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Lucienne -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 10:15:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki I could say the EXACT same thing. I rarely get much on here, and I feel like I'm looked down upon for being younger, and inexperienced. Then again, I'm a sub. (I switch though) It seems like the only ones who take an interest in me is the money grubbing ones. I'm intelligent, when I message people I NEVER use one-liners either. Sooo... yeah. What. Hmm. Your journal entry from 7/7/09. "Pop a midol, ya old bats." About halfway through your journal entries it became clear that you probably should delete all the grumpy/whiney ones. And then I got to that quoted bit. How frequently do you read the boards? Are you really confused as to why you don't get more interest when you've got crap like that in your journals? You probably are looked down on as younger and inexperienced. There's not much you can do about that. You can't really rush getting older and more experienced. Don't get bitter about it, just accept it. Be honest and positive about who you are so that when you're given a quick once over by someone open to dealing with your youth/inexperience you will come across as someone who is open to growing, not as a person suffering from a cranky and impatient sense of entitlement. Not to suggest that yours is the worst journal I've seen in this regard. But you really are focusing too much on the negative.

thetammyjo -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 10:24:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer Hrm, yeah that's kind of what I was thinking. I kind of came here with the intention of finding people that could help get me experience though. It makes it kind of difficult when you look at it from that point of view, like how nobody will hire someone for a job if they have no experience, but they can't get experience without getting a job... Ya know, that whole argument. Well, I guess I'll just have to keep at it. Thanks for your advice. :3 Don't look online for this beyond looking up information about groups. If you are on the border between two states, join the kinky email lists for both states. A lot of states have these sorts of lists. Then start attending events.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 10:32:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkRomancer However since joining Collarme, I've had a total of one person respond to my messages. Just one, and that's because we struck up a conversation about mmorpgs. Listen to your life, because it is trying to tell you something important. You will dramatically increase your email response rate if you ask women about vanilla things that interest both of you. Ignore her scantily-clad photo, and ignore her drool-inducing interests list. Don't mention sex at all in your first email. Not even "You're hot." Does she sing? Ask her what her favorite song is, or tell her yours, and ask if she knows how to sing it.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 5:59:09 PM)
I'm not sure what to think about your first paragraph. I notice that a lot of people on this board are very elitist, and a lot actually target people who are younger to flame. So, what? I shouldn't be taken seriously because I'm 21? Call me immature if you want, but fuck that. If anyone judges me by my age, then they aren't worth my time. I'll be the first to admit I'm inexperienced, I'll gladly admit that. Age is no excuse for immaturity for me, or anyone else. I'm not immature, I'm not meek, and I'm not stupid. I am in no rush to become older, nor experienced. I'll gladly take any experience anyone is willing to share with me, but there's no rush. Who said there was? My profile is very to the point, and highlights upon my personality. My journal entries are rantings and what not. I really don't see the problem. Some of the people in here should pop a midol. I honestly wonder if people go in here just to flame sometimes. quote: ORIGINAL: Lucienne quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki I could say the EXACT same thing. I rarely get much on here, and I feel like I'm looked down upon for being younger, and inexperienced. Then again, I'm a sub. (I switch though) It seems like the only ones who take an interest in me is the money grubbing ones. I'm intelligent, when I message people I NEVER use one-liners either. Sooo... yeah. What. Hmm. Your journal entry from 7/7/09. "Pop a midol, ya old bats." About halfway through your journal entries it became clear that you probably should delete all the grumpy/whiney ones. And then I got to that quoted bit. How frequently do you read the boards? Are you really confused as to why you don't get more interest when you've got crap like that in your journals? You probably are looked down on as younger and inexperienced. There's not much you can do about that. You can't really rush getting older and more experienced. Don't get bitter about it, just accept it. Be honest and positive about who you are so that when you're given a quick once over by someone open to dealing with your youth/inexperience you will come across as someone who is open to growing, not as a person suffering from a cranky and impatient sense of entitlement. Not to suggest that yours is the worst journal I've seen in this regard. But you really are focusing too much on the negative.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:30:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki My profile is very to the point, and highlights upon my personality. My journal entries are rantings and what not. I really don't see the problem. Some of the people in here should pop a midol. I honestly wonder if people go in here just to flame sometimes. Lucienne was trying to help you get laid. She's nice like that... and you appear incapable of recognizing good advice. You will continue to strike out until you become tired of losing.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:34:14 PM)
Not to toot my own horn here, but my main concern on this site is not to get laid. It's to learn.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:39:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki I could say the EXACT same thing. I rarely get much on here, and I feel like I'm looked down upon for being younger, and inexperienced. Then again, I'm a sub. (I switch though) It seems like the only ones who take an interest in me is the money grubbing ones. I'm intelligent, when I message people I NEVER use one-liners either. Sooo... yeah. What. You meant by this post that you get about a 75% response rate to the emails you send out? And you are trying to learn how to get it up to 90%? Because I thought you meant that you almost never got responses to your emails. If you want to learn, for real, then pay attention to what Lucienne said. She is correct. Your attitude -- not your age -- is discouraging women from writing you back.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:47:09 PM)
You act as if I talk to every person I message like I'm jaded or something.

