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Missokyst -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 10:33:26 AM)
That works for my brother, who is now nearly 60, and still finding 22-25 yr olds to date. quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well. What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive? Find a 20 year old who fancies them, seems logical really

jujubeeMB -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 10:35:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Look at pictures of young, beautiful women and give yourself an electric shock every time. [:D] You ALWAYS crack me up [:D] Thanks.

a49015Dom4subF -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 10:46:06 AM)
You're attracted to what you're attracted to. As long as it's all good with all parties involved, who cares what the rest of the world thinks?

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 10:55:36 AM)
FR I was thinking about this issue the other day and come to the conclusion it was ideal to find someone close to your own age so that you can synchronise your deaths. Also the fact that women tend to live longer means you should also aim for the older women. There is nothing much worse than your partner dying and leaving you alone for the last 15-20 years of your life, damn depressing that would be. I guess I'm just an old romantic at heart; thinking people get old together and die around the same time rather than have multiple matches throughout their life.[:D] Apart from those calculations I see no governing reason as to why someone should stick to a certain age group.

CalifChick -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 11:27:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir Awww, lushie, come on now... You can't deny that you wouldn't like some cute 18 year old cabana boy at the end of a leash as your own personal playtoy... I sure can't. [:D] I think I just threw up in my mouth a little. Cali

Scotty306134 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 11:41:57 AM)
I'm attracted to the older Ladies. All the others I cant run fast enough to catch!

leadership527 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 11:50:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well. What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive? I guess I'm confused as to what problem is being stated that requires a solution. You are attracted to a certain age bracket. That bracket, comes with it a typical set of pro's and con's. If that's what floats your boat, then what's the issue?

InvisibleBlack -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 11:50:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3 I was thinking about this issue the other day and come to the conclusion it was ideal to find someone close to your own age so that you can synchronise your deaths. Is that an Olympic sport now? Synchronized dying? Seriously - the goal is to find someone you are physically attracted to and mentally and emotionally compatible with - if you're looking for a relationship. The danger with dating someone substantially younger than yourself is that they may have some growing or maturing left to do and so may change over time. If not, or if that change is in directions you're still comptible with - then all is well.

pyroaquatic -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 11:51:55 AM)
Well Ialdabaoth, I find myself attracted to mature, experienced, and secure/stable women. Age has nothing to do with this if they meet those three criteria. Sadly, my peers (and myself) consistently fail and irratate the hell out of me.

DesFIP -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 12:12:53 PM)
In a situation as the op describes, you accept that you will not ever have a long term relationship because every time your partner gets a few years older, you will no longer be attracted to them. You also accept the fact that it will be harder to find short term partners as they won't want a relationship with you. Or of course, you could work on your issues and get help progressing so that the primary interest a person holds for you isn't based solely on physical attractiveness.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 12:19:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well. What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive? Grow up... or accept the fact that the pool of those folks who find older people attractive is going to narrow considerably the older one gets...unless you're rich or only home once in awhile. Cynical? Maybe... Realistic? I think so.

myotherself -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 12:21:08 PM)
I've always been attracted to guys a few years older than myself. I have dated (briefly) guys in their 20s and 30s, but there's nothing more depressing than hearing "I just LOVE older women!"...lol I prefer to date guys who can appreciate the joys and horrors of 80s fashion and music first-hand, who remember Kylie BEFORE she became a pop princess, and who know that Doctor Who wasn't always shot in colour with whizzy special effects. Now, where did I leave my slippers and cocoa....shuffles off

NihilusZero -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:11:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive? What you'd normally do: try to develop a relationship based on compatibilities with one of them.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:15:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well. What's a good solution for when they don't? What is one supposed to do when one discovers, 15 years on down, that one still only tends to find 18-24 year olds attractive? I just always figured that people were attracted to people with a similar Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EI or EQ). Perhaps why I dated men in their 40s and 50s since my late 20s... Then again, I've had many a trist with a younger partner. - LA

NihilusZero -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:16:27 PM)
Just to add: I'm in your age bracket and since I've been in it every partner I've had has been precisely in the 18-24 range you mentioned.

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:18:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InvisibleBlack Is that an Olympic sport now? Synchronized dying? Humm now there's an idea. quote: Seriously - the goal is to find someone you are physically attracted to and mentally and emotionally compatible with - if you're looking for a relationship. The danger with dating someone substantially younger than yourself is that they may have some growing or maturing left to do and so may change over time. If not, or if that change is in directions you're still comptible with - then all is well. Yes but there is this problem in that as we get older we are expected to change what we find to be the peak of physical attractiveness. An 80 year old (nine times out of ten) will still think someone in their mid twenties more physically attractive than someone of their own age. That is what is hard to deal with as you get older, you have to be content with being attracted to other aspects of the person more. Lust is just the mechanism designed to bring people together in the first place, then you have to find common ground with the person. I agree dating younger people can be treacherous in terms of they may not know, to the same extent as you do, what they want from the relationship. I think if dating younger people is what the individual is into then that can often result in a string of short term relationships. Depends how you want to go through life and if you want one relationship or be like Dr Who with his various short term relationships, it is a preference.

Rhodes85 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:18:45 PM)
quote: Confidence and a bit of swagger will get you far. Very very far indeed. Age means little anymore (as long as they're legal). So what if you're 70 and he/she is 18? You'll get people saying things like "Cradle robber!", "Old pervert!", etc... They're just jealous, trust me on this one. [:D] If I saw that, I'd probably say "DAMN MAN! Good on you! Go get em, tiger!" Ugh...cradle robber...I remember that one. You should have heard some of the things my 35 year old ex was called when people found out how much younger I was. She slapped a guy for calling her a cougar once [:D] Though that aside the point is it doesn't really matter how much older/younger your partner is (legal age of course) its got everything to do with compatability and how well you connect. Though being 70 and having an 18 year old...I think thats a heart attack waiting to happen [:D]

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:21:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir Awww, lushie, come on now... You can't deny that you wouldn't like some cute 18 year old cabana boy at the end of a leash as your own personal playtoy... I sure can't. [:D] I think I just threw up in my mouth a little. Cali Yea, I know[:-] Some skrawny young thing? Not!

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:26:43 PM)
quote: Though being 70 and having an 18 year old...I think thats a heart attack waiting to happen A 70 year old with a woman in her 40's is WAY more dangerous than an 18 year old.

OCDsCPL -> RE: Age-appropriate attractiveness (1/23/2010 1:30:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth So, as one gets older, the sorts of people that one is attracted to is supposed to get older, as well. Nonsense. We are "built" to be attracted to those who are most likely to produce healthy offspring, and that is clearly partially related to youth.

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