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An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:04:01 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I read something interesting the other night when I couldn't sleep and was perusing the web.  I came across an article talking about protocol and ran across something that was new to me.

The article said that in a situation where a Master and his Alpha are in his home and others are invited over, that the Alpha is dominant over even other Masters when it comes to following house rules.  If her Master is not there she is to be accorded the same respect as if she were that Master since she is basically his stand in at that point.  It stressed that she should be respectful, yet others were to look to her to dictate house rules and permissible behavior if that was necessary.

I know that each relationship is different, but I was curious to hear other's thoughts on this.  Is this the way that it works in your dynamic?  Do you feel that it is appropriate?  (I am neither for or against the idea - just thought that it was interesting since I had never thought about it before.)


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:07:19 AM   
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If you go to someones house, regardless of whether it's BDSM or not, you respect the rules of the people in that home.  It's got nothing to do with Masters and slaves, but the people who live there.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:08:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Being dominant over someone and referring to another for house rules are two different things. I highly doubt that Masters submit to his Alpha in any way, so saying she's dominant over them seems odd. That aside, it's her house, so she runs the place when her Master is not there. Makes sense to me.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:08:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't put it in BDSM terms as a dominant submitting to me but... if a master is in my house, I expect them to respect me. If Valyraen is here or not, if I tell them not to do something I expect them to listen to me cause it's not their house and I'm not their girl.

To be blunt, if they didn't respect me as someone to listen to in regards to the house rules, regardless of if Valyraen is there or not, Valyraen wouldn't want them in his home.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:12:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I read things like this it makes my head hurt.  Not to attack you CQ, but what this has to do with any lifestyle issue is well beyond me.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:14:30 AM   
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Why do people make things so complicated?

If you go to someones house, regardless of whether it's BDSM or not, you respect the rules of the people in that home.  It's got nothing to do with Masters and slaves, but the people who live there.







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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:18:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Are you asking if the next in line of hierarchy in the household (meaning no other Dominant of that house is present) is the party responsible for conveying the protocols of the house?  If so, My answer would be yes.  If you are asking if the alpha submissive now is in the position of hierarchy above her Master's guests, such as in seating for a high protocol dinner, I would say no.

In My household, if there are guests, I expect them to treat My submissive with the respect he deserves, but he is not treated 'in My stead'.  Anyone in service in My household would be expected to act towards My guests in the same manner as he would whether I was there or not.  Anyone who would be a guest in My home would treat My submissive in the same way.


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:18:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like an ego trip gone bad. lol Placing any sort of dominance to the fact that a household has certain rules of conduct within is rather silly. House rules of anyone with a home who invites someone in, should be expected (its called respect), but has nothing to do with dominance and submission and anyone imposing dominance or the thought of dominance because they have house rules are really pushing the limit of self empowerment.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:23:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Poor Jeffff, I'm sorry I made your head hurt.  While in the vanilla world it is only polite for guests to behave themselves it is not always how it truly works out.  In the lifestyle I have seen Dominants who have been rude and/or abusive to the subs/slaves of others, even within that person's own home.  I just thought it would be interesting to get the take of others.  The basic question had nothing to do with my own opinion or wording, but was based on something that I read and had never thought about before.  I was just curious to see what others thought.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:27:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Alphas do as alphas will do until some other alpha puts them in their place.

It works the same with a belligerent 18 year old who feels he doesn't have to listen to his parents, nor follow the rules ... until society finds a way to hammer him into submission ... or ... he becomes a dictator and makes his own rules ... until, of course, the society brings him back down to the ground.



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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:31:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		And I didn't mean to appear rude. I like to think everyone knows when I am..:)

If any "dominant" came into my house and acted that way, he could expect to be told to leave and not return.

I would have the submissive tell him or her.... just to be as insulting as possible.


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:33:54 AM   
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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:36:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		My nic is Jeffff.... because Jeff with 2 f's was taken........ so was Jeff with  3 f's

I have never seen those fuckers post.


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:38:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		ROFLMAO!!! The title just caught my eye on scroll and I had to look!!!!!!!! Sorry for the interruption but I just HAD to share that moment with the rest of ya!


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:39:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well... you are the only jeff that matters to us... no matter how funny it sounds saying your name.

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:42:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL Alpha! You take it where you can get it eh? That could be interesting as a topic though. Things we expect from you!  and ... now my mind is all a whirl!

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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 10:46:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminAlpha

ROFLMAO!!! The title just caught my eye on scroll and I had to look!!!!!!!! Sorry for the interruption but I just HAD to share that moment with the rest of ya!




Alpha.. I would happily enjoy your 'interruptions'  (yanno, except when the husband and I are in the midst of fucking our brains out..LOL)

OP:   OUR house, OUR rules. 


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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 11:03:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wish there were more threads out here like this that shed some light on  an area that I had never really contemplated before.

I was once invited over to a sub's house and her Dom was not around.  She was wearing a halter top and I could tell that she really "wanted it."

So I slammed her against the wall, pushed her head into the fish tank and went about my business.  When her Dom returned I understand that he was furious.  I guess the combination of sweat, blood, cum and piss when coupled with all of that fish jostling had a rather detrimental effect on a Six Line Wrasse, a Blackmouth Bicolor Chromis along with several Orange Spot Prawn Gobies.

I reluctantly paid for the dead fish and now we are back to being friends...If not for the op I would have never realized that some might have considered my behavior to have been rather unsavory.

Thanks op!!!




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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 11:27:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

LOL Alpha! You take it where you can get it eh? That could be interesting as a topic though. Things we expect from you!  and ... now my mind is all a whirl!



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RE: An Alpha's House Responsibilities - 1/19/2010 11:45:30 AM   
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