What do most do about CM when in an LTR??

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w0nderasiwander -> What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 4:37:06 PM)
I am curious, what is your viewpoint? If in a committed relationship, have you or would you change the appearance of your profile? Do you think the frequency of your visits would change?

littlewonder -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 4:41:06 PM)
I have changed my profile on CM now that I am taken. I had it filled out complete with a photo of myself for what I was seeking and stating I was available. I am no longer available and feel no need to keep a profile on here so it's bare minimum and I only come here to email with friends and partake in the forums. Unfortunately my time here has not become limited yet but I'm sure this year you'll be finding me here less and less since I simply will not be having much time within the next few months and to be honest...hopefully my time will be limited so that I'll be spending much more time with Him. [:)]

LillyoftheVally -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 4:44:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: w0nderasiwander I am curious, what is your viewpoint? If in a committed relationship, have you or would you change the appearance of your profile? Do you think the frequency of your visits would change? Depends on the relationship, I don't proclaim a relationship the moment I am in one any more because of my inability to maintain them, its so obvious when something changes and everyone floods you with messages asking for gossip/giving sympathy etc when you just want to be alone. I don't think the frequency changes because I am in a relationship, if I am more busy sure, but generally I use sites like these less right after a relationship, when I am feeling overly self deprecating and questioning myself that I can't cope with talking to lots of people. Luckily most of my friends are used to it by now so they don't stress about it my vanishing :)

domiguy -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 4:44:19 PM)
If she was really into country music I would have Conway Twitty as my avatar.

w0nderasiwander -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 5:13:16 PM)
quote: Depends on the relationship, I don't proclaim a relationship the moment I am in one any more because of my inability to maintain them, I can relate! It seems that the Dom I am with may still be searching; hard to say for sure. Perhaps my ability to choose and/or the integrity of a myriad who frequent CM may be in question.

Drifa -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 5:38:58 PM)
I joined the site well into a LTR so I could participate in the forums. My profile has always clearly stated that I'm not looking for anyone. I think a lot of people want to brag or feel... I dunno, "included" somehow so they do go and post "Collared by So-And-So" or "Sir Somebody's Slave" or whatever, just like girls flash their new engagement rings at the office. I always feel that if it makes them feel good to do it, more power to them. I do know that it doesn't matter what you post on your profile, some deficient person is still going to hit on you inappropriately, so posting that you are taken doesn't mean that offers will stop coming in. /shrug

lovingpet -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 5:45:32 PM)
I am currently in what is looking to be a lifelong relationship, but I haven't yet changed my profile except to add that I am involved with a partner. I will change it substantially after I move in the spring and am collared. Until then, it remains as is. I doubt my visit frequency will really change because I have been with him almost as long as I have been a member here. The times of day that I am more likely to post may change somewhat, but that is it. Frequency may drop a little just because I don't have that gap of killing time online until we can chat like I do now. Even now, however, meeting and play requests go through my partner and he also deals with anyone who happens to contact me who is acting like an ass. I don't do the conflict thing and I don't have to. I don't know if I really answered your question, OP, but that is where I sit at this point. lovingpet

w0nderasiwander -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 5:49:14 PM)
You all are certainly answering the question as posed, and I thank you for your assistance. I would certainly also love to hear from some Dominants on this site. So far, things seem rather one-sided.

mc1234 -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 5:52:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: w0nderasiwander I can relate! It seems that the Dom I am with may still be searching; hard to say for sure. Perhaps my ability to choose and/or the integrity of a myriad who frequent CM may be in question. This is your real question. Did you ask him why he comes online? E and I frequent cm although we've been in a committed relationship for some time. Our profiles each reflect that. He comes on to schmooze with his friends and catch up on anything I may write; I sometimes schmooze and participate on and/or read the boards.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:17:12 PM)
When I was with Sir, I made sure my profile said I was owned & collared and looking for Friends Only. Also, all the pictures on it were ones of me wearing His collar, as well as a vanilla one of us together. ~edited to add~ No, the frequency of my visits didn't really change, as I have friends on here and I like to check the message boards and keep up on my journal.

RealSub58 -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:28:43 PM)
I don't know what most do . . . . . but once I was reading a thread and I thought to myself, that is my signature line, how dare she and didn't realize it was an old profile username. I lmao How strange that was. I cannot ever foresee splitting with my Sir ...... I would have the username that I began with, an empty profile and want no email. I'd just read forums. ...........if I even came back.............

peppermint -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:30:45 PM)
Of course the profile has changed. Whereas before I was looking, now I am 24/7 with a wonderful man. My profile says I am a collared submissive. His profile says he has a collared submissive. We both come to Collarme for the same amount of time we came here before we met. I don't feel that being being collared is any reason to stop coming to sites such as Collarme. Even when I was seeking I was here to read the message boards. I am still here reading the message boards. We contact friends through the site. We meet other people through the site.

AquaticSub -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:38:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: w0nderasiwander I am curious, what is your viewpoint? If in a committed relationship, have you or would you change the appearance of your profile? Do you think the frequency of your visits would change? I'm here for the forums. My profile says I'm collared. If people don't bother to read it when they troll me looking for sex, I snark them.

Level -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:39:02 PM)
My time would lessen here if I were in a relationship, a little bit. She wouldn't be allowed to post, except to agree with me, and extoll my virtues.

Prinsexx -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:46:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: w0nderasiwander I am curious, what is your viewpoint? If in a committed relationship, have you or would you change the appearance of your profile? Do you think the frequency of your visits would change? I've changed my profile a number of times to reflect my status.

NuevaVida -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 6:56:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level She wouldn't be allowed to post, except to agree with me, and extoll my virtues. LOL!! Yes, my profile changed to reflect that I'm in a committed relationship. My frequency of visits here has not changed. I imagine if/when we get to the point of living under the same roof, they probably will.

KatyLied -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 7:00:58 PM)
I would not change anything in my profile unless my dominant did likewise. I also would not spend less time on the forums unless I was instructed to.

AquaticSub -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 7:01:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level My time would lessen here if I were in a relationship, a little bit. She wouldn't be allowed to post, except to agree with me, and extoll my virtues. snickers Thanks for the warning. writes down on a piece of paper "Always bring up message board privileges with potential partners... '

NuevaVida -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 7:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I would not change anything in my profile unless my dominant did likewise. Interesting point and, reflecting back, I recall we both changed our profiles around the same time. He doesn't come to the forums, though, in fact he rarely logs in.

Level -> RE: What do most do about CM when in an LTR?? (1/15/2010 7:10:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NuevaVida quote: ORIGINAL: Level She wouldn't be allowed to post, except to agree with me, and extoll my virtues. LOL!! Yes, my profile changed to reflect that I'm in a committed relationship. My frequency of visits here has not changed. I imagine if/when we get to the point of living under the same roof, they probably will. [:-] Hope you're doing well, my friend.

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