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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/11/2010 9:31:18 AM

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I don't mean to sound cynical. I am in love right now and have been in love before.I have felt the Hallmark-card version of love, but it's not the single most important factor for me in a committed relationship. Having initiated a divorce from a man I was in love with for 20 years and knowing without a shadow of a doubt that I was doing the right thing confirms for me that love is not always enough and sometimes isn't even necessary to make a healthy relationship.

contentment and feeling in place are way underrated

when he stays and does to you what needs doing, even when he'd like a break,, what is that?

when she is there enduring what she has to endure for him when she'd like a break, what is that?

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/11/2010 10:20:27 AM

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contentment and feeling in place are way underrated

when he stays and does to you what needs doing, even when he'd like a break,, what is that?

when she is there enduring what she has to endure for him when she'd like a break, what is that?

Ah, that is commitment and connection, and it outweighs love for me. If it coincides with love, so much the better. Also, I think it doesn't always coincide with love initially, but love can grow from it.

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/11/2010 10:56:33 AM

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That would entirely depend upon how much one hates, I'd say. As for the above, I don't speak as if it is ideal to be free of negative feelings; that is quite impossible, if you're human. It is of being hated—that intense, passionate poison—I recommend being wary of when leading or serving. Love or desire is a bond. Even fear, if plied in the right way, is a bond. Love, desire and fear is an ideal trinity for some. But hatred? That is bad ground to rule over or serve under.

Yes I see your point. If the modus operandi is hatred, that is not a good way to go. That sort of unconscious demanding abuse in a world of their own, where no care of consideration is present for the other, I whole heartedly agree. Nearest escape route possible!

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/11/2010 2:23:08 PM

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I did and would never do it again. My former liked him but i never loved him. My Master now i am crazy in love with and it makes the symbol of his ownweship of me that much sweeter. Yes it is just a symbol, but he bestowed it on me, and anything he gives me is special and cherished.

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/11/2010 4:30:36 PM

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would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with?

No. I have recently discovered how beautiful love can be, and I'd never go back to loveless. I found much more happiness alone than when I was lonely in a relationship. Love, in both directions, is where I am finding joy. The key is in loving someone who wants the kind of love I have to give, and in receiving the kind of love that speaks most profoundly to me.

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/13/2010 3:26:33 PM

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would you take a collar from someone that you was not in love with?

No. I need to be devoted.

But I would take one from someone not in love with me, all else being equal.

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RE: Whats love got to do with it - 1/13/2010 3:34:19 PM

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i did. i didnt expect to ever love Him. but i knew He was the perfect one for me.

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