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whims - 1/8/2010 8:17:43 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		seeking subbies thoughts on this

on a whim he tells you to do something, it's not somethng that is important to him and he didn't give it much thought and set no time frame

it's not particularly difficult

now you have other things you had planed to do, that you consider of higher importance

what level of importance and priority do you place on it and why

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 8:22:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't. I ask him what he wants me to do first.

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 8:32:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree.  Always seek clarification.  After all, you do have to answer to your Owner at some point.  Besides, if you don't take care of it in short order, you may forget it.  

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 8:45:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		osf, was this a thread, or a public service announcement?

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 8:50:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

osf, was this a thread, or a public service announcement?

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i have my thoughts on this of course and i have an idea of other doms but am curious about more than the answer the subs give

also the reasoning behind their answers

the what as well as the why

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 9:33:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		No set time frame? I'd do it on my way back from getting things taken care of. It'd be imporant enough to get done by the end of the day, but not imporant enough to do before my errands.

Depending on the task of course. If he wanted milk to snort up his nose with straws while I was away, I'd go get milk and drop it off at the house before I left again.

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 9:44:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		If he doesn't specify a timeframe for something, I generally ask when he expects it to be done. If I don't think I'll be able to meet his timeframe, I say so and we talk about it. He expects me to put my daughter first and to attend to my own health and career as well as to take care of his needs, so he might ask me to put his "whim task" ahead of a career task I need to do but that isn't terribly time sensitive. It pretty much comes down to him doing the prioritizing, not me.

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 9:45:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Btw, serious answer - i don't place my own importance on things. i would ask him what he wants me to do first, like Kyra, unless it was something so blatantly obvious it would just be annoying if i didn't simply go do as i was told.

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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 10:52:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		First of all, I know this probably sounds nit-picky, but this word has been bugging me for a long time: "subbie" sounds so condescending.  It sounds as bad as "Dommie" would.  Now that that's out of the way.....

I don't assume a level of importance, but I would ask for clarification on the time frame, and go from there.  Then I would get it done a.s.a.p. within that time frame, as I want to please my Dominant.  Plus, if it's not something that's important to Him, He didn't give it much thought & it's not particularly difficult w/ no set time frame, I'd think He's just checking to see how obedient & willing to please I am, so I'd better do a good & efficient job of it.  That's my  .




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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 11:21:10 PM   
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quote:

First of all, I know this probably sounds nit-picky, but this word has been bugging me for a long time: "subbie" sounds so condescending.  It sounds as bad as "Dommie" would.  Now that that's out of the way.....


if you'll permit me to use subbie i'll permit you to use dommie

if you don't permit me to use subbie, i'll use it anyway

and for me it's a term of affection

get used to it

oh, and i appreciate your participation truly


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RE: whims - 1/8/2010 11:44:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear dommie
I would lay out the tasks I needed to accomplish for the day and let him decide the priority. If direction was not given, I would get to it as soon as tasks that could affect our lives negatively if not done were taken care of.
Example: Sir mentions that he'd like strawberry pie sometime soon. Would I decide on my own to blow off work to stay home and make it? No. Blowing off work could get me fired, putting unwelcome stress on household finances. That said, if he decided that he really wanted that pie, was aware that calling in might get me fired, and told me to do it anyway, I'd be Betty Crocker

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 1:14:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		If he's set little importance on it and set no time frame then it gets done after the things I already had planned before he asked me to do his whim/bidding.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 1:53:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is a somewhat hierarchy of order for me.
My children come absolutely first. A call from the school to get one if she wasn't feeling well would take precedence.
Their schedule always does...
He knew that from day one with me.
If I have a job that has to become second. I need to pay bills. He also knows that.
He's a realistic guy and doesn't live in any kind of fantasy world.
He comes before me. Always.
Anything he requests is top priority and is always done first before anything that I need to do.
It really is simple and after a year and a half there haven't been many conflicts at all.
Just a few moments of last minute scrambling on my part, but that's kind of fun to me.
Just yesterday I texted him with what I intended to do for the day. As I hit send his text came rolling in with directions.
His request completely conflicted with mine for a split second and then his request became my new to do list and my things were fit in within the cracks of time.
And I got to dress up and help him shop for a suit for the afternoon as a bonus.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 3:26:38 AM   
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whats strawberry pie, it sounds delicious.

