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fyreredsub -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 12:19:05 PM)
most of the men i know and interact with prefer Master

windchymes -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 12:21:49 PM)
Maybe they could wear nametags at the gatherings. Instead of "Hello, my name is:...............", the Masters' tags could read "I Am To Be Called...................". The subs' could say "Master Says I Am To Be Called......................". The slaves' tags could just be left blank.

Submotive -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 12:54:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Maybe they could wear nametags at the gatherings. Instead of "Hello, my name is:...............", the Masters' tags could read "I Am To Be Called...................". The subs' could say "Master Says I Am To Be Called......................". The slaves' tags could just be left blank. LMAO - love it.

cloudboy -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 1:14:27 PM)
I thought you'd be the "YOUR HIGHNESS" type.

SimplyV -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 1:32:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveHIS slaveHIS is throwing this subject out for any Master to comment on. In a BDSM setting such as a munch or play party, et cetera, do you wish to be referred to sas Sir or your given name? Master received an email from the moderator of our local area group. She called Master by his given name, and Master and slaveHIS think this is wrong. In her reply email, she said it is easier for her to do this in meetings and in social gatherings, and also she indicates her Master is linient in this manner. Perhaps, she does not know it is proper etiquette. So, would you prefer to be called Sir or your given name if attending meetings or social gatherings that include munches and play parties? I'm of the camp that Master is a term based upon a certain relationship. You can't actually call yourself "Master" unless you are mastering someone. Much like you can't call yourself a husband unless you are married. In a group of people, it is impossible for everyone to call everyone else their "preferred" title from the get-go. How stressing would it be go to meet up with people and carry a list of "ok.. Bob needs to be called Sir Boborama, Jeff = Master Jeffrey, Dawn = Maam, Heather = cumslut.. etc" Every time someone says something to you you have to get out your list and check.. Oh yes.. "Hi Sir Boborama" It is much easier to just go with first names or in some peoples cases fake names. Personally, I think you should both call the Moderator "Her Highness, Queen of all, -her name-" as she is the one doing all the work of getting people together. And it would get confusing to call everyone Master or Sir or Maam or Mistress.. if you don't say their name enough, how you going to remember it? Or maybe you're not really there to get to know people as much as to parade your relationship in public? Mine are not allowed to call anyone Master, Mr, Mrs, Sir, Mistress. (well cept in a vanilla setting where it is polite and not a Dom-status thing). They are to call people by their names. They are only to be submissive to me. To everyone else, they are power-equal and I expect that to be honored by anyone with which they would come in contact. If a Dominant insists on being called an honorary title, then to me they're an idiot. It'd be like walking around and calling people you don't know.. Husband or Wife. It denotes a certain relationship status, which you don't have a right to, unless you're in that relationship. But thats just my opinion of course..

Lordandmaster -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 1:36:36 PM)
Exactly right, and even the Goreans quarrel over proper etiquette. Anyone organizing a gathering can determine how these things will be handled at their gathering; if someone doesn't like it, they can stay home. quote: ORIGINAL: ChangingWolf Unless you are Gorean, there is no "blanket" ettiquitte that covers interactions.

IronBear -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 2:10:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BrianSenior The name I use is My given name, Brian. The only one to address Me as Master is the ones in My family, under Me. Living in the South being called Sir is the norm (I was born and raised on Long Island N.Y.) If the subissive is of Gor, the protocol is to be called Master (From what I know) even if they are not Mine.~BK~ Actually BS, that is not quite true. All the Gorean Frees I know do not expect their slaves to refer to any non Goreans in anyway other than politely. However all Gorean slaves will address Gorean Frees as Master or Mistress. Just as we don't expect non Goreanslaves or submissives to follow our protocol. There are some non Goreans who I would insist my slaves to treat as Gorean Frees and address them as such and kneel when in their presence.

maybemaybenot -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 2:47:46 PM)
I am called Mia < my name> in social settings. I call anyone I know or meet at social functions by their first name. I do have a couple of Dominant male friends who call me by a pet name < little nana>, but that is more a term of endearment and reflection of our long standing friendship. While it is not a conventional submissive pet name, it has significance to myself and my friends who tagged me with that name. While I am called " little nana" by my two friends publically and privately, I don't care for any one else calling me that and politely ask that they use my name. When I did have a Master, I called him by his first name in public and others did as well. On the occasion that some one would refer to him as Sir, he nicely asked that they call him by his given name. Sir and Master was reserved for me and me alone. mbmbn

Evanesce -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 4:36:02 PM)
quote: Master received an email from the moderator of our local area group. She called Master by his given name, and Master and slaveHIS think this is wrong. In her reply email, she said it is easier for her to do this in meetings and in social gatherings, and also she indicates her Master is linient in this manner. Perhaps, she does not know it is proper etiquette. Proper etiquette in what locale? Where I come from, what is proper is to be polite, and calling someone by their given name is certainly not rude, nor is it inappropriate. Given that, while I am His slave, I am also a dominant in my own right, I don't call any dominant "Sir" or "Ma'am" unless I, personally, have some sort of relationship with that individual and it feels natural for me to speak to them in that manner. The only exception to this is if we are in a high protocol setting and Master has decreed that I address all dominants as Sir and Ma'am. quote: So, would you prefer to be called Sir or your given name if attending meetings or social gatherings that include munches and play parties? When in Top mode, how I wish to be addressed depends on the setting. If it's someone I've just beaten the living daylights out of, he needs to be calling me Ma'am. If it's someone who is under consideration by me, who wishes to belong to me but is not mine at the moment, I rather like "Miss Ev." However, in 95% of all situations, with 99% of all the people I encounter, I'd much rather be called by the name I use to sign every one of my posts - the name I was given by my parents - Denise.

