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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 9:53:32 PM   
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Uh, thanks for the enlightening words lady. Now go insert your head into something grinding.


Enhance your calm, young grasshopper. 

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:01:32 PM   
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You're late, sensei.

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:05:23 PM   
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Enhance your calm, young grasshopper.

"Demolition Man" meets "Kung Fu"?



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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:08:02 PM   
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Oh Geez!  Come on...can't we just all get along?  It's a message board for Crimany...




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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:11:40 PM   
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Was that to me CNJ? 

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:13:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL:  Kyoki
You're late, sensei.


Story of my life

For what its worth, you did come across as slightly jerky to those offering you some insight.  You say you are here to learn how to be a better submissive, which is admirable.  One thing that might serve you well, would be to learn how to accept criticism you disagree with in a respectful manner.  For instance, it never hurts to say, "thank you for your insight, I'm not sure that I agree with you, but it gives me food for thought."  Or some variation of that theme.  Courtesy is an admirable trait n a submissive, obstinance not so much.

Feel free to tell me to fuck off.  I already know my response if you do.

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:15:40 PM   
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Enhance your calm, young grasshopper.

"Demolition Man" meets "Kung Fu"?




Our young grasshopper is probably too young to have caught my bastardized references!

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:17:26 PM   
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It just gave me a weird visual of Sly Stallone, bald and wrapped in a sheet.... 

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:19:39 PM   
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Was that to me CNJ? 


Not in the least WyldHrt!   It was for the current thread content (excluding you actually...but I can't seem to embed a picture on a quick reply...and felt this one was appropriate seeing as how it's so late over this way.)  BTW, I really love those toys you made...let's talk about those somewhere!

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:23:14 PM   
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It just gave me a weird visual of Sly Stallone, bald and wrapped in a sheet.... 


I sure wouldn't mind seeing Sly Stallone (bald or otherwise) wrapped in MY sheets! 

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:23:37 PM   
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It just gave me a weird visual of Sly Stallone, bald and wrapped in a sheet.... 


There is that new movie out with Travolta bald...strange to say the least to go from one of his first movies where he was so fixated with his hair, to this one. 


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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:24:16 PM   
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It's really more of how they go about telling me that makes me seem so jerky. (Not the meat product)

... Jerkyjerkyjerky. <3

Anyway, that's all that got to me really.

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/28/2010 10:58:21 PM   
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Enhance your calm, young grasshopper.

"Demolition Man" meets "Kung Fu"?



go and get the movie "deathrace 2000" and you can see carradine and stallone get in a fistfight-  with carradine wearing a pvcish body suit!

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 1:41:41 AM   
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I'm not sure what to think about your first paragraph. I notice that a lot of people on this board are very elitist, and a lot actually target people who are younger to flame. So, what? I shouldn't be taken seriously because I'm 21? Call me immature if you want, but fuck that. If anyone judges me by my age, then they aren't worth my time.

I'll be the first to admit I'm inexperienced, I'll gladly admit that. Age is no excuse for immaturity for me, or anyone else. I'm not immature, I'm not meek, and I'm not stupid. I am in no rush to become older, nor experienced. I'll gladly take any experience anyone is willing to share with me, but there's no rush. Who said there was?

My profile is very to the point, and highlights upon my personality. My journal entries are rantings and what not. I really don't see the problem. Some of the people in here should pop a midol. I honestly wonder if people go in here just to flame sometimes.
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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: Kyoki

I could say the EXACT same thing. I rarely get much on here, and I feel like I'm looked down upon for being younger, and inexperienced. Then again, I'm a sub. (I switch though) It seems like the only ones who take an interest in me is the money grubbing ones.

I'm intelligent, when I message people I NEVER use one-liners either. Sooo... yeah. What.


Hmm. Your journal entry from 7/7/09. "Pop a midol, ya old bats." About halfway through your journal entries it became clear that you probably should delete all the grumpy/whiney ones. And then I got to that quoted bit. How frequently do you read the boards? Are you really confused as to why you don't get more interest when you've got crap like that in your journals?

