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LafayetteLady -> RE: I need Help Please (1/17/2010 8:32:00 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Domtaur
What he said is what he is looking for i am a sub. I have many friends in and outside the lifestyle of many races and many sizes. I am not Domtaur I an taursub
You realize how many people talk about doms being judged by their subs' behavior? Do you understand that the reverse is also true?
The whole "he is harsh and rough" but "will soften up" and "to know him is to love him"....is this what he has spent the last 28 years brainwashing you to believe? Honestly, I am not trying to insult you. Searching for someone else means you are in a sense trying to sell something...in this case, yourself, or more accurately, the two of you as a couple. No one wants to "buy" someone who is "harsh and rough" or whose social skills are so poorly lacking.
Eight pages of people have tried to point this out to the two of you. His attitude didn't improve when he didn't like what was said, it got worse. One can easily surmise that he treats you the same way, so I do feel sorry for you. But the inability to understand that the attitude put forth on this thread and in your joint profile is what is the problem means that you can search until the moon falls out of the sky, but if you aren't offering something worth having, no one is going to want to join you.
The people that you and he have contacted have not responded, they have REJECTED you. Time to put on the grown up pants and deal with that. Instead, you choose to say that the majority of people here don't "measure up" to your standards, and refuse to consider that YOU don't meet THEIR standards. Proclaiming yourself a "dom" doesn't mean that all you need to do is contact someone and then they must respond and prove themselves to you.
You, as a couple, need to prove to the people you are contacting that you are WORTH their time. You, as a couple, need to start to understand that the image you have presented in your profile and in this thread has shown that to most of the people around here, you ARE NOT worthy of the subs you are seeking. You, as a couple, need to figure out what you, as a couple, need to change about yourselves to become people that the few subs that are seeking a poly situation would want to get to know.
If y'all can't wrap your head around those concepts and eight pages of suggestions, then you need to go and complain somewhere else. This isn't about how unattractive the two of you are physically. It IS about how utterly unattractive your "dom" presents himself as a person. If he isn't willing to accept that, then he needs to learn how to accept having you be the only sub in his life because even if someone did give y'all a "trial run" they won't stick around with someone who is that ugly inside.
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