Rayne58 -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 4:55:51 PM)
When it is just us, at home, we call each other by our names or more often pet names. "Master" is reserved for when we are in scene[:)] We have not mixed very much in play parties and such, but the one time we did I called Master by "Master first name, and He called me Rayne which is a shortened form of my real name and the name His grandchildren gave me. The only time I called another Dom "Sir" there was during a scene with him and when it was over he was quite happy for me to call him by his first name. No one insisted I call them "Sir" or "Ma'am" and in fact the party was a very friendly and welcoming one without too much in the way of protocol. We have also visited my friend and her Dom and I called him by his first name and he was ok with that. Master has told me anyway that if anyone tells me to call them Master/Mistress So-and so or Sir/Ma'am that I'm to tell them politely that I'm collared and to refer them to Him if necessary.

quinnny -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 4:58:14 PM)
"So, would you prefer to be called Sir or your given name if attending meetings or social gatherings that include munches and play parties?" This is an easy one. There is only three possibilities. 1) If we know each other and are friendly, use whatever you feel or need. It can range from my name all the way to some god-like reference. 2) If we don't know each other and you are a good person, use my name 3) Whether we know each other or not and you are an ass, jerk, head case, piece of crap or all around worthless shit; DON'T TALK TO ME! Have a nice day.

WikedUncle -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 5:06:57 PM)
quote: By and large, it's new dominants who have little understanding who feel they should be called sir by everyone. Although I have had to have words with a 'grand master', who thought his self given title gave him rights over my property! His apology to her was as weak and pathetic as he was, despite his claim to many years experience. Best smackdown I ever heard was at a munch being presided over by a friend of mine (orientation not released to enhance the mystery). A newbie of the weak and pathetic would-be "master" type arrived. My friend, ever polite, greeted him and asked his name. "I'm Dom," he replied, "...Dominic." My friend gave him a very long, cool glance and said, "Welcome...Dominic." Please call me by my scene name, if you don't know me well enough to use my own name. If your "master" or whatever expects a title out of my partner, he should keep in mind that I have some really nifty anal toys saved for just such an occasion, and friends only too happy to help me try them out on a fool like that. You should always behave at a munch as you would at any vanilla social occasion (or better). If any other standards apply, walk out: it's not a munch.

CERCKL -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 5:40:23 PM)
I don't care...I expect a degree of respect, just as I try to show all respect unless they demonstrate that they do not deserve it...actually at this point I am trying to get Mine to figure out what to call Me in 'vanilla' situations...since she is uncomfortable calling Me by My first name and refuses to...actually, introducing Me to her family was an entertaining situation as she had a difficult time telling them My first name yet obviously couldn't introduce Me as 'Sir'... Laughing... C

preciousgem -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 5:54:45 PM)
i am just a slave but i can tell all what my Master would care for me to do. i am to try and call Dom/Domme's by Sir or Ma'am if i can rember, or unless they tell me to use Their names. The only one i am EVER to call Master is the one that has placed the collar around my neck and my heart. i see nothing wrong with using Thier Frist names unless they have asked you not to or if your Master/Owner has told you never to adress any one as Sir or Ma'am, then you have to follow what They say.

amayos -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 9:35:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy I thought you'd be the "YOUR HIGHNESS" type. Ok, I'll come out with it; usually I have them refer to me as Satan, my Father.

MrThorns -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 9:54:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveHIS slaveHIS is throwing this subject out for any Master to comment on. In a BDSM setting such as a munch or play party, et cetera, do you wish to be referred to sas Sir or your given name? So, would you prefer to be called Sir or your given name if attending meetings or social gatherings that include munches and play parties? I would prefer that someone ask me how I would like to be addressed. A good example of this is, "Good evening. My name is_____________. We have never met before so how would you like to be addressed"? Works for me... ~Thorns

truesub4u -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 10:05:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amayos quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy I thought you'd be the "YOUR HIGHNESS" type. Ok, I'll come out with it; usually I have them refer to me as Satan, my Father. I KNEW IT... you was one of satan's spawns.. we're related!!!... my daughter I know is one of his kids too!... lmao

ownedgirlie -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 10:10:04 PM)
Okay you two, if this spewed iced tea doesn't clean off my laptop, you owe me a new one!! [sm=biggrin.gif]

Vendaval -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 10:45:02 PM)
I have friends that are trained in Old Guard ways and others in Gorean. When in doubt I err on the side of higher protocol rather than lower. During introductions it is useful to simply ask how the person wishes to be addressed. Be well, -Vendaval-

CERCKL -> RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed (3/24/2006 11:11:42 PM)
quote: quote: ORIGINAL: amayos quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy I thought you'd be the "YOUR HIGHNESS" type. Ok, I'll come out with it; usually I have them refer to me as Satan, my Father. I KNEW IT... you was one of satan's spawns.. we're related!!!... my daughter I know is one of his kids too!... lmao Hey. my daughter too...she's the bi-polar one to the right... Ave Satanas Regae Satanas Hail Satan LOL C

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