You probably are looked down on as younger and inexperienced. There's not much you can do about that. You can't really rush getting older and more experienced. Don't get bitter about it, just accept it. Be honest and positive about who you are so that when you're given a quick once over by someone open to dealing with your youth/inexperience you will come across as someone who is open to growing, not as a person suffering from a cranky and impatient sense of entitlement. Not to suggest that yours is the worst journal I've seen in this regard. But you really are focusing too much on the negative.




I'm sorry, but I'm 21 too and I thought exactly the same thing Lucienne did when I read your profile. Your profile is an ad for you on a dating site. If it 'highlights your personality' as you say, then at the moment all that is coming across is that you like to whine.

That's unattractive-imagine if you tried to hit on someone in a bar by complaining constantly about how awful everyone else in the entire building was and how much they all hate you because of this and that and how terrible it is that you can't get laid and how it's all everyone else's fault...

This is not a flame. This is me stating a fact-if you wrote to me out of the blue I would ignore the message. Not because you are young. Not because you are inexperienced. Because the negativity in your profile in no way gives the impression that you are someone I would want to know.

I would also point out that I am your age and I've never once been flamed here because of it-the main attitude I've come across is that people are glad for me because I've found collarme so young, so I can use it as a resource to help me work things out. I'm thinking it's not really your age that is the problem here.

Nice cat though.


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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 1:49:58 AM   
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I would also point out that I am your age and I've never once been flamed here because of it-the main attitude I've come across is that people are glad for me because I've found collarme so young

Not me...
I'm glad you found collarme because your posts make a lot of sense, and I enjoy reading them very much; whether I agree with you or not.

oh, and that other glad thing, too



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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 1:55:09 AM   
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I would also point out that I am your age and I've never once been flamed here because of it-the main attitude I've come across is that people are glad for me because I've found collarme so young

Not me...
I'm glad you found collarme because your posts make a lot of sense, and I enjoy reading them very much; whether I agree with you or not.

oh, and that other glad thing, too




Aaaw, thankyou! I've gone all blushy and happy now


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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 1:58:27 AM   
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Aaaw, thankyou! I've gone all blushy and happy now





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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 5:06:10 AM   
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I would also point out that I am your age and I've never once been flamed here because of it-the main attitude I've come across is that people are glad for me because I've found collarme so young

Not me...
I'm glad you found collarme because your posts make a lot of sense, and I enjoy reading them very much; whether I agree with you or not.

oh, and that other glad thing, too




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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 10:00:01 AM   
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Kyoki -

Regarding your authentic self - to the extent that your profile and journal entries come across as whiney, they do appear to be the whinings (new word?) of a clever and funny guy. I can peal back the layers and see that you're not an asshole. But your average reader isn't going to be putting that much effort into analyzing your profile. Stuff like "take a midol," is problematic for a few reasons. First, the average female really fucking hates it when she's dismissed as a jumble of hormones, which is what the midol line does. Second, you were responding to the forum. Many people  never read the forums. So they're not going to get the context in which you made the remark. They just see you insulting women.  And speaking of context, you would be wise to remember the context in which your profile appears. There is a sea of men who have journal entries bitching about the same things you are bitching about. And no one is handing out prizes for best written bitch, so your sharp outlook is wasted on those subjects. Because all you're doing is throwing yourself in the pile with "that guy." Your authentic self does not appear to be "that guy," so stop taking style tips from him.

As for my advice being unsolicited, I thought you were asking for feedback when you posted in a "wtf am I doing wrong?" thread with "I could say the same thing!" If that was not your intention, I apologize if my comments came/come across as intrusive.

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RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o - 1/29/2010 3:15:32 PM   
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DarkRomancer is the originator of this thread. He seems to have disappeared...along with the theme of his thread! LOL!

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