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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:19:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I heard a study that said that the people who are aware of their kink tend to be more intelligent and aware than vanillas.





I heard that study was really about the women interested in dating you DS!

(I think the doctor's name doing the research was Dr Dark Steven.)

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:19:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Q. Are kinky people different in other ways?

A. I sure hope so.... lol

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:32:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't own a television. can you really own a television or does the television own you?  I am soooo fucking deep!!!


Many Asians can't drink beer without turning red, it's been labeled the "Asian Flush".  Do kinky Asians turn red faster than their vanilla counterparts? 

I am soooo fucking deep!  Who else could make these types of querries?

Monkey bars.  Actually the first "monkey bars" called the "jungle gym" was invented in 1920 and patented by Sebastion Hinton a fellow Chicagoan.

I once knew a girl that had an odd use for squash....

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I also have a large from collection.  But being the economy is where it is and when coupled with the ever increasing costs of froms I have recently had to curtail  my from collecting obsession.

Good luck to you.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:35:41 PM   
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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:49:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Only the ones that proclaim they've had sex with Elves, Dwarfs and Orcs in the Middle Earth or have Got it on with ET's cousin while taking a spin around the Galaxy. Oh yeah, the ones who have added Dr. Who as a bed post notch... Ummmm.. the ones who insist upon wearing tin foil over their head so the Government does not find out about it. Yeah, there are some extremely different people. Not to mention those that have Banged or been Banged by a Sasquatch because they were hiding from the Mafia deep in Canadian Forests. lol

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:50:45 PM   
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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 5:58:20 PM   
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I don't own a television.

For real?  If so, my "why not visit Chicago" index just went up a few points.

(See?  Kinky people are weird.)


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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 6:06:43 PM   
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Hey whip, how things a shakin'?


Like a Greazy Chilli Dog piled high with extra Onions..... A Tasty Mess... that's a bitch to hold together at times.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 7:18:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a pretty typical normal woman. Not a whole lot different from other women around the world.

I don't really see kinky people as being different from anyone else. Then again I believe everyone has their kink for something. They just don't have a need to flaunt it.

Just rememeber....you're special, just like everyone else.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/20/2010 7:22:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe "we" are normal and vanillas are Kinky ??? and if so then Im different <wink>

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/21/2010 5:01:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		well Im not eccentric. For a start Im not rich enough! possibly slightly mad though!
We don't own a tv either but then we spend so long on the internet, why the hell would we need one?
we hang out with musicians, artists and generally people that are what many would call drop outs but as far as I know, not one of them are into this and so to your question I would have to say no.

But there is something and it was pointed out to me at a munch recently by a relatively new submissive male.
He said that this was his first munch and first opportunity of meeting up with other like minded folk but this was also the first group that he had ever walked into a room with without knowing anyone and feel automatically comfortable. He said it felt liberating.
I thought about that and I have to say that coming out about what was locked deep inside has been very liberating and in turn freedom has allowed me to grow more confident, have more belief in what I can achieve and take down the hurdles that once blocked me from moving forward. I also confess to being an exhibitionist and yet before coming out I was a fairly introverted. Is that me turning a bit odd? or is it just myself allowing me to be me!



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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/21/2010 6:06:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think  it is in the norm to be kinky, it is just that many people lack the courage to express it. Or perhaps in every home across the nation people are tying each other up and beating each other up... dunno.


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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/22/2010 10:40:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
I heard a study that said that the people who are aware of their kink tend to be more intelligent and aware than vanillas.


In real life, I value the rare intelligentsia  (probably 1 out of a hundred) who "understand" who they are and whom they are dealing with, from a personality standpoint - and who make use of the various personalities in order to lead a diverse and exciting life.

Those who go out of their way, for example, to "train" other drivers to "act the way they want them to act", are clearly high on the scale of "J" (Judging), like most perverts on Collarme, .. and that's OK ... as long as they realize there are strong "P"s (Perception) out there (like I am) who strongly prefer others to do as they please, in as haphazard a manner as they feel fit to do.

It's the difference between being the director of the movie (a "J" job by nature" which expects people to act a certain way) and being the talent scout (where everyone is expected to act as they wish so that their very nature can be of use to them).

What's I'm trying to say (in way too many words) is that, it seems to me, "J"s are dangerous (to people like me) when they aren't aware of their strong tendencies to order the world the way they see fit, to feel people must act the way the J feels they should. If the J realizes they are a J, then they leave room for the Ps like I am (who expect others to act any way they like).

On the other hand, a "P" who isn't aware he is a P isn't nearly as dangerous as the average ignorant J because the very nature of a P allows for others to act as they please around him.

My point? Responding to yours is that indeed, the unaware J is the most dangerous creature of all.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/22/2010 10:51:45 PM   
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My point? ... the unaware J is the most dangerous creature of all.


BTW, couple the ignorant J with a strong N and you have double trouble ... because they will intuitively gather data without actually gathering quantifiable details about you. What that means is a strong x-N-x-J will be wrong a huge percentage of the time about others (especially the x-N-F-Js who make decisions based not on facts but on feelings and who gathered data for those decisions not on facts but on intuition).

Bearing in mind that many on CM are INTJs, my relevant point is that the ignorant INTJ is a most dangerous beast when it comes to passing judgment on others solely because, unless they are Saddam Hussein (who said he was always right when he felt someone was going to betray him), they can't possibly always be right on their intuition. They are probably wrong half the time (I'm not sure the actual percentage but since they don't gather a whole lott'a data, they're gonna be wrong a lot) ... and worse yet, they still (even though they're wrong a lot of the time on their facts unless they're Saddam), they still expect the world to behave the way they want it to.

I hope this is making sense ... because it is reasoned out and not at all intuitive.

The point is, the ignorant strong INTJ is a dangerous person because they expect others to act they way they want them to (J) but they don't gather a whole lot of facts about that other person. And, unless they're really really good at their intuition, they're gonna be wrong about people a large percentage of the time (I do not know the size of that error though). As long as they know that, they're less dangerous.

Luckily, the collarme INTJs aren't ignorant! Whew!

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/23/2010 4:54:00 AM   
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Some might say the oddest thing about me is I don't have a TV in my home


I would say the oddest people are those who believe in total one way traffic, you know, the ones that hide their profile. Curiously, most of those have no TV in their home, and write weird sentences.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/23/2010 6:16:02 AM   
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I do not know if kinky people are in the minority or if it is just something that a lot of people do not discuss, making it difficult to know the numbers.  I view kink along a spectrum, going from not at all kinky to no holds barred kinky.  I don't think being kinky makes you "different", at least not in the things that I value.


Dead on.   There is an inherent flaw with the word "kinky", in that it can mean anything to anyone.   One person's "kinkiest" thought they will ever have their entire life, may be another person's vanilla.   It's definatly a very long spectrum and it's also dynamic.   It's not like where someone is on that spectrum is where they ALWAYS are.  They can at times be more kinky and sometimes less.   It's really where is there point of equilibrium on that spectrum, and how far can someone move up that spectrum?   

I believe most people are on the lower portion of that spectrum.   Some like to come up and play at the higher end, but then go back to there equilibrium, lower down the scale.    

Then there are those of us who are at the higher end, and it's where we belong.. that's our home.

Problem is.. it's kind of lonly up there.  :)

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/23/2010 3:38:04 PM   
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Quality post!

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/23/2010 5:05:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I think  it is in the norm to be kinky, it is just that many people lack the courage to express it.



Agreed.

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RE: Are kinky people different in other ways? - 1/23/2010 5:41:05 PM   
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