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what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 2:13:29 AM

boundinside

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So, i have been reviewing other submissives/slaves profiles (males and females) and have noticed a common occurrence among female submissives/slave as opposed to males in the same role. Females (mind You, i use the upper case at the beginning of "Females" because i believe in Female supremacy) , often bluntly state that they are "animals" or "dog" and such. However, males on the other hand, tend to beat around the bush. No male wants to say flat out, "i want to be owed, used as a dog, or used as whatever you want." But Females do! Why is this? is it simply the sexual nature? Or is it more?

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 2:31:16 AM

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Maybe it's partly to do with trying to fit in, esp the inexperienced. You know, a notion where they believe this is how people talk/behave in the lifestyle.

Though I don't actually state it in my profile, I much prefer a sub (or women in general, actually) who are all soft and girly in nature. So when I read a profile about some fem/sub who wants to be treated like a dog/whore/slut etc, that's where I find myself 'X'ing outa there....

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 2:51:21 AM

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Females (mind You, i use the upper case at the beginning of "Females" because i believe in Female supremacy) , often bluntly state that they are "animals" or "dog" and such.

Not nearly all of us feel or express ourselves that way, jus sayin. And there are plenty of sub males whose profiles go the "lowly worm" route. If that's what folks are into, awesome. Hopefully they will find a Dom(me) that is into that as well.

That said, it seems a bit incomplete to me, unless someone is looking for a kink only deal. If that is the goal, rock on! If the goal is a deeper relationship, I think a more well rounded profile is a better idea.
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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 2:52:22 AM

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Maybe it's partly to do with trying to fit in, esp the inexperienced. You know, a notion where they believe this is how people talk/behave in the lifestyle.

Or, I could read Focus' posts before I open my yap, LOL!

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 2:52:56 AM

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That's interesting as I feel as if more male submissives say they want to be treated as nothing and are worthless etc but I don't spend a whole lot of time looking at profiles, only the ones of people who post in the forums so maybe that skews my results somehow

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 3:13:39 AM

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I haven't read a lot of profiles yet so I don't know, I just know I would never say that in mine.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 4:04:46 AM

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quote:

often bluntly state that they are "animals" or "dog" and such

Dream on..

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 4:39:23 AM

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I couldn't tell you.

I am a person and want to be treated as such. To each their own, I guess.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 4:45:19 AM

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I see a lot of male screen names that include "worthless," "worm," "pig," "dog," ect. I don't know how this compares to female screen names, since I don't look at female profiles, but there are way too many of them like that, in my opinion. And beyond the screen names, I see a lot of profiles where the males claim to be worthless, lower than dirt, stuff like that.

I don't know why it is, but ... it is.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 5:08:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

That's interesting as I feel as if more male submissives say they want to be treated as nothing and are worthless etc

That's my impression as well.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 6:08:28 AM

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Perhaps women and men are different in how they think and act ...

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 6:37:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

Maybe it's partly to do with trying to fit in, esp the inexperienced. You know, a notion where they believe this is how people talk/behave in the lifestyle.

Though I don't actually state it in my profile, I much prefer a sub (or women in general, actually) who are all soft and girly in nature. So when I read a profile about some fem/sub who wants to be treated like a dog/whore/slut etc, that's where I find myself 'X'ing outa there....

Focus.

I always thought men considered the perfect women, sub or not, to be one who was a lady by day and a whore by night
*giggles*

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 7:38:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

That's interesting as I feel as if more male submissives say they want to be treated as nothing and are worthless etc

That's my impression as well.

Ditto. I see way more of the "treat me like a worthless pig" from males. Yes I spend too much time profile perving.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 7:57:02 AM

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There's also the possiblilty that a lot of those "female" sub profiles calling themselves dogs & pigs are really written by males.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 8:10:24 AM

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quote:

No male wants to say flat out, "i want to be owed, used as a dog, or used as whatever you want."

You obviously haven't seen the mail in my Collarme inbox!

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 8:11:48 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

That's interesting as I feel as if more male submissives say they want to be treated as nothing and are worthless etc

That's my impression as well.

Usually, they are not the ones looking for committed female-led relationships. THey are the ones looking for "sessions".

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 8:17:37 AM

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From My observations, I don't draw the same conclusion as the OP. I think many of the female Dominants on the site would tell you that they don't have the same impression. While I tend to believe that it shows up more often in comments made by those who have little real life experience and are basing their assumptions on what male submission *should* be from stereotypes conveyed in porn and erotica, I can promise you it is very prevalent in many profiles of submissive males.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 8:41:33 AM

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Its pretty simple. Some like the humilation of being called names and/or being mis-treated. While others just want to turn control of their life over to another for some kinky fun that they enjoy and hope that the Dom/Domme will see it and bring it out if they are to shy to ask for it!

As for the difference between men and women....Men are from "Venus" and women are from "Mars" or the other way around!? lol
Think about it all........HOW sad and intensly boring would it be if we ALL were the same sex!?

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 9:25:40 AM

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Most of the males who write to our couple's profile all seem to want to be kept naked and caged all the time. As I've written back to them, that is just too much work for us.

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RE: what's the difference between me and you? - 1/23/2010 9:43:46 AM

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I have seen more males that are into that debasement type of profile. But.. that could be because I rarely view profiles, I mostly go by what I see here in forums. Like someone said above they may be doing that to fit what they think a dominant would want.. once again porn leaves its mark on society. I guess it is much like the OP using capitals for Female. People do what they think might attract.

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