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Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 10:11:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		before and or after you are punished or are you just punished and that's it?
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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 10:26:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		No. We don't do rituals. I'm punished, we talk about it and we go back to doing whatever we were doing.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 10:27:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		he cuddles me after punishing me, and we talk about it and how to make things better so I dont mess up in the future.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 10:34:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am rarely punished as I try and follow the rules as I know the punishment..but if you are talking after discipline...it depends...this past weekend on Saturday he fed me blindfolded really good cooked sausage pieces from a great Italian deli called Guillano's we used the following day for homemade pizza we were making....poor me!

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 10:58:11 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		No.  Only time I was punished was nearly 4 years ago so we haven't had anything to build a ritual upon.  

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/25/2010 11:06:26 PM   
Exploratorynfun


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Status: offline 		No rituals here. I am punished in position and then after he cuddles me and we talk about things and move on.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 2:05:42 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		Well, he usually says * Righto, I'd better take you upstairs and beat the crap out of you, bring my coffee up with you*. I suppose that's a ritual.....lol

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 4:06:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Neither rituals nor a punishment dynamic here. We talk things out and we hug a lot to reconnect when something's come between us.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 8:26:29 AM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		thankfully it doesn't happen often enough for there to be a ritual, but I guess as others said, lots of cuddling lovey time afterward, and it's completely put to rest, I'm not even allowed to bring it up again.  

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 10:25:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		The one and only time i was punished he cuddled me, dried my tears and we moved on.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 11:00:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

before and or after you are punished or are you just punished and that's it?


Why this obsession with punishment?

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 11:14:05 AM   
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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 1:43:29 PM   
AnimusRex


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ORIGINAL: Aylee
Why this obsession with punishment?


My feelings also; and FWIW, if punishment is so frequent as to develop ritual, I think some other factor is at play.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 1:47:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why would I want to keep a person around who needs to be punished so often as to develop a ritual?

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 3:21:42 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm punished, we talk about it, he comforts me and we move on with our lives. All is absolved and life goes back to the way it was but yet always in my mind of the transgression so that I don't commit it again.

I don't think it's really a ritual though..just something that transcends between us when punishment happens.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 4:44:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I recieve punishments, but then again, this is also pretty much the first time I have served a man, and we are just learning eachother. What I have recieved punishments for were not things I did specifically to Him, but to myself. I have had a hard time eating enough. For example, when I showed up at His house at 7pm and hadnt eaten anything at all that day, I was punished, and I fully deserved it. I hadnt gone out my way to disobey Him, but at the same time, I didnt go out of my way to please Him. After my punishment (15 swats on the ass with a yardstick, and 5 minutes in a stress position) He cuddled me and we talked about the effects of my not eating had on my body. After that, all was well, we moved on and enjoyed our time together.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 5:28:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		i'm not for complicated rituals

i like to have her do simple things to remind herself of what her status when away from me, usually it becomes something she enjoys from a purely emotional level

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 6:16:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been punished only once, and I deserved it.

If it became often enough to involve having a ritual before and/or after, than I would be far too disobedient for him to want to keep around. I also would be feeling guilty way too much to be able to function in a relationship.

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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 6:18:37 PM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: whiteslavebitch

I have been punished only once, and I deserved it.

If it became often enough to involve having a ritual before and/or after, than I would be far too disobedient for him to want to keep around. I also would be feeling guilty way too much to be able to function in a relationship.


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RE: Do you have a ritual that is done - 1/26/2010 7:18:25 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		He hasn't punished me.  If there's a problem, we fix it.  I suppose if I blatantly and intentionally disobeyed that might be a different story, but I have no plans to do that. 

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