SolangeRichards
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I've been getting my last few messages read by Dommes whom I wrote to but no response. They don't delete them either so that must mean something like they're busy or too many replies right?
Mind you, I'm not disrespectful in any of my messages so I know that's not the problem. I try to be as polite and sincere as I possibly can be.
I usually wait like a day or so after they read the message and don't do delete or respond to it. Then I write a follow up kindly stating I see u read my message but haven't responded, I trust u may be very busy and I understand, just wanted to remind you I'm still interested. Hope to hear from you soon.... Something along those lines. But even that kind of message also gets read with no response.
Would it be offensive if, when writing to someone here for the 1st time, if I put some kind of polite disclaimer in the beginning that kindly says if for whatever reason you don't want to communicate with me, please block and ignore me so that would save both of us a lot of time and trouble. Would something like this work?
I get a wide variety of mail on this site, which I'm sure is a pretty common situation. Much of the mail comes from men, which is fine, but at the same time, I make it clear in my profile I am not interested in a relationship with a man.
Now, I read their message, and I don't delete it and quite often, don't answer it. Some, like you, take this as a sort of "message". They send follow up messages often, etc, very much along the lines of what you do with the people you have messaged. Now, I'm sure the fellow sending it thought he was being polite and I'm sure he felt he was being sincere. I am aware that often when I don't reply, he is viewing me as ill mannered.
He sent me an email, I read it and then I did not delete it because, I save my mail! It isn't being saved because I'm harboring interest in him, or I am considering him, or because I am just too busy right now. I'm saving it, because I save my emails!
I know you don't understand the lack of response, because that just seems cold and you think you are a good person and you feel that because you write, someone SHOULD respond. If nothing else, good manners should COMPEL them to respond to you, and if they don't, dammit, you are going to follow up!
Not responding is a response. They read your message. They passed. You don't have to make a big thing out of it. You may have contacted them at a hectic time. You may live a bit too far away. Yes, I know that distance might not be an issue for you, but it might be a logistical problem, for them. There may not be any reason in fact beside the fact they just did not want to...
Maybe they just didn't "feel it" when they read your message, and decided that rather than risk a protracted email exchange with you they just decided not to respond, which by the way is more common than you think.
Sender "A" sends message. Receiver "B" answers, responds thanks but no thanks. Sender "A" writes requesting another look. Receiver "B" says thanks but no thanks. Sender "A" would like a more complete clarification. Receiver "B" says thanks but no thanks. Sender "A".....
All of a sudden, poor Receiver "B" is now in a full blown, time consuming conversation with someone they don't want to have in their life!
Look, they read your note. You got an answer, not the sort you want, but an answer.
Let them go...
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