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AquaticSub -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:21:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

it only takes a few to ruin it for th many

no wonder all you see is lame threads devoid of any real content or discussion


If that's really all you see, perhaps you aren't looking.

Or perhaps you need to find your own intellectual and lifestyle level. I've never seen much point in staying where you aren't being stimulated.



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:22:18 PM)

i tried didnt seem to work



AquaticSub -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:22:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Nice background.[;)]



Thanks. We took that pic on our honeymoon. [:)]



AquaticSub -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:23:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

i tried didnt seem to work


Tried blocking me? Oh that's easy. All you have to do to block someone is go to the lower left hand corner of any of their posts and click the "hide" button. Of course, if someone quotes them in their post you will still see it.

Hope that was helpful. [:)]



CarrieO -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:27:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

it only takes a few to ruin it for th many

no wonder all you see is lame threads devoid of any real content or discussion


This thread has gone the direction you lead it. It all began with your favorite post #9.  This topic had the chance to become a very interesting thread, and a few even tried to lead it in that direction, but yet again it's turned out like many others that you've started.

This has less to do with what other people say and more to do with how you choose to respond to them.

For what it's worth...the goose is cute.  I'm still a fan of foie gras, though.



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:31:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

it only takes a few to ruin it for th many

no wonder all you see is lame threads devoid of any real content or discussion


This thread has gone the direction you lead it. It all began with your favorite post #9.  This topic had the chance to become a very interesting thread, and a few even tried to lead it in that direction, but yet again it's turned out like many others that you've started.

This has less to do with what other people say and more to do with how you choose to respond to them.

For what it's worth...the goose is cute.  I'm still a fan of foie gras, though.



go back to post 5



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:33:09 PM)

ook then back to the meaning of the thread then



AquaticSub -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:33:56 PM)

Post five is answers to your questions and a comment regarding how difficult it can be to understand you. Neither of which are attacks.



CarrieO -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:35:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf


quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

it only takes a few to ruin it for th many

no wonder all you see is lame threads devoid of any real content or discussion


This thread has gone the direction you lead it. It all began with your favorite post #9.  This topic had the chance to become a very interesting thread, and a few even tried to lead it in that direction, but yet again it's turned out like many others that you've started.

This has less to do with what other people say and more to do with how you choose to respond to them.

For what it's worth...the goose is cute.  I'm still a fan of foie gras, though.



go back to post 5


This has less to do with what other people say and more to do with how you choose to respond to them.

You chose to take this post in a negative way.  Your choice.



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:38:55 PM)

back to the thread topic



littlewonder -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:41:27 PM)

structure=rules, coherency, organization, cohesiveness....stability.



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 6:49:19 PM)

i like to think it also has boundaries too



itsmeinLV -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 7:17:44 PM)

When the roles and rules are clearly defined in a relationship, whatever they may be or how they are applied to the people in that relationship.  [:)]



wisdomtogive -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/12/2010 7:30:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

structure=rules, coherency, organization, cohesiveness....stability.



Thank you littlewonder. You gave me something that i can understand and I appreciate it.

wisdom



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 12:35:16 AM)

this is the essence of my thought

Structure is a set of expectations established to guide the submissive’s conduct, for her to live up to.

Rules can’t be made to cover all possible contingencies and what is she to do when an uncovered contingency comes up, stop and just stand there? Structure would cover that by stipulating that she get in touch with him for guidance. In military terms structure may be akin to commanders intent.



AquaticSub -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 12:58:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

Structure is a set of expectations established to guide the submissive’s conduct, for her to live up to.



Are dominants not also bound by the structure of the relationship?

For example: In a monogamously-structured relationship, isn't he expected to conduct himself accordingly?



wisdomtogive -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 4:35:38 AM)

Last night I sent Sir Littlewonder's comment on structure, and he agreed with that as well as added balance. Again thanks Littlewonder.



eyesopened -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 5:11:41 AM)

I have never felt it necessary to redefine a word or concept that has already been adequately defined.

My American Heritage Dictionary defines it as such: Something made up of a number of parts that is held or put together in a particular way.

A structure in construction needs to have minimally a foundation and a framework.  But it also needs fasteners, a way to hold the framework in place and hold to its foundation or the slightest wind could blow it down.

My Master and I have a foundation of common relationship goals.  We have a framework of Master/slave/bdsm.  It is all fastened together with love and respect.



CaringandReal -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 5:28:59 AM)

To me, structure is the bars of the cage or maybe the hook in the mouth. It is the physical representation of the largely non-physical reality of a control relatiopnship. As such, it helps me to become more aware of the reality, in the same way that hearing from a friend who is not present reminds you of their existence and your affection for them. But structure is much more than a simple reminder. Like the cage and the hook, structure changes, shapes, limits, and channels one's personal reality to become that which the structurer chooses.



osf -> RE: what is your idea of structure in a relationship (1/13/2010 7:20:10 AM)

the original which was pulled from here had a tad more

to me the structure is the bare minimum on which rules, limitations, expectations, goals are hung, yes my concept of structure is all those things when complete

its like the shell of a house it's not a home till more is added

when i think about something i reduce it to it's final reduction and add from there, i likened it to the commanders intent which has flexibility and adaptability as it's corner stone.
commanders intent states the goal to be achieved, provides resources to achieve that goal, tactics to follow, doctrine to adhere to, what it gives is the ability for unit commanders to adapt within limitations to local conditions, while still pursuing the commanders goal,

i think the 3 of us are on the same bus in different seats with a slightly different view of the passing scenery


hell maybe i think too much lolololol not





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