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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 10:44:36 AM   
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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 11:02:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: w0nderasiwander
I am curious, what is your viewpoint?  If in a committed relationship, have you or would you change the appearance of your profile?  Do you think the frequency of your visits would change?  

If in a mono LTR and someone's profiles still says "single and seeking" ... well ...
If you originally only came to CM shopping for a partner, then there woudlnt be much reason to come back would there?


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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 11:42:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I added married to my profile.  Otherwise, nothing about my use of CM has changed. I come to the forums, mainly. Some cmailing. I wasnt ever really using the other side for searching.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 12:47:22 PM   
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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 12:49:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Like Drifa, I joined for the message boards after I was already in a relationship. My profile clearly says I'm in a relationship. I also decided NOT to include information on my particular fetishes because I don't think anyone needs to know that to be my friend. I selected a photo that indicates that I am in a relationship, as well.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/16/2010 5:33:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've changed my profile to reflect relationship changes. The main reason for me to do so was to cut down on the mail and clarify things for others. The frequency of visitors to my profile has changed but that was the intended result.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/17/2010 2:14:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would just put a note at the top of my profile mentioning that I'm currently seeing someone.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/17/2010 2:41:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I was long since taken and already had a pet when I first showed up here.  For me, it's more of just a networking site than anything else.  A place to discuss and share ideas, sometimes serious, sometimes just arsing about.  But, should those situations change, I'm pretty sure that I'd update my profile to whatever was then appropriate and applicable. :)


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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/17/2010 8:08:37 AM   
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quote:

Depends on the relationship, I don't proclaim a relationship the moment I am in one any more because of my inability to maintain them, its so obvious when something changes and everyone floods you with messages asking for gossip/giving sympathy etc when you just want to be alone.


i totally agree, when i first joined this site i viewed journals like a blog, and didnt think about every single guy in my area is reading them :). i also changed my profile and then when the glow wears off and you realize you really dont like the guy, you have to go back and take it off or repost. Then comes the flood of emails i told you so, if you had listened to me, if you would try me, if you werent in sub frenzy, if you knew what you wanted, you sure are going through them fast etc etc.

They are probably right, but i decided my business shouldnt be that public lol

If i get to the point i find someone that i want to be collared, he is local and not online and we have a month or two behind us, i might do it again then out of respect for Him,but it would have to be a serious thing for me to do it.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/17/2010 12:17:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm in an LTR. I was in it several years before I started coming to CM. I log in here most every day and check things out in the forums. For the life of me I cannot understand why being in a LTR and participating here at CM have to be mutually exclusive.

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RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? - 1/17/2010 5:53:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm married with a secondary relationship, so I have to watch what I post or else I'd compromise the privacy concerns I have about each of my relationships. Each woman has access to CM and they sometimes read the MB.

The first thing you learn in a polyesque setup is "too much information" makes everyone unhappy.

My main thing, which makes me eminently popular here, is cross examination -- I like to challenge other's positions and impeach them. Not wanting to meet or seriously connect with anyone, I am free to do that.

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