i would imagine that he would know my timetable and where my other priorities might lie and that he would expect me to get those things out of the way first. if id rushed off to do his 'thing' and failed to get my son to the dentist or the food in the oven then the 'thing' he'd set me would have proved counterproductive to his ethos that he is the guiding light in my life rather than just another 'priority' to struggle round.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 6:35:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

it's not somethng that is important to him and he didn't give it much thought



How would the sub even know that it's not important and wasn't given much thought?

I can just imagine how contrived that conversation would sound.

"I want you to do something for me but it's something that really just came to me like a bolt from the blue and I haven't given it much thought. Oh by the way it's not really that important but I'd like you to do it anyways... eventually."

Reading what I just wrote I realize we would probably have a good laugh over that. Then I would do it or just forget about it depending my mood... because I know she would forget about it if it's not that important.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 6:46:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JoeVanilla


quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

it's not somethng that is important to him and he didn't give it much thought



How would the sub even know that it's not important and wasn't given much thought?

I can just imagine how contrived that conversation would sound.

"I want you to do something for me but it's something that really just came to me like a bolt from the blue and I haven't given it much thought. Oh by the way it's not really that important but I'd like you to do it anyways... eventually."

Reading what I just wrote I realize we would probably have a good laugh over that. Then I would do it or just forget about it depending my mood... because I know she would forget about it if it's not that important.


it could be something he said in passing without giving it much thought that she took more seriously than he meant

any number of reasons

his reason isn't the important thing, her thoughts and reasons are what the thread is about

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 7:03:58 AM   
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what level of importance and priority do you place on it and why


Lets see… on a whim; not important; no time frame; not difficult------- things I had planned, of higher importance…

If I were to feel that the things I had planned are of higher importance, then it is likely they are of higher importance to him, as well.

I always follow his priorities; they’re not complicated, so it is not hard.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 7:05:59 AM   
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Depending on the task of course. If he wanted milk to snort up his nose with straws while I was away, I'd go get milk and drop it off at the house before I left again.
if he wanted that...i am not sure you should return at all 

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 7:08:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		We have tiered rules that say what comes first. So I'm not going to miss my kid's guidance appointment to discuss next year's classes in order to pick him up a copy of the racing form. If it isn't of any importance to him, it isn't that important to me, nor should it be. That's in his rules. So it will get done later that day or the next without disrupting my entire life. Because if he goes around disrupting everything just to prove he's the boss, guess what? Sooner or later, and probably sooner, she'll find a better boss to work for.

You know osf, I've finally figured out your problem. You keep wanting a woman to prove she really does want to be with you. But since you don't really believe anyone would, you keep throwing roadblocks in her way. And eventually when she gets tired of being afraid and hurt and having her life ruined and moves on, then you can pat yourself on the back and tell yourself you were right all along, she didn't really love you. Of course you aren't recognizing that you keep killing her love. This is an issue of yours that predates the new woman, and it isn't fair to make her deal with your overwhelming baggage. Get it dealt with through the help of a good professional and only then go look for a relationship. Otherwise you will keep making perfectly fine women bitter about ever finding a good dominant. Because this enormous insecurity of yours will always prevent you from being one.

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RE: whims - 1/9/2010 7:09:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

seeking subbies thoughts on this

on a whim he tells you to do something, it's not somethng that is important to him and he didn't give it much thought and set no time frame

it's not particularly difficult

now you have other things you had planed to do, that you consider of higher importance

what level of importance and priority do you place on it and why
i put it on my "to-do" list (and yes...i am a list maker). I  prioritize as the day goes along and i will get to it...eventually.


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