Jeffff -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:49:46 PM)
I am jaded.. I wanted to be diamonded... or perhaps rubyed.... I couldn't afford it... I had to settle Jeff

LadyAngelika -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:51:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I am jaded.. I wanted to be diamonded... or perhaps rubyed.... I couldn't afford it... I had to settle Jeff I can ruby you Jefff... ruby red!! ;-) - LA

RedMagic1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:52:09 PM)
Profile snotty. Whiny post that I quoted. Middle-school-level response to Lucienne. I can't read your emails, but the things you make public don't exactly paint a "wow I want to talk with that guy" picture. There are plenty of people younger than you who are capable of sounding like adults. Most adult women are looking to have adult conversations. Your decision if you will provide that for them.

sexyred1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:55:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki Not to toot my own horn here, but my main concern on this site is not to get laid. It's to learn. If that is true, that would be good and it would be doubly good to listen. There are some cool people here who have good advice, like RedMagic. There are lots of women here who have good advice. Saying, pop a midol, not so good. My advice? Beware of the anteater, he will steer you wrong. :)

Jeffff -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:55:24 PM)
I appreciate the offer............. really... but... no....:) Jeffwey

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:56:29 PM)
My profile is snotty? I didn't think so. That's okay though. I love how you highlight on my conversation with you, and Luc as "middle-school-level" when you're the one who continues to argue with me. Please, if you do consider this "middle-school" then don't bother with me.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:58:42 PM)
Well, this one certainly has a rude way of going about his "advice" you know. My response to Luc was not intended to seem rude, or offensive. All I am is skeptical.

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 6:59:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP OP, about the constant spacing out. That's nonhyperactive ADD. If it happens even when you are interested in what you're doing, then go get help. If it's causing you to fail in school or lose jobs, go get help. If it causes you to lose friends, go get help. Honestly, a 10 or 20 mg extended release Adderal taken every morning will solve the problem allowing you to get things done much more efficiently. There is more than one medical reason why this could occur. For some, they may have epilepsy and are currently on medication. Yet they still experience 'mini-mal seizures' and space out. I'm sure there are countless other reasons as well. Talk to a doctor or a neurologist if 'spacing-out' is affecting you in a negative manner.

Jeffff -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 7:01:22 PM)
Kyoki.... dude.... Listen to the Anteater. People who get mocked and slapped here are those that bring a bad attitude. I looks to me like you have received some decent counsel here. I am glad you can get laid, that's always nice. If what you really want is more. set your ego aside. Read what has been typed to you. Let it roll around in your head. See if any of it fits. No one here is better than anyone else ( no I don't REALLY believe that, but go with me). Many folks here have just seen more than you. Use that to your advantage. Jeff

RedMagic1 -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 7:04:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kyoki I love how you highlight on my conversation with you, and Luc as "middle-school-level" when you're the one who continues to argue with me. Please, if you do consider this "middle-school" then don't bother with me. We're not arguing. I took your statement that you wanted to learn as the truth. I have a better-than-90% response rate to emails I send out. In May of 2007, I was averaging about 16% responses. I made an analysis of how to improve my results, and I've met a lot of people in real life from this site, from Alt, and from other sites. I've learned a lot, from each of them. I have a skill that you claim you want. I get responses when I send out emails. There is nothing magical about me. The only thing different between me and you in this matter is that I realized that 16% was not good, and it meant I was doing something horribly wrong. So I changed things, and created new habits in myself. However, you appear to like your no-results personality more than you do the idea of a get-results future personality. If that is true, it means what you post is not trustworthy, because even though you said you wanted to learn, the reality is that you don't.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 7:18:32 PM)
Okay, what? I would have listened to Jeff at first, but then I saw this post, Red. I'll not ever change my personality just to get more responses. If you care so little about yourself that you'll change something about yourself just to get laid, then you go right ahead. I've been convinced from a more constructive, and less offensive response to this situation. I will revise my journal, and tweak my profile. I will not change my personality just so I can get tail or experience under rope. If you have such little regard for yourself, good for you. Not me. I don't care if I get 0% of responses if that's what it would take.

Kyoki -> RE: Wtf am I doing wrong? o.o (1/28/2010 7:19:54 PM)
Also, I think we misunderstand. I'm not here to learn how to get others attention. I'm here to become a better sub, and perhaps a better dom.

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