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New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 2:55:17 PM

Tamoko

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I've been tooling around with my profile and I would love to get some feedback on it.

Thanks in advance. Much love to all of you.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 3:01:38 PM

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Your profile is good. You give details of what you seek and how that person will be involved in your life. The mention of outside activities you enjoy is a good way to let applicants know that you have a well rounded life. I don't see any flaws in it.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 3:57:37 PM

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Looks fine to me. You are up front about your polyamorous interests, your g/f, your kinks and present a nice overall picture of what you want and offer.
Good luck in your search.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 4:37:27 PM

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same opinion here ,
you give a lot of information about yourself , what you want , and what you would bring into a relation
well done
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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 6:03:47 PM

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It tells who you are and what you want. That's a good thing.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 10:18:45 PM

Focus50

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After reading the replies, I was licking my lips in anticipation of being the "wet blanket" here. Bummer...!

What you seek might be a tad intimidating to a newbie and I'm always sceptical (and much worse) of how much love and devotion any one person can commit to two different individuals as opposed to what you doubtless expect in return from them - but you are putting it all up front.

Still, the math don't lie (to my logic).

Focus.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/20/2010 10:49:18 PM

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quote:

After reading the replies, I was licking my lips in anticipation of being the "wet blanket" here.

You? A wet blanket? Say it isn't so, Focus!

Good to see you posting again, BTW.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 7:20:17 AM

Tamoko

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Thanks everyone for the feedback, both encouraging and constructive.

Focus, was there something specific that came off as intimidating? I can completely appreciate where you're coming from, but I feel that its more an issue with the idea of poly in general than my profile specifically. I respect it, and agree that balancing attentions between multiple partners is a challenge. Just one I'm okay with accepting.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 10:23:16 AM

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Not one nakie pic.

Fake.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 11:23:33 AM

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quote:

would love to get some feedback on it.

Think about it this way: You write a resume. You want it reviewed. Would you have it reviewed by other job applicants, or by recruiters/hiring managers? We aren't your best reference for what is an effective profile.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 7:14:11 PM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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After reading the replies, I was licking my lips in anticipation of being the "wet blanket" here.

You? A wet blanket? Say it isn't so, Focus!
Good to see you posting again, BTW.

Alas, not all appreciate my saying something just because I think it to be true; not in the nilla world and not here. And still I sleep very well at nights - except when I keep my mouth shut when someone needed to speak up...! Lessons are for learning, ay? The "lesser of two evils" works, too! lol

Thanks for missing me, too. :-)

Focus.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 7:28:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tamoko

Thanks everyone for the feedback, both encouraging and constructive.

Focus, was there something specific that came off as intimidating? I can completely appreciate where you're coming from, but I feel that its more an issue with the idea of poly in general than my profile specifically. I respect it, and agree that balancing attentions between multiple partners is a challenge. Just one I'm okay with accepting.

Just saying that the average newbie isn't likely to be too enthusiastic over poly anyway - but with a vanilla g/f?.

And speaking of "vanilla g/f", I'm sure you're all "jim dandy" about accepting poly but I'd really love to see your g/f's face once the notion of you having a slave becomes flesh and blood, "in your face" competition.

Yeah, I know, she's absolutely supportive about your needs blah blah.... (wet blanket mode is kicking in)

Focus.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 7:35:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

Not one nakie pic.

Fake.

I trust you've noted I'm not wearing a shirt in my latest mugshot? <hint/hint/nudge> (sorry - hadta trim the pic to keep the fan-mail manageable...)

Focus.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 7:46:19 PM

Focus50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode

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would love to get some feedback on it.

Think about it this way: You write a resume. You want it reviewed. Would you have it reviewed by other job applicants, or by recruiters/hiring managers? We aren't your best reference for what is an effective profile.

If you're the cynically suspicious type (like moi), you might consider that he's also asking how to get girls.... IE, "Am I using the right bait?"

Now who's the "best reference" - the fisherman or the feedstock?

Focus.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/22/2010 8:48:32 PM

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You're profile sounds great...for you,What i would like to know is how your vanilla girlfriend is going to deal with you being in love with another woman, especially if she is better looking or more skilled. She may say she is fine in theory, and she may be fine for just the sexual part, but i don't know one vanilla woman who would stand quietly by while you fell in love with another woman. If i an mistaken and she is not vanilla and the two of you have done this before, then i apologize.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/23/2010 7:01:47 AM

Tamoko

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quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode
Think about it this way: You write a resume. You want it reviewed. Would you have it reviewed by other job applicants, or by recruiters/hiring managers? We aren't your best reference for what is an effective profile.

Excellent point Antipode. I hadn't thought of it that way. I could certainly ask for the same feedback in the Ask a sub/slave forum.

ForeverOwned and Focus, I see where you're coming from, and I agree, but allow me to clarify. I refer to my current primary partner as "Vanilla" in a BDSM context. Not a Poly context. She and I always have maintained that a person need to be able to pursue personal fulfillment, and if a single partner cannot provide all that one requires without making significant personal sacrifices, then they have every right to seek that fulfillment wherever they need to. She cannot fulfill my BDSM needs, and I don't expect her to. If she did, she would no longer fulfill my need to have someone I can relate to as an equal.

When theory and conversation become a flesh and blood 24/7 slave living in our house will be a moment that will not be forgotten. Its the point of no return, so to speak. Scary; yes to a degree, but a necessary step. She has made it clear that she's looking forward to it. She enjoys challenging herself and her preconceived assumptions about the world and relationships.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/23/2010 2:55:07 PM

submissiveboy76

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seems great to me, lots of full face pics, you're up front and honest about your situation and what you're looking for, it's clear. I wish you the best of luck.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/23/2010 3:59:58 PM

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I think it's a rockin profile. I think you're clear about what you're after and you put it well.

Yes, some newbies might find it a bit full-on, but that's ok - they're not what you seem to be looking for.

I really liked your choice of profile pics - they paint a picture of you as someone interesting, adventuous.

Only one teensy nit pick - When you say -

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She fulfills my need for an egalitarian partner

Do you mean you have a need for a partner who is an egalitarian (someone who believes in the principles of equality) or that you have a need for an equal partner?

If it's the latter, I'd suggest "She fulfills my need for an equal partner".

But that's me being super critical.

[edited to remove extraneous final sentence]

< Message edited by crazyml -- 1/23/2010 4:02:01 PM >

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/24/2010 12:52:21 PM

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Be careful, what you wish for. my owner was friends with a married couple with two beautiful little girls. Their entire married life she wanted BDSM and he wanted to be part of another couple. They loved the idea of the other couple in theroy and got along very well with the first couple they met. So, well that she and the other woman's husband fell in love, both couples divorced and now she lives with the man from the couple along with her two kids. The ex husband and the ex wife of the man sit home alone in disbelief.

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RE: New Master profile review - 1/25/2010 3:28:31 AM

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A fine profile. i liked the choice of pictures, showing you being you. It gets a little muddled when referring to the girlfriend, she's not involved except maybe she will be--i suppose that can be explained to those who write and ask directly though. Kind of wonder how a 24/7 slave has zero contact with a 24/7 girlfriend . . .or is the GF part-time, not live-in?Or did you mean 24/7 slave but not live-in?

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