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RE: When you are punished - 1/11/2010 11:25:40 PM

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is it meant as a turn on for both of you or is it meant just as a punishment?

It better be to turn me on, or I will be out the door!

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 3:22:37 AM

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Punishment is something I'd never do in a relationship. In my opinion, being an adult and all means I should be able to talk things out with my partner - not taking into account that I don't think I'd actually ever be in a relationship where punishment would be something that would fit.
So, to answer the OPs question, I'd never let myself be punished.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 3:25:19 AM

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i personally enjoy feeling my Masters control. For me, having His control reinforced with a negative, such as punishment, would be harmful.

I have a hard time thinking of my involvement in the D/s dynamic as him having control over me, I consider every action I make as my choice, my consequence; pleasurable or otherwise.

My whole objective is to free myself from my ego; his willingness to punishing me, is a big part of making that happen. I guess that is why I am able to appreciate it so much.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 6:51:19 AM

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i was told that there would be two types of punishment. One that would hurt me and one that would hurt him. He said he was fine if he had to punish me, but if he ever had to punish me serverely that it would break his heart.

So, far it has never come to that and i don't expect it ever will.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 7:14:25 AM

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first the LOOK , then the TALK, if i disobey at best it will be a switch at worst banishment . and He wouldnt be happy to send me away and be without His slave .

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 7:45:52 AM

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for us it's a difference of "punishment" and "correcting". I get corrected all the time, but it never hurts us to do that. Honestly in light of my past relationships, I LIKE it, I do something, I apologize, I'm corrected, and it's OVER. No sulking, resentment, stuff percolating under the surface, tension, etc. Also, as He says, I cannot help but please Him. I either succeed and make Him proud, or I fail and He corrects me, which He enjoys. Win Win for us both.

Punishment would be for something very serious. Master is very aware that the worst thing He could do to punish me would be to leave me alone temporarily. He also knows that given my past, this would stir up A LOT of bad things for me, so short of me doing something so inexcusable, I doubt He would ever do that, and I'm an adult, so I don't see myself doing anything so terrible it would warrant that.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 8:16:08 AM

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Greetings

When I was a slave punishment was just meant as punishment, though I never actually earned a real punishment, just smaller corrections. We often was involved with pain play and that was meant as a turn on. But Aswad never needed the excuse of punishment to beat me. Personally I would not have found punishment arousing, that just meant I have disappointed someone, it is not fun, it is not meant to be fun, and one do not need to call it punishment to engage in pain play.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 8:20:46 AM

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I have not been punished in 9 years. That is not to say that I haven't received a few spankings in that time though. Prior to this relationship the person I was with did do punishments and I did not like it. It was not fun and I think the few times it happened it was unwarranted.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 9:27:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: cpK69

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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i personally enjoy feeling my Masters control. For me, having His control reinforced with a negative, such as punishment, would be harmful.

I have a hard time thinking of my involvement in the D/s dynamic as him having control over me, I consider every action I make as my choice, my consequence; pleasurable or otherwise.

My whole objective is to free myself from my ego; his willingness to punishing me, is a big part of making that happen. I guess that is why I am able to appreciate it so much.

Kim

There are many different "slaves" on this site. Some enjoy feeling their Masters control, and some obviously don't. i just personally like being under my Masters control.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 9:30:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

is it meant as a turn on for both of you or is it meant just as a punishment?

it is punishment and not meant to be fun

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 10:36:12 AM

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There are many different "slaves" on this site. Some enjoy feeling their Masters control, and some obviously don't. i just personally like being under my Masters control.

Since I wasn't questioning what you do, only stating I don't understand the train of thought, I don't get where you're comming from.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 10:37:52 AM

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I use the word punishment to mean punishment and play to mean play, punishment isn't fun.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 1:12:50 PM

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in the almost 4 years we have been together i have only been punished once and it was earned. Master does not like to punish me he is not into causing pain. Of course if i earn a punishment i will get it. Now spankings play spankings turn me on not the pain but the submission of it. Punishment spankings just hurt they do not turn me on at all. It kinda defeat the purpose if it turns the girl on cause it would be more of a reward then a punishment.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/12/2010 10:27:44 PM

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I use the word punishment to mean punishment and play to mean play, punishment isn't fun.

i think that's how it should be. punishment should only be given when someone screwed up and it's to teach a lesson. whereas play is meant to be fun =]

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 7:47:50 AM

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Punishment is punishment here. It's not fun. It's not meant for fun. It doesn't turn me on. It usually just friggin hurts like hell and makes me feel as if I let him down in some way.

Ditto on all of the above but ESPECIALLY the bold print!

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 8:11:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

is it meant as a turn on for both of you or is it meant just as a punishment?

if someone wants to punish me in a relationship that is not a relationship that I would want. For me it would be abusive. If they wanted to "punish" me in a scene that could be hot.

As you can see from the many responses on this thread people vary in how they view punishment.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 8:13:17 AM

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 8:25:25 AM

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yeppers!

hey you girlie!

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 8:26:25 AM

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Yes, i'm completely turned on, i have to beg for more, Mistress is turned on only as the intensity increases.

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RE: When you are punished - 1/13/2010 11:48:09 AM

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My Master and I have two forms of spanking, and we both know it.

Play spanking is just light love taps, really, or maybe one or two hard smacks, but not enough to sting for more than a minute or two. If he really gets into it he'll spank me long and hard enough that it burns a little, but not enough to really hurt. I enjoy the feeling and he enjoys the sight and the activity. It's a win-win situation.

But when he punishes me...oh gods help me.

Harsh spanking starts off slow and much like play spanking, but he pushes it beyond the point of pleasure. Once I start squirming, he knows it's hurting, and the stinging doesn't stop between smacks. He hits fast, too (video games apparently improve hand coordination...who knew?) so I don't have any breaks to recover... I hate punishments.

Other than that, physical punishment is pretty nonexistant because he knows I'd enjoy it too much. He'll punish me instead by making me do certain things I really don't like doing, or in the worst case scenerio, by ignoring me. But I only ever earned that once, and I deserved it.

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