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ourmsbetty -> RE: new dom... (1/17/2010 11:44:11 AM)
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Oh for heaven's sake, is no one going to say anything useful?
Forgive me if you have and I missed it, I got too irritated with the first few posts to go much further.
Belladonna, I too recently launched into the professional side of life after several years of just personal play.
I did it because I wanted to live a passion, like actors who make their living on the stage, or painters who make a living from their art.
First of all, research. There are a lot of ways to advertise and a lot of competition in most markets. Try several forms of advertising and publicity until you find what works best for you.
Also research current rates for various activities in your local market. Just because a Domme in Los Angles or New York may get $300 an hour for something doesn't mean that will work where you are now. You are new to the market with no known reputation so when you find what the going rate is undercut it by a bit. Charge roughly 10-25% less than the competition. You can raise rates later but for now you have to build a customer base.
Know your local laws. Stay on the right side of them as best you can.
See to your personal safety. You won't always have the chance to get to know a professional client as well as you do a personal submissive. Take appropriate precautions. You may find it better to work on an incall basis than an outcall. Follow the same common sense advice for meeting anyone new. Have someone to back you up.
Take the time to go over the client's health history. Ask about current or past conditions, medications, old injuries. This takes on average 5 minutes and may save you problems down the line.
Stick to what you know. These are intelligent and educated men. Many of them will make a regular habit of visiting professionals. They'll know when you fake it, so don't. You have to be honest about yourself, what you know and what you can do. If something is beyond you find someone to teach you or that you can practice with.
Lastly be confident about what you do know. Speak in calm, soothing, but firm tones. Practice what you say and how you say it, just like they tell you to do with public speaking. Practice your movements and facial expressions as well.
Claudia Varrin has two wonderful books on this subject, I suggest you find and read them for further guidance.
Good luck.
Ms. Betty
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