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LafayetteLady -> RE: eating pussy (1/9/2010 12:41:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Pygromanche
It isn't until college when they discover the joys of oral sex and experiment that a good slathering figure out "Hey oral sex is great!" Then you have that slim minority who are too chicken shit to overcome their conditioning and NEVER try it out. Because in their minds they still correlate oral to being a dirty nasty thing. Some may enjoy oral but still think, way in the back of their minds that by performing oral you are allowing your tongue to be used for someone else's pleasure, which in short equates to subservience...especially since you receive no sensory pleasures yourself as the giver (this is for some.... definitely not for me ;p lol).
;p Lady Py
I really have to disagree with you here. Yes, most women have been told since they were young that only "bad girls" give blow jobs. But they were also for many years told the same thing about pre-marital sex. I think it is a bit of a leap to think that guys have transferred that "bad girl" idea to the concept of giving oral sex.
Most girls are still raised that being demanding about sex is a bit "un-ladylike." So, like Sexyred's friend, they don't ask for what they want. Personally, I have enjoyed anal sex almost as long as vaginal sex. But for a very long time, it was really difficult to fill a guy in on that fact early on in the relationship. Admittedly, it was the social concepts that were in play. So many guys want anal sex, but so many also like to think they are the first to do it with their girl. Oops.
Now of course, I no longer have any of those problems. A guy would know right from the beginning that if he wasn't into anal sex, I wasn't going to be into him. Years ago, it would take most women many years to get to that point. Now, younger women are thinking that way much sooner, which is great.
Years ago, I had a conversation with my son when he asked about "cocksucking" (ain't schoolyards great). He knew what it was, but the questions came about the female equivalent. His immediate response was "EWWWW, YUK, I'm never going to do THAT." I asked him if someday he would like a woman to do that to him and of course, the response was a resounding yes. I pointed out to him (one of those moments where being a single mom is great, no dissenting opinion), that if he wanted to GET it, he should really be able to GIVE it. Flash forward a bunch of years...he gives it more than he gets it AND he likes it.
In the end, as beth has pointed out, nothing is specifically a vanilla act or a non-vanilla act. In their relationship, if Merc calls beth and tells her what to make for dinner, what time it should be on the table, etc., for them that isn't a specifically vanilla act. The perception of the people involved will make all the difference.
For the OP, I see much bigger issues than the simple concept that he won't go down on her. Personally, it isn't that big a deal to me (it might be if Gene Simmons with his tongue were doing it, hee hee), but that's a personal decision. With the OP, he led her to believe that it was something that might happen. I also personally have issues with dominants who do the whole "if you are a very very good girl, I *might* reward you with "x." I'm not dissing those who like that, but it isn't for me, that's for sure.
He mislead her, that is a bigger problem than what he now will or won't do. That coupled with the other things the OP has said, it just appears that she is the only one who really has invested emotionally in the relationship.
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