and a real knowledge that this relationship is worth fighting for.
Many have made bets against us getting together, and staying together. We have shown them, but most importantly we have shown each other that W/we are the priorities in each others lives and failure is not an option.
It has taken an adjustment to living in Oklahoma, but the rewards of being with my Dom on a 24/7 basis makes up for any differences.
For a long distance relationship to work both must be totally dedicated to making it happen, and make it work.
I wish all who are in this situation the best of luck as it is not easy. Many lonely nights and frustrations to deal with.

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RE: on-line relationships - 3/22/2006 11:06:02 AM

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Back in 1997, I met a wonderful man online. We chatted by phone, in chat clients, and in chat rooms for about 6 months as we worked out the details of how to get together as travel for both of us was something of a hassle. We finally did meet, our relationship developed and after 2 years, we moved to be closer to one another. Grand total we were together for 5 years and I believe we'd still be together except he passed away from cancer.

I will say that I agree with a lot of what's been said here. Take it off line as soon as possible, set a time frame that's realistic. Sometimes, life does happen and gets in the way of the time table *like when his mother was hospitalized for heart trouble*, so be flexible, but try and meet up face to face.

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