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Knighthunter862 -> The reason (1/8/2010 3:21:10 PM)
Does a submissive or slave get what they need thru there submission or thru there Dom phraising and or rewarding them for thereact of submission?

littlewonder -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 3:27:35 PM)
I get what I need by being with a man who is caring, understanding, compatible, who I am in a relationship with.

LafayetteLady -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 4:16:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Does a submissive or slave get what they need thru there submission or thru there Dom phraising and or rewarding them for thereact of submission? If it were only the latter, then a sub/slave would accept any ole dom/master that gave them an order, don't ya think?

UniqueRaven -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 4:49:35 PM)
This is a quote that i have kept for a long time now. It absolutely sums up for me why i submit and what i "get" from it in addition to all the fun stuff. [;)] "The most dedicated and enduring submissives and slaves are the ones who approach their submission as a healthy furthering of their own self-exploration and personal development, and who remain in touch with, aware of, and maintain responsibility for their own mind-space and the thoughts that happen there (including any choices made that are based on those thoughts)."

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 5:07:33 PM)
All that's "needed" is this ---> http://www.buy.com/retail/product.asp?sku=211536464&listingid=47034842 [;)]

DesFIP -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 5:19:20 PM)
Both, neither, none of the above. Him praising me doesn't get me fed when I haven't eaten in 16 hours and am shocky. Telling him either we go eat out as he said he wanted to do, or I make myself breakfast immediately does. Different people have different needs and different motivations. Subs aren't off a line, each interchangeable with the next. Just like doms we are people who need to be focused on as individuals. Or do you really want her telling you that you don't like your coffee black, you want it with cream and sugar because that's the way both her exes liked it?

Aileen1968 -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 5:34:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA All that's "needed" is this ---> http://www.buy.com/retail/product.asp?sku=211536464&listingid=47034842 [;)] uh huh. [sm=insane.gif]

whiteslavebitch -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 6:03:33 PM)
For me, both.

NuevaVida -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 6:09:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 Does a submissive or slave get what they need thru there submission or thru there Dom phraising and or rewarding them for thereact of submission? I get what I need by being true to myself. Being true to myself has brought me to a man with whom I find added joy. That joy comes, in part, from submitting to him, and in part from our basic interaction together. Sometimes I receive praise within that interaction, and sometimes not. It's a much bigger picture for me than what is posed in this question.

osf -> RE: The reason (1/8/2010 6:22:53 PM)
this is part of something i wrote about an established relationship Walking beside him in growing apprehension, she goes not because she trusts him, she goes not because she loves him, she goes because that is what she does, she goes to fulfill her purpose for being some are like that

WyldHrt -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:14:20 AM)
For me, it's both. I find submission deeply fulfilling, but I can't submit in a vacuum. "Everything is ok unless I say otherwise" just doesn't work for me.

EbonyWood -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:17:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyldHrt For me, it's both. I find submission deeply fulfilling, but I can't submit in a vacuum. If you submit to a vacuum you will just get sucked in. Every time. Hey, it's late.

WyldHrt -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:24:19 AM)
It's usually guys that submit to the temptations of vacuums, Ebony. Some of them are even surprised when they wind up in the ER, LOL.

antipode -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:25:37 AM)
quote: Does a submissive or slave get what they need Depends (what, you think there's a rule?)

EbonyWood -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:30:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WyldHrt It's usually guys that submit to the temptations of vacuums, Ebony. Some of them are even surprised when they wind up in the ER, LOL. Depends on the caliber of the guy, Wyld.[8D]

WyldHrt -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 12:39:49 AM)
quote: Depends on the caliber of the guy, Wyld.[8D] True. Where a .22 might be safe, a .44 magnum will be in serious trouble! [:D]

elleX -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 2:37:32 AM)
,,, i think it is a mixture of both it is a part of the dance ,,,one react to the other ,,, submissive behavior will produce fulffilling sentiment to me and happiness to my Dominant ,and vice-versa otherwise there would be no color and flavor

Knighthunter862 -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 6:40:45 AM)
Guys i keep getting asked what i think.I didnt post the questions because i dont have my own opinion or cant deal with things on my own.I however do not assume to know it all or to never stop learning.So i ask to hear opinions and i ty for yal,s.

IronBear -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 6:50:17 AM)
Different strokes for different folks. Different dynamics and relationships have different needs all depending of the current situation. I hold that I am fully responsible for the well being of any slave/s I own or who are owned by Bruin Cottage. If a slave is unfulfilled in some way I want to know and I want to know asap so I can deal with that situation before it becomes a problem. I trust him and or her to tell me about such things, of if I am busy, tell Lady Neets who will inform me. I am unable to carry out my duties fully as a Master if I am kept in the dark for some reason. the slave can not completely carry out her duties proficiently if there is something she needs but doesn't tell me.. She needs to know and trust me that if I am able to fix it I shall and I need to trust her to come to me.. No big deal here just good slave management/ownership and many will agree I am sure.

DesFIP -> RE: The reason (1/9/2010 6:53:40 AM)
And there's no place for ever increasing apprehension, worry and fear in a good relationship. It's a relationship, either you're both happy in it or nobody is.

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