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RE: Being collared - 1/10/2010 10:50:23 PM

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Ownership and commitment.

What she said.

What they said.

i agree with every damn one of them.

Ditto!

What comes after ditto? Ditto again?!?!

Ditto squared!

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 6:53:33 AM

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To me, being "collared" isn't a formal declaration. For me, I envision EVERY woman who interests me wearing a dog leash and collar at my beck and call!

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 8:31:18 AM

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ditto to the 3rd power.

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 9:20:11 AM

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I'm just asking for opinions, what would it mean to you if you collared your sub? I do know when you collar someone, it means you belong to them. But for someone who is collared, what does it mean psychologically to you? Physically to you? I know what it means for me, but looking for other's opinions.

Thank you.

Although this was aimed at dominant sorts I thought I would weigh in...

A collar is a symbol to many in WIITWD, just like a wedding ring. Just like marriage means different things to different people, collars are variable too. The symbol is meaningless to me these days, although it used to have meaning. These days the only symbol of commitment I am interested in pursuing is a marriage license

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 10:01:37 AM

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As someone who has never worn a collar but pines for Daddy's collar, a collar to me means a great deal more than an accessory as many people have stated. Daddy and I have a different view of the collar than some people. When i know we are ready, (He'll leave me signs) i will offer Him my collar, and He will make the choice as to whether or not He will accept my slavery. A collar is the gift a slave offers to her Master(to Daddy and i) in hopes that He will accept her complete devotion, worship, love, honesty, trust, etc. In return, He will give me love, protection, trust, honesty, etc. It is a lifetime commitment, in our eyes. A step toward marriage and one day children and everything that a vanilla couple holds dear.

Again, as someone who has never worn a collar, i hope to earn His one day, but it is something (in our eyes) to be earned and it should be earned over and over again.

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 11:35:33 AM

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On the side of the submissive, accepting the collar means accepting the control of the dominant into all areas of hir life, unless otherwise negotiated. It means they have formally given obedience to their dominant, and will act in trust and friendship and affection.

On the side of the dominant, placing the collar signifies that I recieve the gift of submission from my submissive and take up the responsibilities of control in all areas of hir life, unless otherwise negotiated. I place them formally into my household, and will act towards them with firmness, love, trust, and compassion.

Should we reach a point at which our paths separate, I take back the collar, withdraw my control and leadership, and let them do as they will.

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RE: Being collared - 1/12/2010 1:31:44 PM

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The truth is... for some it represents "ownership"... "commitment"... "service"... or whatever; for others, it means absolutely nothing and is little more than part of a play outfit. For us it's neither... just a symbol many put a lot of stock in, where we don't. A string, or ribbon, or necklace, or t-shirt, or whatever would hold the same value if it meant something to us.

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RE: Being collared - 1/13/2010 8:56:15 PM

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I'm just asking for opinions, what would it mean to you if you collared your sub? I do know when you collar someone, it means you belong to them. But for someone who is collared, what does it mean psychologically to you? Physically to you? I know what it means for me, but looking for other's opinions.

What it means to him is diddly squat. He isn't into "the lifestyle." When I mentioned wanting a collar, he offered me his dog's old collar that no longer fits her as a joke. This happened twice. The second time, I countered that I'd take his dog's hand-me-down when it was clean and had my very own pet ID tag. I got nada. Today, I asked if I could have it and was given it, dirty and without a cute tag.

What it means to me is a reminder of who's in charge in this relationship. I can ask for what I want, but I may not always get it. If I get it, it will be his way, not my way. I can take what he offers me or leave. It's also a reminder that the reason I try to please him has nothing much to do with obtaining symbols or status.

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RE: Being collared - 1/13/2010 9:47:56 PM

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It means to me that we have agreed to work out any problems we have. Neither one of us just walks away when the road gets rough. We have agreed that we are in this for the long term.

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RE: Being collared - 1/13/2010 10:01:34 PM

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The collar is just an item. Its what it symbolizes, that's important: that he's my owned property. Ownership, and being owned, is our kind of love. Its a commitment that runs deeper than love, deeper than marriage. Ownership is the vast, strong, sweet, permanent kind of commitment that fills our needs. The collar isn't necessary, but its a nice touch.

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RE: Being collared - 1/13/2010 10:11:14 PM

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To me it means that we are a couple. He will cleave only unto me.

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